<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="1" > introduction</h1>
Many elderly people hope that they can have a companion, and feel that life with a partner will be colorful. It is indeed easier to feel lonely after the end of life, so the elderly will be so keen to find a wife. But is having a wife really a happy thing? The answer is not necessarily.
Some people have a hard time remarrying, but after marriage, life has become a mess, and the couple always quarrels over some trivial matters. Many remarried couples live together, and they have no other party in their hearts, and they are naturally unwilling to consider each other.
Some old people are more rational, preferring to live alone rather than remarry. Many men who live alone live longer, what is the reason for this? Let's take a look at the story of Uncle Lin.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="31" >mesource: Uncle Lin</h1>
I'm 86 years old, there aren't many old people my age around me, and a lot of my friends have left over the years, and I'm getting fewer and fewer friends around me. Sometimes I feel a little lonely, and I don't know who to talk to when I want to talk to someone.
When I was young, I was a junior high school teacher, and I have devoted most of my life to education, and I love my work for decades. I was reluctant to leave, but after all, I was old enough to continue teaching, so I had to retire. Now that I have been retired for 26 years, I can now get a pension of 5,000 yuan every month, which is a strong guarantee for my later life.
My wife and I got married very early, and in our day, a lot of young people got married as teenagers. I lived with my wife when I was 18 years old, and when I was 22 years old, I started having children, and we had four children, two sons and two daughters.
At that time, everyone was living very hard, the conditions in our family were not very good, plus there were several children to raise, so it was not easy for me. But slowly we survived, and now several of my children are more successful. The eldest son and the younger daughter have become teachers, the younger son has become a civil servant, and the daughter originally worked in a public institution, but later she chose to go into business, and the business also flourished.
And my wife and I began to enjoy the blessings, because several of our children were filial piety. But my wife is a very bitter person, when she was young, she suffered a lot, and the children's blessings did not enjoy for a few years, and she got cancer. At that time, it cost more than 200,000 yuan to save my wife, which was most of my savings in my life, but I still failed to save my wife's life.
After my wife left, there were also many old friends who introduced me to the object, but I was unwilling to accept it. I think it's good to be alone in my later years, and I don't want to get myself into trouble. Now that I'm 86 years old, I think the reason I've lived so long is because I chose to live alone. Why do elderly people who live alone live longer? I think there are three main reasons.
1, can live as you want
I feel that a person can worry a lot less about my life, do whatever I want, and no one will interfere with my life. In the past, when my wife was still alive, I was quite depressed, because my wife always had to dictate to my life. I am usually a big grinning person, and my living habits are more casual. And the wife is different, the wife is a person with a clean habit, the requirements are very much.
The changed clothes must be washed immediately, and cannot be left overnight, otherwise she will nag. In the years I was married to her, I had to live according to her instructions every day and felt no freedom at all. I remember one time when I was too tired from work, so I went home and fell asleep on the couch. As a result, my wife saw it and threw a tantrum at me.
She said: "You just came back from outside and you're covered in dust. I don't change my clothes and rest again, the sofa cover I only washed today, and I was soiled by you, and I didn't understand my hardships at all. You hurry up and change your clothes and rest, or I'll just do it." "I was sleepy and woken up by my wife.
It's really a fire in my heart, but I don't want to argue with my wife, if I really talk back to her, then things will definitely be endless, she can definitely talk for three days and three nights. I had to talk back to her once, and that time she said it to me for several days, so I didn't dare to contradict her since then. Later, I went to change my clothes, but when I returned to the living room, I found that my wife had changed the sofa cover and washed it, and I was speechless. Is it that dirty for me to lie down?
Anyway, my wife will prick me every day, and I think my endurance is also very good, and I can endure for so many years. So after my wife left, I didn't want to find another wife, the previous decades I was managed by my wife, I was not so stupid, it is impossible to find another person to discipline myself. I can live alone, no one will say that I can live as I please.
2, find a wife to re-run, far less than a person comfortable
With a wife, life really won't be so boring. But there are also a lot of problems, and two strangers living together definitely need to run into each other. For older people, it is not an easy task to readjust to a person's presence. Although the two old people live together, it is likely that they are still unwilling to pay their hearts to each other, many people are just looking for a partner, and they are not willing to pay their true feelings, let alone consider the new wife.
Living with such a wife is a torture, and two people may quarrel from time to time. Even if you find a wife, you will have to rely on your children for the elderly in the future, and it is difficult to count on your wife. And many children are not willing to find their parents to find a wife, for children, one more elderly person in the family, the burden on their bodies is heavier. In the future, I can't take care of myself, and I have to trouble my own children, which is simply to find trouble for my children. So we don't have to find ourselves angry at all, and it is far less comfortable to find a wife than to live alone.
3, money freedom, no wife, no disputes
If you are single, then your own money can be decided by yourself. If you find a wife, the wife will interfere, and most of the money in your hand will have to be kept by the other party. The senior brother in our community also remarried after his old age. After the woman married him, she controlled the financial power of his family and did not spend a penny for him.
Usually we go out to dinner together is my guest, in the past, the elder brother especially liked to drink, but since remarried, he has never been drunk again, because there is no money to buy and can only quit. Moreover, the house of The Elder Brother Gao also added the woman's name, because of this matter, the children of the Elder Brother Gao and the Elder Brother gao had a lot of contradictions, anyway, their family had a big quarrel for five days, a small quarrel for three days, and the family could not be at peace.
I don't have this kind of trouble in my life alone, I can spend my pension as much as I want, and I won't have a wife to manage me. Not to mention how comfortable it is.
So I think the main reason why I can live so long is because I don't look for a wife, I live a very wanton life alone, and I don't have the short troubles of my parents. I think this is very important, the mood is good, the whole person will naturally relax, and can also maintain a good state of mind.
So there is no need to find a wife for yourself, in your later years want to meet the real people who are so easy, some men look for a wife in order to find a free nanny, but most women are very smart, they can not be willing to be a free nanny for men. And women remarry mostly run to each other's property, so do not have the idea of taking advantage of others, it may not be calculated to others, but by others.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="32" > written at the end</h1>
Although the two people live together, but after a long time, the contradiction between the two people will come out. And the elderly will take care of their children, and they cannot pay for the new home wholeheartedly. And a person's life is relatively easy, and the most important thing is to be particularly free.