Past recommendation: Culture 丨 Jin Yong teaches you to practice love skills: love winners do not play cards according to common sense (Part 1)
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【About the author】Lu Yi, a native of Jingzhou, Hubei Province, is a master's student in the Department of Journalism of Wuhan University, and studied at the University of Oslo in Norway. He has been engaged in journalist and editing work for many years, and has published millions of words of news, newsletters, essays and other works in newspapers and periodicals such as Jingzhou Daily, Hubei Today, and Learning Monthly, and participated in the compilation of books such as "Girls' Safety Treasure Book". Now hubei provincial-level public institutions are responsible for office copywriting.
【This article is published with the authorization of the author】
One of the unique skills: everyone is hot and I am cold
Human nature is a bit despicable, and we are always used not to caring about people who are good to us, but to caring about people who are not good to us. This is even more true in love, deep affection is used to disappoint, only thin affection will be repeatedly missed. Lin Pingzhi knew how to read the girl's mind, perhaps he was also unaccustomed to Yue Lingshan's arrogant appearance of her parents who were happy under their knees and loved by the stars of the division brothers, all the division brothers let her three points, but he did not let her.
"Lin Pingzhi's little boy is stubborn, he just doesn't listen to me, hee-hee, I scold him during the day, and when I'm asleep, I scold him." Yue Ling Sange smiled and said, "With his three-legged cat sword technique to ward off evil spirits, do you still want to fight back?" Ling Hu Chong knew that the little master sister was very strong and competitive, and it was expected that she and Lin Pingzhi would break the moves, this newly trained sword technique would naturally make it handy, and the moves would prevail, this person had low martial arts, and was indeed the best opponent.
However, Lin Pingzhi is not a person who sits and waits for the pie to fall from the sky, he not only seizes the opportunity, but also creates the opportunity. As soon as he entered the Door Wall of the Huashan Sect, according to the rules, all the brothers who were older than Ling Shan were brothers, but he was willing to be small and recognize the master sister, which was a very good move. Lin Pingzhi is not only low and small, but also more important than two things. First, recognition, not only men need to be respected and recognized, but girls also have this need. In the great Huashan Sect, everyone loved Yue Lingshan, and only Lin Pingzhi could worship her.
Yue Lingshan could not only drink lin pingzhi, but also because she was in charge of thousands of dollars, but indeed her skills were much higher. A person who is despised by anyone who competes with him, and suddenly meets a person who is better than himself, of course, it is like a treasure. In front of Ling Hu Chong, she could not beat the people with her sword, and in front of Lin Pingzhi, she killed all four parties. Lin Pingzhi said every day, "Sister Master, you are the most powerful person I have ever seen!" Ling Shan: "I like you who have never seen the world." In this way, Lin Pingzhi brought Yue Lingshan the complete opposite life experience of being pampered by the master brother, which stimulated her innate feminine tenderness and maternal care, and gradually occupied her heart.
Once the average woman meets her crush, whether it is everyone's bridesmaid or small family jasper, whether it is Miss Qianjin or the demon goddess, it is inevitable to fall into the cliché and lose herself, even if the talent is as talented as the Purple Xia Fairy will also say, my crush is a hero of the world, one day will ride the colorful clouds to marry me, and then do the little woman's ordinary vision and dreams. In order to get the heart of their loved ones, they are either delusional or resentful, as if they are arrogant and humble, just for a love word. Gongsun Lucai used his life to fulfill this obsession, Lu Wushuang had the laughter and play along the way, Cheng Ying wrote down with pins and feet, "Seeing the gentleman, Yun Hu does not like", Guo Xiang used "Tianya Sijun must not forget" in the legend of the jianghu and in the Emei sword method to carve her acacia... Unlike them, the little dragon girl is the most prosaic, and she will never change her values for anyone or anything. Yang Guo wants to learn from Guo Jing to become a hero and become famous in the world, she can sacrifice herself to be a mainstream good wife by taking Huang Rong as an example, in order to make her feelings recognized by the world and wronged her husband and wife. But although Xiaolongnü loves Yang Guo, she has never given up the concept of being born, and she will not deliberately do anything in order to make the world accept herself, she can love Yang Guo vigorously, or she can marry Gongsun Zhi who has no feelings because of gratitude. I am who I am, and whatever you want to do with me, my life is up to you.
Xiaolongnü's words did not coincide and ran away, and the ideas disappeared, making Yang suffer in the worried thoughts and the fear of loss. Thus, the most terrible thing in the world became: the aunt was gone. Most of the time in the whole novel, Yang Guo is obsessively thinking about the little dragon girl and looking for the little dragon girl bitterly. This also fulfills a truth: the easier it is to come, the less you know how to cherish. The harder you chase, the more you get fang sweet.
Other people's love is to be with you, and my love is only to fulfill your happiness. Little Dragon Girl's concept of love is very pure, and my love is to make the people I love happy, otherwise it will lose its meaning. This is completely different from most women's strong possessiveness towards men, although she also cares about whether Yang Guo loves herself, but she will never force Yang Guo to give up the pursuit of her own happiness.
She also experienced Yang Guo's vanity and pride in wanting to get ahead, and understood his admiration and admiration for Guo Jingguo Daxia, and she knew that Yang Guo could not do what she did, "this martial arts alliance lord who loves to do it", floating lightly without taking away a cloud of freedom. His pride, blood, and dreams are like an indelible flame, burning out the hope of Xiaolongnü and his seclusion in the ancient tomb, and also making Xiaolongnü recognize the irreconcilable differences in the values of the two. She was not willing to deliberately change Yang Guo, and she was even more unwilling to deliberately change herself, so she could only choose to leave again and again.
True love never needs to be deliberately done, and the love that is calculated with the heart is not real love. The reason why Xiaolongnü is different from other women is her principle of life and the philosophy of life that she never insists on. She never deliberately does anything to get love, nor does she sacrifice herself to protect love, her philosophy has always been to go with the flow and be at ease with the situation. I am blessed, but I am not allowed to die, and if the person I love is happy, I am happy. In "The Condor Heroes", we can't read boring jealousy, polyamorous relationships, the various contrivances of small women, and the fights between small wrongdoers, but we read the most unforgettable feelings from a faint woman with almost no joy and sorrow, from a faint and almost indisputable woman, to the most loyal love.
Killer: I'm reluctant
"I'm reluctant." It was the lord of Min Min County who said it, but the twisted melon is not sweet, depending on how you use it. Generally speaking, if a woman does not have Zhao Min's skill, it is difficult to force a man. So, will men be able to succeed with strength? That's not necessarily true, just look at Yin Zhiping, he is not worse than Yang in all aspects, but even if he forcibly occupies Xiaolongnü, Xiaolongnü still doesn't like him. On the other hand, Yang Xiao, who was originally the bright left envoy of the Demon Sect, could not be compared with the famous and upright Yin Liting, but he provoked Ji Xiaofu to live and die without regret, and really responded to the sentence "Men are not bad, women are not loved." "Therefore, the use of this trick must be to fight the other party also like their own confidence, but for various objective reasons to avoid their own feelings; and can not be the other party completely against you do not call is not her dish." Let's see how Yang Xiao forced Xiaofu to succeed:
First of all, Yang Xiao is a gentleman, a jade tree is windy, and there is an arrogant capital that reverses all sentient beings, down to an 8-year-old girl, up to an 80-year-old lady, popular with thousands of women, and it is no exaggeration to call it "ten thousand charms".
My good girlfriend in high school was crazy infatuated with Yang Xiao. "The first time I saw it was at the age of 13, the love sinus was just opened, and I was electrified by Yang Xiao. For many years, I have been thinking about it, xiaofu's concentration is really not to say, if I wanted to, I would have let go of everything and gone with Brother Xiao. ”
"The scene of Yang Xiao blowing bamboo leaves and shedding tears is so painful that I will never forget it." When I grow up, when I don't regret bringing the news of Ji Xiaofu's death, how much life and death does the word "unrepentant" contain... Yang Xiao was sitting on the Forgotten Peak blowing bamboo leaves and shedding tears, and his sideburns were already white... That scene, whether it was me as a teenager more than ten years ago, or now I will never forget... I only love one person in my life, but under the surface of Yang Xiao's madness is the emotion of a lifetime of unrepentantness. This is the real boy. ”
Secondly, Yang Xiao understands that women have emotions, only he can really make Xiaofu happy, only he can bring Xiaofu happiness.
For example, that night, Yang Xiao kicked open the window and invited Xiao Fu to enjoy the stars with him, Xiao Fu scolded him shamelessly, but he said "Queqiao Immortal" leisurely to the stars: The clouds are clever, the flying stars spread hatred, the silver Han is secretly crossing... Then I said softly, I believe that one day, you will lie by my side and watch the stars with me.
Later, Xiao Fu's stubbornness annoyed him, so he said domineeringly, being my Wife Yang Xiao is your greatest honor in this life, and in this world, only I Yang Xiao can bring you happiness.
Domineering with gentleness, such a man, how many women in the world can not be moved? Xiao Fu did not appreciate it, or more precisely, pretended not to appreciate it. What a stubborn little girl! It seems that the impact of the extermination of the old thief is really not to be underestimated.
When Yang Xiao saved Xiao Fu, he was angry that she cheated on her feelings, and xiao Fu, who refused to obey, fell heavily on the ground, and said angrily, you can not love me, but you cannot deceive me, I tell you, you can only marry me Yang Xiao alone if you marry someone in this life!
That kind of look, that kind of tone, if it were me, I would have already nodded my head and agreed, how could I bear to look at his unwillingness and heartache under his domineering!
Finally that night, Xiaofu asked him to rest early, and he said, thinking that I will never see you again tomorrow, how can I sleep. He asked Xiaofu to promise him that if one day, when you and Yin Liting are no longer happy, you must come to sit on the Forgetful Peak and find me. Xiao Fu shook her head vigorously, and said with a weak heart that there would not be such a day, and I would definitely end up from the beginning.
Yang Xiao was extremely angry and asked her incomprehensibly, is it not necessary to be unhappy from the beginning?
Xiao Fu was silent.
Yang Xiao seemed to suddenly understand something, he grabbed her shoulder and said,, we still have time! Let's go to the mountains together to live in seclusion, okay? I will spoil you for the rest of my life, and I will make you the happiest wife in the world!
It is a pity that Ji Xiaofu was still thinking about the face of Wudang Emei at this time, which was really pedantic. Yang Xiao suddenly went crazy and grabbed her, saying in a loud voice, I don't want you to go! I don't want you to be wrong again and again! I don't want you to regret it for the rest of your life! You are my man, I can't let anyone take you, you are my man!
Then the camera started blurring, and he was in that cave and got her in a forced way.
That smile, like the first bloom of hibiscus, made people intoxicated, for the first time, and for the last time, and from then on the two never saw each other again, one in heaven and one in the world.
In the end, Yang Xiao is heavy on love and righteousness, and under the seemingly debauched appearance, there is a most sincere and affectionate heart hidden.
Thinking about it carefully, in fact, these two people have never really stayed together, nor have they been intimate, just a hiding, a chase, and in the end they are still deep and shallow, and they have nothing. If Yang Xiao could have had more eyes at that time, he would not have run out, but unfortunately Xiao Fu's smile made him forget everything, making him feel that he was the happiest person under the heavens, but happiness came too quickly and went faster.
When he returned to the inn with the osmanthus cake in his hand, there was only a letter of letter left, a word of apology, and Yang Xiao's regret and sadness for a lifetime.
Ji Xiaofu, Ji Xiaofu, how fortunate you are, although people are dead, they still leave a person who urges your heart day and night, day after day, year after year, guarding this mountain of forgetfulness, blowing the fallen leaves all over.
Eight years later, unrepentant adulthood, that day she went to the bamboo forest to call the old father who was blowing leaves to come home for dinner, and also snatched the leaves, saying, Father, you wake up, the mother is dead, she will not come back.
Yang Xiao calmly looked at the unrepentant and said firmly, No, your mother is not dead, she just hid and refused to come out to see me.
There is no other expression on the face, but I can't help but look at the nose with a sour, Yang Xiao, Yang Xiao, Xiao Fu is dead, you should know better than anyone, what a pain to deceive yourself!
Could it be said that once an amorous person is emotional, is he really more obsessed than ordinary people?
Amplification moves: crazy love, crazy confession
If Huang Rong took down Guo Jing because of Guo Jing's single-minded death,Ren Yingying replaced Little Master Sister because Little Master Sister died, then Zhao Min's love enemy was much stronger, because Zhang Wuji was always passive and always wavering. Min Min's opponent is not one, at least a bitch! And except for the spiders, the rest are heavyweights!
Xiao Si is the most pleasing maid representative in the Jin Yong series, the YY object of the popular otaku, and the popularity of Xiao Zhao! Xiao San is even more powerful - Zhou Zhiruo, listening to the name is a beautiful woman, in fact, she is a beautiful woman, looking like a heavenly immortal, once killed Zhang Wujie and Song Qingshu in a second. At the same time, she was also very intelligent, from a famous family, and had the martial arts secret book, in short, basically perfect. Being the female number one in any martial arts novel is definitely more than enough, plus I have known brother Wujie for many years, from which point of view, I am the absolute winner!
But she lost! She did not lose to Zhao Min, what defeated her was love!
Min Min has two tricks: crazy love and mercury-like sharp confession. The former is the body, the latter is used, the two swords are combined, and the world is unstoppable.
Crazy love, everyone has a deep understanding. Min Min gave up her status as a county lord, gave up a great future, and even gave up her family, and went after a bandit leader who had always stood against her. At the wedding ceremony of Zhang Wuji and Zhou Zhiruo, surrounded by Zhao Min's mortal enemies, when she went to the meeting to rob her relatives with a single knife, the following dialogue occurred:
Fan Yao frowned and said, "Lord, the world is not as good as it should be, and even if it is so, it is barely coming." Zhao Min said, "I'm reluctant." "Then I fell in love with this demon girl without hesitation.
Crazy love is involuntary and cannot be learned. The following focuses on Min Min's confession. Textbook confessions, measured grasps, scene design, and psychological capture are all gorgeous and beautiful to make people sigh: Mr. Jin was definitely a master in this year!
For the first time, Zhao Min and Zhang Wuji drank in a small hotel in Dadu.
Zhang Wuji picked up the wine glass, under the charcoal light of the hot pot, he saw that there was a faint rouge lip print on the side of the cup, and he smelled a quiet aroma in his nose, and he didn't know whether this aroma came from the lip print on the cup or from her, and he couldn't help but feel a wave in his heart, so he drank the wine. Zhao Min said, "Two more drinks." I know you're not sure about me, and I'll take a bite out of every cup.
Late at night, small shops, candlelight, fragrance... This atmosphere is created! Then in the name of anti-drug, he drank a glass of wine with Zhang Wuji. You know, drink sharing generally only occurs between people who are very close. At this time, the two are opposing identities, but Min Min instead takes advantage of the situation to quietly close the relationship, and then launches a series of discussions on life outlook, values, and good and evil views. See no, whether it is chasing beautiful women or handsome men, at the beginning there must be some layered, talking about life, talking about ideals is the best, fastest, safest starting stage of the topic. After talking about life ideals, Min Min made another move——
Zhao Min said, "If I die tomorrow, what do you think in your heart?" You must have said in your heart: Thank god, my big and vicious opponent died, and I will be spared a lot of trouble from now on. ”
Feeling out that Zhang Wuji was already a little moved by himself, he immediately retreated into the future! Forced palace! After the goal was achieved, in order not to make himself appear too strong, he immediately asked: "Zhang Gongzi, do you say that I am beautiful, or is it Zhou Girl's beauty?" "It's called seduction... Wash away his strong image, the first round of the contest Min Min won the victory, and successfully transformed the previous opposing image into a good impression in the heart of the unscrupulous.
Later, the two hid in the drum, and the fight outside was in full swing. Zhao Min put his mouth to Zhang Wuji's ear and said softly, "You damn little adulteress!" This sentence seemed to be angry, like a complaint, and it was infinitely charming, Zhang Wujie only listened to the swing in his heart, and suddenly he was confused and extremely troubled: "If she had not been so treacherous and dangerous and killed my cousin, I would have spent my whole life with her, and I would have cared for nothing." ”
A whisper in the ear, so powerful! Outside, there is a fierce fight, and the two are in an extremely dangerous situation, but even so, it is not important to "I want to tell you how much I love you"! Who can be unemotional in such a situation? Who can be unmoved?
After that, Zhou Zhiruo did all kinds of efforts to stabilize the situation slightly and accompanied Wuji to Dadu. Wujie came to the hotel where the two first met, and found that Zhao Min was actually there, and everything was as it was. Knocked down in an instant...
On the other hand, Zhou Zhiruo, at this time, could only cry twice and hang himself three times, and the failure was basically irreparable. It doesn't matter what he wants to rob his relatives later, because he already has a heart to belong to, and all he needs is a high-sounding reason, such as saving the righteous father. As soon as the reason was found, without the shackles of morality, he immediately threw himself into minmin's arms without hesitation.
Summarize three lessons:
First, love should be spoken out loud. Love alone is not enough, you don't say how do I know you want it? In addition to zhao min loving more fiercely than Zhiruo, she is more courageous and good at expressing her love. And when encountering difficulties and setbacks, the average person will suffer from gains and losses, cowering at the end, while Zhao Min chooses to move forward more actively, and finally she wins love.
Secondly, courage alone is not enough, but also enough skill.
The first layer of skill is to know how to create an atmosphere and create opportunities. There is no need to have candlelight, there are flowers, jun can not see, Zhao Min students on the roadside shops, islands, cruise ships, broken temples, all should be handy. The key is to create opportunities for engagement that both parties feel either relaxed or stimulated. Whether it is food stalls, roads, roller coasters, watching ghost movies, in fact, it is a good environment, depending on how you use it. Another example is the second encounter of a small shop, what a good environment. You may not have such a fate, but you can scout the terrain and create such an encounter yourself.
The second layer of skill lies in keen observation. Every time the thoughts in her heart were delicate in Zhao Min's place, and then she calmly chose various tactics such as retreating to advance, pressing step by step, and going straight in. However, psychological observation is difficult, not everyone can do this to the level of psychological master observation like Min Min, but please calmly use your brain to listen to each other. She said that when you die, most of them are not for you to die, but to be happy and embarrassed to show it; she said, you are very good, then you can really die.
Finally, many times, the two people have become a fire, and the whole world has no hope for you. Don't care about face, don't worry about ridicule, don't bury your love in your heart, and remember what Lord Min Min said, "I'm reluctant." This is called sincerity.
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