For many women, marriage is like a mirror, before marriage, they will always dream of the other half is the omnipotent, invincible Prince Charming. You only need to hide under the eaves of the other party to protect yourself from the wind and rain, and you can live a peaceful life and live a quiet life.
As everyone knows, after years and months, after the baptism of marriage life of chai rice oil and salt, most people will find that the omnipotent Prince Charming will only appear in fairy tales, and although the "husband" in real life will not cheat and steal food, the scumbag will be exposed. However, he always disappeared in front of the family and had children in the posture of shaking his hands and treasurer.
Therefore, in the face of those "disappearing husbands", the little women can only hold on and sigh that "men can be relied upon, pigs will go up trees".
It is said that in the "Daily Mother's Voice" broadcast a few days ago, a TVB female star who has been retired for a long time suddenly made a surprise appearance. Sharing the "widowed motherhood" she has encountered in the past few years, it turns out that this TVB female star married an off-screen businessman husband after quitting wireless.
Because the husband has to stay in the mainland for many years to do business, the couple has been getting together for ten years. Before the epidemic, my husband would still go back to his home once a week. However, in the past year, the trip has been delayed by the epidemic, and the husband will have to return to Hong Kong for several months to reunite with his family.
In the absence of her husband, the female star usually can only take her daughter alone. Taking care of her living and eating with one hand and one foot, everyone imagines how lonely and helpless this family has been in a deformed state of "where did Daddy go" for a long time, leaving only mother and daughter to rely on each other.
What is even more helpless is that the female star is a full-time mother with no income, and she also has to regularly find her husband for living expenses. Once her husband forgot to transfer money to her, she saw that she and her daughter had no money to use, and quickly called her husband in the mainland, but it turned out that she couldn't get through.
In the face of her husband's unexplained disappearance, she began to make up for the other party's accident. Or spend the day outside drinking and hiding in the golden house, so in all kinds of wild thoughts and worries, she can only call her husband's colleagues to understand the situation.
In the end, it was the colleague who found the locksmith and pried open the door of her husband's residence to find the other party. It is said that when colleagues found her husband, the scene was quite unexpected, because at that time, the house was in a mess. The owner of the house was lying on all fours and sleeping, and it took a lot of effort for the colleague to wake up the other party to understand the situation.
It turned out that the cause and effect of the whole thing was that the husband of the female star had finished socializing with customers, and after getting drunk, he took a few sleeping pills and planned to sleep well. As a result, this sleep entered a "coma" state, which directly led to the loss of contact with his wife.
Although this time the disappearance caused people to turn over and panic, the female star seemed to have long been accustomed to it. Even lightly confessed: "My husband and I have been married for 9 years, the most important thing to maintain marriage is a "forbearance" word, and now I am separated from two places, but I cherish each other more, and even the number of quarrels has been greatly reduced~
I heard the female star use a tone of no concern and no concern to tell her own relationship with her husband but estranged. I suddenly felt a pang of sadness and suddenness: "When should the relationship between husband and wife, which should be like glue, have to be painstakingly maintained by enduring a period of calm and calm?" Is this a true portrayal of middle-aged marriage? ”
Yes, this is both a true portrayal and a typical representation, all because looking back at the acting career and married life of female stars, although her sense of existence in the workplace is low, and she seems to be lackluster on the road to marriage. But such a small person and little girl can best reflect the silent majority of our real life.
Come, first to reveal the identity of female stars, I believe that after reading the previous article, most of them watched TVB grow up in Guangzhou. Everyone will pat their heads and suddenly realize: "Oh, I remember her, she once played a lot of heroine girlfriends, treacherous and cunning women, as well as concubine A, Fujin B and so on, her name seems to be Yao Leyi." ”
Yes, Yao Yi, the little girl, is equivalent to a rather inconspicuous drop in the sea of stars in TVB's long historical galaxy. It is said that her most recognizable identity is not what roles and works she has filmed, but that she and She Shiman are good girlfriends when they know each other, and they are also one of the famous sisters of TVB Tao" "Seven Witches".
Speaking of the small group of the Seven Witches, I believe that everyone will not be unfamiliar, they are led by She Shiman and Liang Jingqi, with Zhou Jiawei, Tang Yingying, Wen Songxian as the main force, and finally the two most obscure Zhong Liqi and Yao Leyi.
Although these seven sisters know each other in a small way, they also start from the same starting point in wireless. However, because their life experiences are very different, they also deduce their own wonderful stories, and even their own dog blood.
Among them, everyone is very familiar with the life of a big heroine who has opened up and down, ups and downs.
And Liang Jingqi, as the daughter of the gold medal producer Liang Jiashu, even if she won at the starting line, she also fell in popularity, all because she once caused a scandal with Wu Zhuoxi's mandarin duck as a married woman, and as a result, she went around and experienced two marriages.
As for Zhou Jiawei, Wen Songxian and Tang Yingying, on the surface, their families are happy and their marriages are proud, but some people are cheated on by their husbands, and some people's husbands are posted with big characters to collect debts. In the end, only Tang Yingying was left to live a small life without waves and taste.
However, compared with the stories of the above sisters, most of them are windy and fiery, with twists and turns. Zhong Liqi and Yao Leyi have no sense of existence and a little sadness, of which there is no sense of existence because the two have been suppressed by She Shiman, Guo Keying and Hu Xing'er for a long time in the TVB era, and can only be forced by the helplessness of the untimely, and have long been floating and heavy in the position of the third and fourth-line supporting actresses.
As for the small sadness that comes with them, it is because after they left TVB, their lives did not have much to turn for the better. Instead, she fell into a mid-life crisis, in which Zhong Liqi gave birth to a daughter with a congenital serious disease and embarked on a parenting path that was a hundred times more difficult than others.
Compared with the good sister Zhong Liqi being tortured by the creation of people, Yao Leyi's marriage began in a romantic fairy tale and was widowed and raised. Yes, although Yao Leyi is not particularly eye-catching in the beautiful TV city, she also once had the days of "otaku goddess".
Because Yao Leyi joined TVB in 1998, she formed an "airwave girl" with Liang Xuemei, Wang Lin, Ren Gangxiu and others that year. As soon as he debuted, he was proud of his 34C figure and was pushed to the "God" seat.
It is precisely because he is called "God" as soon as he debuts, so Yao Leyi in those years was still an arrogant little pepper. She also revealed in her early interviews that she had tried to be taken advantage of by her elders when filming the drama, and she did not swallow her grievances in the face of these salty pig hands in the workplace. Instead, he couldn't help but shout loudly to the other party, "Are you helping me check my body", and it was this sentence that made the other party retreat.
From the brave counterattack of the salty pig hand, it can be seen that the former Yao Leyi is also a proud little princess. Since she has a princess heart, she naturally has a princess dream, and she always has fairytale fantasies about love and princes. So in 12 years, Yao Leyi, an arrogant little princess, finally met the Prince Charming she thought was perfect, that is, Wu Junkuang, a businessman outside the circle.
Since he got Prince Charming, it was like getting the whole world in Yao Leyi's heart. So she immediately gave up her mediocre acting career after marrying Wu Junkuang and switched to nine-to-five public relations work.
However, Yao Leyi's public relations work did not last long, because she gave birth to her daughter Wu Qianqian soon after marriage, and it was difficult to balance her career and family at first. Therefore, in order to single-mindedly accompany her daughter to grow up, she simply quit the workplace and became a full-time mother.
Although there is no longer a need to squeeze the bus and subway to work, and there is no need to work for 996 007 hours, the job of a stay-at-home mother is not easy at all. In particular, Yao Leyi's husband has been working in the mainland for many years, and the family does not have the economic conditions to hire nannies and maids. Therefore, Yao Leyi is both a father and a mother in her daily life, and she also has to wash clothes and cook rice, and she is proficient in everything.
Just some time ago, the reporter also photographed Yao Leyi, personally accompanying her daughter to a children's workshop to do handicrafts. Only to see that day, Yao Leyi first accompanied her daughter to paint, and then took her to learn the whole cookie, and also guided her daughter to do it, while serving as a photographer to help her daughter take photos and shoot videos.
When it was difficult to finish the handiwork and leave, Yao Leyi became a "superhuman mother". Dragging her daughter in one hand, holding her daughter's finished products in the other, and finally working part-time to drive her daughter home, it is really a decathlon and omnipotent.
And seeing Yao Leyi's wind and fire, the secret film of traveling with women, I suddenly remembered that there was a popular time on the Internet about the value of the work of full-time mothers, that is, a full-time mother invisibly took into account the work of four positions such as childcare nanny, house maid, pick-up driver and tutor. If you convert it according to the market price, the salary of these four jobs is at least 20,000 yuan per month.
Yet despite the value of such labor, stay-at-home moms are the least recognized group of people because they don't have an income. Every month, we have to wait regularly, and ask her husband for money with the palm of your hand, so it is not difficult for us to understand why there is a scene at the beginning of the article, Le Yi is looking for her husband to live when her husband suddenly disappears for no reason.
It's just that people feel strange from Yao Leyi talking about the "lost husband", and that indifferent tone can be seen that she is not a nagging woman. I don't have any emotions for my husband in my heart, since I don't come to complain, then why would Yao Leyi suddenly mention the old thing again.
In fact, the reason is very simple, she wants to return to TVB and start a second spring in her career. Yes, everyone knows that today's TVB is Zeng Zhiwei's new official taking office and the old minister in charge. And Viagra is also a person who misses the past, perhaps for the purpose of hype, or perhaps out of the kindness of supporting the old people.
Anyway, after Viagra took office, he began to vigorously rediscover the old generals of the previous TVB. And Yao Leyi belongs to one of the target groups of this big plan to return to the nest, so in order to start a war to return to the nest. She always had to dedicate a little topic and gimmicks to create a momentum, so the "husband lost contact" revelation came into being.
At this point in the story, perhaps everyone will have some worries about the vast road ahead after Yao Leyi's comeback: "Youth is gone, she is more than forty years old and almost fifty years old, no longer young and young, can she adapt to the high-intensity work of TV City, even if she can adapt, will she fall into a psychological gap that her boss is smaller than herself?" ”
For these concerns, I can only say that the intensity of work will definitely be high, and the psychological gap will also exist. But the one who should overcome it always has to be overcome, and yes, the most important practice of a person in middle age is to accept reality. Because with the gradual formation of the territory of life, many middle-aged people will find that those who were once invincible and the idea of Jedi access to heaven will eventually be just a distant dream.
It's like some people aspire to become industry leaders, but in the end they are delayed in their own sloppy personality and chai rice oil and salt. Some people think they are married to the best man in the world, but in the end they find that the other half has many shortcomings and is difficult to trust. Some people intend to cultivate their children to become the talents of tomorrow, but in the end they find that the children's qualifications are mediocre and not good. Therefore, accepting their own ordinariness, the mediocrity of the other half, and the ordinaryness of children has become a subject that every middle-aged person must go through.
Only by accepting reality can we get rid of the useless resentment in life, can we avoid excessive expectations of others, can we make ourselves have a deeper introspection, and can we change the shortcomings of our youth that are indispensable and arrogant. Only in this way can we overcome the psychological gap of re-entering the workplace and self-esteem, and can we be ready to go and shine again.
With the mentality of accepting reality and the courage to overcome the gap, let alone be in your forties, even if you are fifty, sixty, and seventy years old, it is not too late to re-emerge from the jianghu. So at the end of the story, I only hope that every stay-at-home mother who plans to resume her career can find a calm mentality and the courage to fight again like Yao Leyi.