Low-quality marriages are not as good as high-quality singles. - Rich Book Girl
Not long ago, Tong Liya posted her own fashion blockbuster on social networking sites. In the photo, she is wearing a blue and white striped shirt with white high-waisted shorts, full of girlish atmosphere.
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When she was with Chen Sicheng, Tong Liya gave others the feeling of being a promise. Many people said that at that time, she loved too humblely.
Later, this strong Xinjiang girl finally plucked up the courage to walk out of that torn marriage and was no longer silent.
After the divorce, Tong Liya cut her long hair short and appeared shrewd and capable. Whether it is the generous host on the spring evening, or the wonderful and outstanding performance in the film and television drama, it makes people feel that she is getting better and better!
Marriage is not the purpose of life, happiness is. If a marriage really makes you miserable, then consider stopping the loss in time and going light.
Life is only once, don't let a low-quality marriage drain your precious life.
An unhappy marriage can exhaust you physically and mentally
There is a saying in "Dream of the Red Chamber": "When the moon is full, it loses, and when the water is full, it overflows."
In a marriage, women who love too much often live too humblely.
As the world knows, Zhang Youyi's love for Xu Zhimo has been lowered to the dust.
It was not until Xu Zhimo proposed a divorce and ruthlessly asked her to beat the fetus in her abdomen that this infatuated woman began to fully awaken, and no matter how hot the feelings, it could not warm a cold person.
Marriage has always required two people to run together. Only with love can we get through difficulties together; without love, we will only be different from each other.
After leaving Xu Zhimo, Zhang Youyi went to Germany to study, focusing on early childhood education. After returning to China, she became the vice president of Shanghai Women's Commercial Bank.
Under the careful management of Zhang Youyi, the bank that had been losing money for many years and was on the verge of bankruptcy came back to life.
In addition, she also entered the business and investment fields, not only opened the "cloud clothing" that attracted countless noble ladies, but also made a lot of money in the stock market.
At that time, Zhang Youyi had gone from being a humble abandoned woman to the most enviable woman on the beach.
Who says marriage is all a woman is all about? A marriage with love can naturally nourish a woman's body and mind; but a loveless marriage will only constrain her steps forward.
Buffett once said, "The most important decision in life is who to marry." When it comes to choosing a partner, if you're wrong, it will cost you a lot. And the losses aren't just monetary. ”
Meyer Musk, the author of "Life by Me", suffered from domestic violence for 9 years.
In the early days of marriage, she repeatedly succumbed to her sadistic husband, but the patience of the whole process was exchanged for worse abuse and beatings.
Finally, Meyer desperately ended the marriage that made her shudder, and from then on, she felt that the dark clouds had dissipated and the clouds had opened up.
After the divorce, although she lived poorly, Meyer was no longer afraid. She devotes more energy to a career in nutrition consulting, while also working as a part-time model. Days like this are intense and fulfilling.
Today, at the age of 70, Meyer is still active on the international catwalk. With her white hair on top, she is particularly eye-catching among a group of young and beautiful girls.
Although marriage needs to be understood and tolerated, it also has a bottom line.
A person who truly loves you will not leave you alone and helpless, will not talk to you, and will not punch and kick you.
Everyone should reap happiness in their marriage, and if there are only grievances and pain in it, then get out of it in time.
Of course it's good to have a partner in life, no, and it's not a big deal.
An unhappy marriage will consume your life
Ning Shunhua, a post-80s woman in Hunan Province, could not stand her husband who was obsessed with gambling and domestic violence, and decided to divorce.
Although the divorce process is long and she is constantly harassed and intimidated by the other party, the iron-hearted Ning Shunhua insists on returning herself a "free body".
Finally, after filing the divorce proceedings for the 5th time, Ning Shunhua got the court's judgment.
Others asked her what her plans were after the divorce, and Ning Shunhua, whose eyes were a little red, said that she only wanted to live alone.
Shakespeare said, "A marriage that is not satisfactory is like a hell."
A marriage worth guarding should be born to the sun, not to suffer in hell.
After the genius actor Ruan Lingyu and Zhang Damin got married, they fell into a bottomless abyss of pain. This insatiable man, seeing the weakness and fear in her heart, bullied her unscrupulously.
At that time, Ruan Lingyu was already a popular star and had enough ability to get rid of the control of the other party. However, with a good face, she chose to endure again and again.
But if you endure it too long, you will despair. In the end, Ruan Lingyu, who was only 25 years old, used her life to make a silent rebellion against this bad marriage.
Unlike Ruan Lingyu, Butterfly, who is also a popular movie star, although she also has a husband who is good and bad, she decisively chooses to break the marriage contract after seeing the character of the other party, and is not afraid of any threats and intimidation from the other party.
Butterfly, who experienced an unhappy marriage, later polished his eyes and chose Pan Yousheng, a down-to-earth and steady foreign firm employee, to spend the rest of his life together.
For the rest of Butterfly's life, no matter what happened, the simple and gentle and considerate man always stood behind her and never abandoned.
Such a marriage is worthy of women's protection and dedication.
The English philosopher and novelist Alain De Botton said:
"Marrying the wrong person is a mistake that any of us are prone to make, and it can be the most expensive mistake in a person's life."
Unhappy marriages not only waste your feelings and hurt your body, but also ruin your life.
Although marriage is a gamble, it is not despicable in itself, and the despicable thing is the man in the marriage who is neither virtuous nor human.
If you are unfortunate enough to fall into a failed marriage, a fantasy of perfection, or a face-saving retreat, it will ruin the rest of your life.
Meyer. Musk once reflected after the divorce: We don't have to live in lies, pretending that a happy marriage is meaningless.
In the face of an unhappy marriage, letting go of attachment and withdrawing in time is the most correct way.
After all, there is only one time in life, saying goodbye to the wrong, in order to meet the right.
Low-quality marriages are not as good as high-quality singles
There is a concept in economics called "sunk cost", which refers to the cost that has been paid and cannot be recovered.
For a woman, the time, energy and affection she has spent in her marriage are irretrievable "sunk costs".
If the marriage is happy, this effort is worth it and there is nothing wrong with it; but if it is unfortunate, the longer you struggle in a bad marriage, the higher the "sunk cost" you will consume.
When the break continues, it is chaotic.
The recent hit TV series "Hello, Mother! In ", Dong Jie played a brave woman Ding Biyun who withdrew from a bad marriage in time.
Although the initial life after marriage was sweet, it was not long before Fu Qiang's buddy righteousness and habit of eating and lazy cooking were exposed.
Coupled with the poor business of the hotel, Fu Qiang immersed himself in the erosion life of drinking and playing cards all day long.
Not only that, but he also had an ambiguous relationship with the waiter in the shop.
When Ding Biyun saw Fu Qiang's hopeless behavior, he resolutely chose divorce.
Although the days of divorce are very hard, the days of relying on his son Ding Xiaojun for his life are full of hope.
Ding Biyun's choice of divorce was not impulsive, but after being extremely disappointed in the marriage, he understood the importance of withdrawing.
Xiao Fangfang, a famous Hong Kong movie star, immediately saw the scumbag nature in his bones after being slapped by her mercurial husband, resolutely packed her bags, and threw him a divorce agreement.
Xiao Fangfang, who returned to singlehood, opened a film and television company. She not only flourished in the operation of the company, but also became the queen of the Golden Horse Shadow.
Xiao Fangfang used her own decisiveness to minimize the "sunk cost" in marriage, and bought time for herself to obtain true love and happiness in the future.
Only such a woman can live a happy life!
Marriage was originally a goal of supporting each other and getting better.
But for whatever reason, when the feelings begin to become reluctant, you must not be embarrassed to support yourself.
Marriage is not the whole of a woman's life.
For a failed marriage, leave the man who hurt you no matter what.
Remember, go out, there will be a way out ahead.
In this world, maintaining their independence and strength, and living well, is what a woman is worth pursuing for a lifetime.
There is a line in the TV series "The First Half of My Life": "Why is marriage, isn't life not easy, to find a teammate to help each other?" ”
Marriage is a partnership to live a life, not to whom. The saddest thing about women is not getting old in a bland marriage, but struggling in a bad marriage.
In the face of those marriages that are painful in the name of "love", decisively letting go and lightening up is the most correct way to open.
Venus once said: "A woman is water, you meet me with 0 degrees, I instantly become ice; you love me with 100 degrees, I will immediately boil; you use 50 degrees to me, I am not lukewarm." ”
Feelings must not be deceived, the body must not be hurt, only those who know how to respect and care for the marriage, is worth a woman's life to follow, to protect.
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