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The daughter in the chat record is studying in Spain, and her father transfers her living expenses every month. Said good ten thousand yuan per month, but the daughter is basically not enough.
After not enough, the daughter endlessly squeezed the fruits of her father's labor, and rightfully demanded that her father unconditionally meet her material needs.
It can be seen from the chat that the daughter's attitude towards her father is "demanding" rather than "requesting", and she rightfully believes that the 51-year-old father should bear these consequences, who let him be the father.
So can 10,000 yuan meet the basic daily expenses in France? Students who also studied abroad said that 10,000 yuan was enough.
This is a 23-year-old girl, an adult, but she has never looked for a job to increase her income and reduce the burden on her parents. What kind of family does such an ignorant daughter come from?
In this family, parents are never willing to eat something good, but let their daughters eat. The daughter, who has been "raised richly" since childhood, thinks that her parents should give everything to her.
She did not have a grateful heart for her parents, she only cared about whether she could eat the dividends of her parents' life.
Chinese parents have one thing in common: even if they don't have money, they must give their children the best material enjoyment.
They themselves grew up in an era of scarcity of supplies, so they resisted their children from suffering again. After the "compensatory" psychology occupies the intellect, the child's "take" doctrine becomes more and more obvious.
Father's food
Daughter's food
The "unbearable" remarks of girls after studying abroad
Because the money is not in place, I scold such words
Curse the father's words
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Who is this "rich" girl, I think everyone has the impression that she is the girl who refused to isolate and jumped out of the window during the epidemic in 2020.
It is said that in a family, the quality of children depends on the parents. "Bear parents" will raise "bear children", but the real situation is surprising.
The father graduated from Peking University and is now the editor-in-chief of a financial magazine in Shanghai.
A very high education, a very noble job, but raised such a child that the world hates. The child's "evil" nature is completely torn apart by the stimulation of money.
Not being able to raise children who know how to be grateful is the greatest pain in the hearts of countless parents.
Admittedly, many parents do not intend to operate as an investment when raising their children. A considerable number of parents give for free with the desire that "as long as the children are good, everything is fine".
If the child works very hard, but always has a bad life, the parents will stick money stickers to help energetically, and there will not be a complaint.
But when the child himself does not work hard, but blames all the unsatisfactory on the parents, such a child becomes a "white-eyed wolf". The unifying characteristics of these children are:
I think my parents don't have the ability to create more wealth, so I am not a rich second generation.
I suspect that my parents did not become high officials and could not give them the future they wanted.
He felt that his parents were dressed shabby and lost their face.
When encountering such a child, the parents' hearts are really broken.
Raising such a "three-dimensional distortion" of children is mainly a problem of parents, and such children generally live in a family of "pampered" children.
From the moment the child came into this world, his parents helped him arrange everything, and everything was "big package". In some families, even after the child is 12 years old, the underwear is washed by the parents.
Parents think that the child is too young to wash clean. Or because you want to give your child more time to learn, you are not willing to let your child be so tired.
These practices are more effective than the nanny, and will give the child a certain psychological hint: you just need to eat well and enjoy well, and the rest is the obligation of the parents, and it has nothing to do with you!
Parents who dot on their children will eventually raise the child and eventually destroy a family.
Such a child could be a red spider that sucks the blood of its mother, or it could be a pack of cold and profitable wolves. Except that they are not human beings, they can be any ferocious animal.
Last year, a video went viral on the Internet, causing extreme anger among netizens.
The cause was that a mother and daughter took the wrong car in the subway station, and the daughter kicked the mother several times.
Look at this mother again, she carries a lot of luggage, and she walks a little unsteadily. But the daughter was carrying her hands in her pockets and cursing and grinning. It was as if the woman was not her mother, but an old servant of the family in feudal society.
But this mother accepted all this with silence and forbearance, can you understand the pain in this mother's heart?
Examples abound. The connivance in the family will eventually evolve into a beating in society.
As a parent, you can only accompany your child for a while, and your protection cannot run through his life. And the harsh truth is that the vast majority of parents can't protect their children.
"Parents of the world, if you love your children, you must let him start to love you and the people around you when you can." This is not the selfishness of adults, but the vision of thinking about the child's life. "--- Bi Shumin."
Raising a grateful child is not the selfishness of an adult. Rather, parents are responsible for their children's lifelong behavior, which is the pattern of parents.
Make yourself a "competent" parent and make your children useful to society.