The movie "Hot Mom Hot Girl" should be familiar to many people. The film tells the story of single mother Tess and her 15-year-old daughter Anna who disagree on various things, always fighting until they exchange bodies due to an accident, and the two slowly learn to understand each other.
Empathy is the education method that many education big Vs have always emphasized, and many film and television dramas have also begun to discuss this topic. "Hot Mommy Hot Girl" is full of American characteristics, although the response is very good, but the "Father and Son Metamorphosis" that meets China's national conditions is closer to the current situation of Chinese education and has carried out an incredible interchange story.
Egg egg in the fifth grade of primary school because of the strict discipline of his parents, has always had the idea of growing up quickly, and his father also has the idea of how good it should be for the egg exam, one day the egg planted a wishing grass, and the wish really became. Overnight, father and son did indeed exchange. He became the father of a child, used the sleekness and sophistication of an adult, bribed teachers in school, disrespected his teachers, and even cheated on exams; and became a big man, although he had academic qualifications, but had no skills at all, and kept running into walls in various jobs.
In the end, the ending of the movie is still a happy ending, each of which has thought and grown.
Empathy is a social name. It is a way of thinking about interpersonal relationships by putting oneself in the shoes of others, that is, thinking about what others think and understanding the supremacy. People should understand and trust each other, and learn to think in empathy, which is the basis of interaction between people: mutual tolerance, understanding, and thinking from the perspective of others.
One, anxiety, chicken babies, inner volumes... Modern education is rife with negativity that has nowhere to go
Today's parents are very anxious: anxious that they do not know how to educate their children, anxious that their children will lose at the starting line, anxious children learn slower than others, learn less than others...
Today's parents are also very troubled: do not know how to communicate with their children, do not know how to better accompany homework, do not know how to let children take the planned road...
Egg egg and father are a very common representative of countless families: parents work hard to earn money, work hard for their children's school district room, but the children have medium grades and do not seem to focus on learning at all every day.
Children feel that their parents have little companionship, and they only feel that they have requirements for themselves but no practical guidance.
The contradiction between parents and children is getting worse and worse, and both parties feel very tired and difficult, but the other party still cannot receive their own information.
Second, empathy is a bridge in family relations
In the movie, Egg Egg successfully uses a wishing grass to skip the childhood stage and become the adult he has always wanted to be. However, he grew up without any skills and survival ability, and when he arrived in society, he knew that no one would unconditionally tolerate and spoil like his parents, and the original adult world was far from being as easy and wonderful as he thought, but all kinds of grievances and helplessness.
Dad has changed from an adult to a child, and finding out that the child's world also requires hard work and hard work, and also needs the understanding and companionship of parents. It is almost impossible to walk in the world of children with the mind of an adult. After making various mistakes, I also think bitterly and reflect on my previous behavior.
Third, controlling emotions is an important beginning in empathetic thinking
Film is an artistic process, after nearly two hours of laughter and anger, how can parent-child education really achieve empathy? How can parents accompany and educate more effectively? This is not the answer that parents can get with anxiety.
The adult world is not easy, but it is easy for adults to pass on their negative emotions to weak children.
The kicking cat effect is a common phenomenon in family relationships. Parents in the company was criticized by the leader, go home because of a small matter to release negative emotions on the child, the child is very aggrieved, this time just the cat at home has gone, so he kicked the cat! Boss- Father - Child - Cat, this relationship chain is arranged according to strength and weakness.
Controlling emotions is an important beginning in empathetic thinking. A good atmosphere is the basis of communication and a platform for communication.
We all say that children are everything to us and that children are the core of our families. And this everything and the core needs to be cared for and accompanied.
Sometimes take the children to watch "Father and Son Metamorphosis" together, try to change after hilarity, will our parent-child relationship be better?
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