"Like Father Like Son" tells the story of a remarried nurse who maliciously swapped the newborn child of Nono and Saiki, causing the two families to face a difficult choice in their lives (whether to change back to their own blood relatives' children) after 6 years.
I have seen many similar movies, usually only to shoot two families to exchange children or decide not to change children and end.
The film, on the other hand, is unconventional, focusing on the story of what happened after the child was replaced. The ending, like the film directed by Hirokazu Kore-eda, ends in a bland reunion ending.
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The director is Kore-eda who cleverly chose such a sadistic and rather peculiar subject, allowing the child he had raised for five or six years to break off relations with himself and exchange for a child who had "blood is thicker than water" but did not have any feelings.
At first, I thought that no matter how this story was told, there would be no less sensational elements. But unexpectedly, the whole drama is very restrained in using these sensational elements, and it feels more like it is telling a story that wants to cry without tears with a calm and unhurried picture...
At the beginning of the play, the father of the play and his wife Lu accompanied their son Qingduo to participate in the primary school interview, and Liangduo's meticulous image exposed his concept of parenting - high requirements for himself and high requirements for those around him.
Such strict requirements for his children a lot, so that his son Qingduo too early "sensible". The price is neglecting to let the child feel the love of the father.
Finally, the plot took a turn for the worse, and the hospital informed the many families that the child was holding the wrong one. And arrange for the two families to meet and negotiate to deal with the problem.
In the face of such a "strange" thing, many entangled for a long time decided to use money to solve things. Raise one more son yourself, so you don't have to worry about whether to change back to the child.
This kind of plot arrangement makes me feel in my heart that a big war between two family members is inevitable, but in fact, the play is handled quite plainly. (Quite a few told the Saiki family about it directly.) The Saiki family also refused this request without hesitation. ）
If you have money, you must be able to give your child a full sense of happiness, and it must be the life that your child wants? In China, maybe that's the case. In China in the 1990s, due to the strict implementation of family planning, most families who had daughters would choose to send their daughters out for others to raise.
In recent years, due to various reasons such as improved family living conditions or children's schooling, it is not uncommon to return or recognize children.
However, in Japan, Kore-eda gave a different answer to this question.
He uses the camera to vividly express the happiness of the Saiki family and the dullness of the Nono family. This fact tells us that money is not omnipotent, and that children actually want love from the family.
In the play, under the persuasion of the hospital, his father and the people around him, Many finally chose "blood" unsurprisingly because of the relationship between the original family.
However, the lot of life after the change of son is not as good as he thinks (when he is with his own child, he has not been able to integrate into the child's life).
Just as Osamu Dazai describes his father as he loses his human life (in my mind, it is the typical Japanese father, serious and absolutely authoritative), the fathers in the play also coincide with this image.
On the first day of the child's return, Liangduo told Ryu-ching, "In the future, you will call me and Green Mother" Ryu-ching has been asking "why". Seeing this, I took a deep breath, afraid that many people would lose their temper and scare the children. Fortunately, Many did not be as rude as I thought and chose to be inclusive.
Later, as she spent time with Ryuharu every day, Ryodo also tried to give more attention to this new child. It was only then that he realized that feelings could not be replaced by anything.
In this way, the family of three with the right relationship spent a seemingly happy night. The next day, a lot of inadvertent actions changed his mind...
Awakened in his sleep, he flipped through the photos in the camera one by one and found that Gyeongta had been silently paying attention to him. A child who is not good at words has long been secretly recording his every move. It was at this moment that he was as enlightened as Daigo, shed tears of emotion, and finally was relieved, choosing to raise Qingduo, who had "feelings" with himself.
This scene reminds me of Shakespeare's line" that "we love our parents almost unconsciously, because this love is as natural as human life, and only in the final moment of separation can we see how deeply rooted this feeling is." ”
Friends, trust me! Your child must love you, even if you just live together without blood relations; even if he never said or shown too obviously any love for you; even if you are cold to him...
The affection that blood is thicker than water is indeed difficult to give up, but sometimes it is really like the stepmother who said, "Even if two people are not related by blood, as long as they live together, they will have feelings, and they will become more and more like each other, and husband and wife are such a kind of existence." ”
In this way, Ryodo returns Ryuharu and tells Gyeongdo that "the mission is over"...
Throughout the play, in this change, many people realized the impact of family companionship on their children, and under the role of Saiki's benchmark, they learned how to be a father step by step.
In fact, the process of educating children is a process of self-redemption. The whole play makes a point: it's not that we teach our children anything, but that children teach us what kind of person we are.
As reflected in the play, family education is really a very important factor in the growth of children. In a family, the company of the father is what many children are eager for but most likely unable to get.
Under the influence of China's concept of "male outside the female lead", most of the couples after marriage and children choose to become housewives with children, while the father is responsible for making money to support the family.
If the man does not have a stable job, most of them will choose to leave their hometown to work. You can imagine how much their children crave their father's company.
This is the case when the father is not around, but just like many people in the play, there are not a few fathers. Although I usually go home, I basically don't play with my children much, I am always busy with my own affairs, and I blindly impose my own ideas on my children.
Of course, the parents' wish to "hope that the child will become a dragon and the daughter will become a phoenix" is understandable, but in the wrong way, this meaning changes.
The biggest inspiration this drama gives us is "good family education, starting from the company of the father".
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In the play, Saiki kindly puts forward his opinion on the behavior of many people who are busy with work but do not have time to accompany their children. But many responded with contempt that "I have irreplaceable work to do." It was at this moment that Saiki stopped smiling and giggling, but said to him in a straight face, "What are you talking about, to the child is to spend time, and the father is a job that no one can replace." ”
At this moment, I understand that the blood connection cannot maintain good family affection, and family affection needs to be accompanied and communicated. Therefore, he began to try to put down his work to accompany Liu Qing, and learned to complete "his father's irreplaceable job" that others could not replace.
Sure enough, Ryuharu also became happy in playing and communicating with him, and began to call him Daddy...
A handmade branch folded in a sofa, a broken robot that can be repaired, a piano song that children are not good at but practice hard, a piece of the beauty of a father taking his children to fly a kite
Good times...
These things may be insignificant things for adults who are busy with their livelihood and indifferent and numb after joining the society, but in the eyes of the child, they occupy a large part of his childhood memories, and even have a very significant impact on the child's subsequent growth.
Dad's affirmation is greater than mom's affirmation.
In the play, my mother praised Qingduo's understanding and hard work many times, but these were far less than my father's praise. It can be seen that the proportion of fathers is definitely greater than that of mothers.
And there have been many cases that show that children who grow up in such a family have more confidence to face his life and face various problems encountered in life.
So, please praise your child, your humble move may bring him great confidence.
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In the play, Gyeongdo becomes docile and even a little cowardly under a lot of indifference. Many said that they would not let him call him, and they really did not call him.
However, Liu Qing, who was often with her father, simply sneaked back to the home where she had lived for six years. The bravery in the bones is generally visible.
In real life, the mother with the child to protect the sense of stronger than the father, the child often follow the mother will become a little cowardly, timid; but the father is different, the father will take the child to carry out exciting games, the child is accompanied by the father, but also more courageous to participate and explore.
Therefore, compared with other peers, the children brought out by the father are more adventurous.
Not only that, the father is still the child's gender coordinates, and can even lead the development of the child's emotional intelligence; the integration of sensibility and rationality in the father is the best key to opening the child's wisdom.
So, if it were you, would you choose to spend more time with your child or turn into a workaholic and give the child to your mother or grandparents to take?