Wen | is sincere
In the impression of many people, but all families who can study abroad, the conditions are generally not bad.
After all, although the living standards abroad are not necessarily good, the consumption level is really high, and if there is no economic foundation, it is really impossible to afford an international student.
However, in recent years, the living standards of everyone have improved, and compared with the almost stagnant living standards abroad, the number of families who can cross the economic threshold of studying abroad is also gradually increasing.
The number of international students is increasing, and in the case of a substantial increase in the base, the gap between the economic level of international students has widened accordingly.
And when the circle is small enough and the gap is large enough, some "passive consumption" will often appear in individual students with less than ideal conditions.
Of course, occasional social interaction is necessary, but there are also a few people who take the circle as the core and forcibly push out their due standard of living.
As a result, some unreasonable financial demands on parents began to appear.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="21" > female international students suspect that living expenses are low, and "hang" their fathers on the Internet</h1>
For netizens, it is almost impossible to think of a hot search.
But no one expected that as long as the strength of her daughter was large enough, she could really be scolded on the hot search in minutes.
In the past two days, a female student studying in Spain has sent her chat records and her father asking for living expenses to the Internet, hoping to get the support of netizens.
But "it backfired", below the hot search, the message was almost one-sided against her, and there were also "untried remarks" that were several times the number of comments.
After all, from the records, her living expenses itself is above ten thousand, which is completely enough to support the needs of life.
More importantly, this amount had completely overdrafted her father's monthly salary, so that the old man at home was like eating a fast, and he almost used up his life to continue his life.
However, her father's persuasion did not work for her at all, but made the international student more disgusted, and when the words were fierce, it was almost the same as scolding the street.
In the end, she ran directly to the Internet to "vent her anger" and posted the "unsightly" chat records of her abusive father to her personal social media.
She also posted a video of her humiliating her father in person.
Because the content was too uncomfortable, she and her father were on the hot search for the first time in their lives without spending a penny.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="40" > the humility of parents and the laziness of children</h1>
The details of the father-daughter dialogue are not much to comment on, after all, if you read it more, you will hurt your eyesight one more time.
According to Cantonese, this is really better than having a sweet potato.
Although this extreme case is small, it reflects a large proportion that is not so extreme.
Take personal experience, for example, probably no one thought that more than a decade ago, we dared to give up more than 4,000 wages, and almost the top benefits in third-tier cities.
No one believes that I dare to lick my face and go home to rest under the pretext of wanting to take the civil service examination when I obviously do not want to take the civil service examination.
But I did, and I nibbled at the old man with a straight face and a sense of righteousness.
If my mother hadn't really bothered me, I don't know how long it would be before I went out to work.
After working again, the city is on the top, but the treatment is really incomparable, so that every month the family has to receive one or two thousand, so that I can wear the most fashionable clothes while maintaining the most basic vital signs.
In fact, this situation is not much better than that of the female international student.
To be honest, I didn't know how long this situation was going to last, and I didn't have any goals, let alone ideals.
But what I know is that what can make me so "dashing" is that the conditions at home are ok and can support me for a lifetime.
And it is even more accurate that parents will not take this out to say things in order to "not pressure me".
Finally, under my "three years as a day" of nibbling old age, my mother's fierce daughter was angry with me, and I had never seen her frown in my life, and this time I was really panicked.
From that moment on, I realized that I was an adult.
It is an independent individual who should call home to send red envelopes every New Year's Festival, rather than an old man who waits for my parents to ask me "is there any living expenses" in the name of telephone greetings.
After the story is over, I don't know if you have found the crux of the problem of nibbling on the old?
In fact, to put it bluntly, it is not complicated, that is, the more humble the parents, the more delicate the children, this zero-sum game-like relationship, most parents want to face intellectually, but emotionally do not mouth.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="58" > true "abundance"</h1>
From personal experience to this female international student, there is actually one thing in common, that is, she has been "rich" since she was a child.
What is it like to be financially rich, so to speak, maybe your interest in money is not as great as Jack Ma.
But this is only the appearance, because behind this mentality, it is often not how big a person's pattern is and how long-term the vision is, but the retreat is enough, and they do not want to jump out of the comfort zone.
So this is obviously not the connotation of "rich nourishment".
True prosperity is a kind of spiritual enrichment education, which is roughly divided into three aspects: sense of responsibility, awareness of rules, and awareness of independence.
The so-called sense of responsibility is to give them a certain responsibility in family life.
This may seem like a burden on their children, but don't forget that children have one thing in common, which is a strong sense of identity.
So the responsibility you ask them to take on will not only not be a burden to them, but will make them understand that the return must be paid.
Let's talk about the sense of rules.
In fact, over the years, many parents may have heard of a concept of family education, called "friends with children".
This is outrageous, because the rules are binding, so reasoning with children who are comfortable in nature is itself the most unreasonable logic.
If you don't believe it, think about it, why are there obviously fewer "giant babies" in the past? Because most of the friends of the post-80s generation are not parents, but the sticks in the hands of their parents.
At the age of making rules, which so many diaries can be written... Oh no, there are so many "friends" to be found.
If you understand the rules, you will understand things, you will know how to share, you will be more independent, and perhaps this is the real wealth.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="76" > the end</h1>
On the road to educating children to become talents, spiritual education is actually not in conflict with academic education.
Because this is in itself complementary.
In the case of this female international student, we can obviously think that when facing her fifteen years ago, her parents would think "it would be good to grow up"; and when facing her ten years ago, they would think "just go to college".
But this is still the case today, so where will the next "will be good" node?
Therefore, first educate children to be excellent people, in order to make them excellent talents, perhaps sometimes cruel heart is also a kind of gentleness, letting go is also a kind of protection.
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