Text/Mu Ying Gongzi
Men think "women have needles in their hearts." "I think it is very difficult to guess a woman's mind."
But in fact, women's minds are not as difficult to guess as in the legend, and they are nothing more than hoping to find a man who truly loves themselves.
But things in this world are always very elusive, and the more you want to get something, the more you will not be able to ask for it.
Especially love, the more you want to get love, the more difficult it is to get. The point is, it seems that very few people can meet their ideal of one hundred percent love.
No matter how low your expectations of love are, the love you get will still be lower than your expectations.
If you only expect a sixty-point love, then it is likely that you will get only fifty points of love.
Maybe you just want to find a reliable honest person to talk about a bland love, but the other party has always regarded you as a spare tire.
Women often lose a large part of the ability to judge problems after falling into love.
Sometimes they can't see if men are really thinking about themselves.
What's more, even if you find that the other party has something wrong, you will try your best to make excuses for the other party.
There are many women like this who are hurt in their relationships because they can't be clear.
In fact, women want to know whether the man really loves you or just treats you as a spare tire, just need to see if he has these three performances.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="4" > after one or two people quarrel, they never take the initiative to make peace</h1>
It is a very normal thing for lovers to quarrel, and for men, after quarrelling, taking the initiative to bow their heads and admit mistakes is a very undignified and shameful thing.
Of course, the man who loves you, no matter whose fault it is, will take the initiative to put down his so-called dignity and take the initiative to ask you for peace.
A man who does not love you, even if it is his own fault, he will definitely regard dignity and face as more important than you, and will not bow to you resolutely.
When Xiao Qi and her boyfriend Xiaodong just met, Xiaodong just broke up with his girlfriend.
At that time, as long as Xiaodong quarreled with his girlfriend, he would complain to Xiao Qi, although he said how he loved his girlfriend.
But Xiao Qi was still deeply touched by Xiaodong's infatuation, and fantasized that he could also have a boyfriend like Xiaodong.
Later, Xiaodong really broke up with his girlfriend, and Xiaoqi and Xiaodong naturally came together.
However, Xiao Dong went as if he had completely changed into a person, and was no longer Xiao Qi's fantasy lover.
Xiao Qi found that after the two people quarreled, they always bowed their heads and begged for peace first.
And even if Xiaodong does something wrong, he will not take the initiative to bow his head and admit his mistake and seek peace, with an attitude of indifference.
Xiao Qi remembered that when Xiaodong and his ex-girlfriend quarreled, it was Xiaodong who took the initiative to make peace, and even if the ex-girlfriend was wrong, it was Xiaodong who bowed his head first.
Just when Xiao Qi doubted whether he was a spare tire, Xiaodong had already reunited with his ex-girlfriend.
Without even saying the words of the breakup, he no longer contacted Xiao Qi and disappeared without a trace.
In the relationship, if a man really loves you, after two people quarrel, the man will also take the initiative to ask for peace because of his thoughts about you.
Only men who treat you as a spare tire will feel that it doesn't matter if they quarrel, and for him anyway, you are just a dispensable spare tire.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="6" > second, deliberately conceal the relationship between you</h1>
Su Su and her boyfriend David, whom she met online, have been dating for almost a year.
Su Su felt that the relationship between the two people was stable, and planned to take David to meet his friends.
But as soon as Susu said that he wanted David to meet with his friends, David used his busy work to shirk it. Later, I really couldn't push it off, so I simply put Su Su pigeon directly, saying that I suddenly had an urgent matter and couldn't go.
Not only that, but even every time Su Su sent a photo of the two people to the circle of friends, David would nervously let Su Su delete it, saying that he did not want to disclose the relationship between the two people so early.
Susu couldn't understand why David always gave her the feeling of wanting to hide the relationship between two people. She even wondered if it was because she wasn't good enough that David didn't want to go public with his relationship.
It wasn't until David's fiancée poured a glass of cold boiled water over Susu's head that Susu understood completely. It turned out that David's fiancée needed to go abroad for three years of study, and David was afraid that his fiancée would not return, so he first found a spare tire for himself.
Therefore, he will deliberately conceal the relationship with Su Su, that is, he is afraid that his fiancée will find his infidelity when he returns.
When men really love you to the bone, they will want to collect you and are unwilling to let other men see your beauty.
But they will not deliberately hide the relationship between you, but they want the whole world to know that you have a master.
So that those who have different thoughts about you will dispel their thoughts as soon as possible.
But whenever a man wants to fall in love with you and does not want to disclose your relationship, there must be an ulterior secret.
And most men who hide romantic relationships usually use you as a spare tire, rather than really loving you.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="8" > third, when there is something to do, it will take the initiative to contact you</h1>
Some women are obviously in love with men, but they talk about the feeling of personal assistants. Boyfriends only initiate contact when something is going on.
Even if you take the initiative to ask him out, he is either busy, or on a business trip, or he is going to have a meeting, in short, he is very busy and always has no time to take the initiative to date her.
Si Tong in the office has such a mysterious boyfriend, this so-called boyfriend, we have only heard it in Si Tong's mouth, but we have never seen the real face.
Even on various holidays, including Valentine's Day, Si Tong is either working overtime at the unit or working overtime for colleagues.
Because Si Tong said that her boyfriend was very busy and did not have time to date her, and Si Tong's boyfriend would take the initiative to contact her when there must be something wrong.
The simple Si Tong never thought that there was a problem with this mode of getting along, and also thought that the boyfriend would think of her first when there was something wrong, indicating that the other party attached great importance to her. What makes this simple girl disillusioned is a circle of friends.
The day after the boyfriend proposed to Si Tong to break up, he found that the other party had sent a wedding invitation in the circle of friends, and one wedding photo after another was like a dagger inserted into Si Tong's heart.
The day after the breakup, a wedding invitation was released, and it was obvious that the other party had used Si Tong as a spare tire.
People often use: "One day is not seen, such as every three autumns." "To describe the deep thoughts between lovers.
Not seeing each other for a day, it was as if I hadn't seen each other in years.
Feelings like Si Tong, who have not seen each other for a long time and only contact when there is something wrong, are obviously abnormal.
Even if you want to maintain a good relationship between friends, you must contact often.
And your boyfriend only contacts you when something is going on, and it's clear that the other person is just using you as a spare tire.
In the process of getting along between men and women, women usually belong to the more sensitive side.
Like the things mentioned above, after a woman perceives it, she should re-examine the relationship and examine the man.
Many times, whether men really love you, whether they use you as a spare tire, women have feelings in their hearts.
It's just that sometimes, due to emotional factors, they are not willing to admit it.
However, if you can't get out in time after finding the problem, you will only let yourself fall deeper and deeper and suffer more harm.
As a woman, when she encounters this kind of thing, she can be brave.
Even if you feel that your own conditions are not good enough, even if you look ordinary, you must be brave to be the only self in the world, rather than being someone else's spare tire.
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