"Rabbit Daddy's Family Book", by Cheng Min, Southern Daily Publishing House, July 2021 edition, 49.00 yuan.
□ Zou Gaoxiang
After ten years, "Chinese Rabbit Daddy" Cheng Min has published a book on the "Book of Parenting". Following "Strange Daddy Stupid Girl", another parent-child education secret "Rabbit Daddy Family Book" was published. In contrast, the new book shows the family's success more comprehensively and is replicable for the majority of families.
"Rabbit Daddy" education, the key word is "gentle", different from "Tiger Mother", "Wolf Father" and "Eagle Father". Through "Strange Daddy Stupid Girl" and media reports, Cheng Min showed a unique way of education. Born in 1963, he worked as an orthopedic surgeon in Panyu for more than ten years. In 1993, her daughter Wei Wei was born. In 2001, he abandoned medicine to start an advertising agency, and his work was extremely busy. When he got home at night, his daughter was asleep, and he hadn't woken up yet in the morning when his daughter went to school. In one home, father and daughter did not see each other. The daughter invented the "message exchange method", and the words of the father and daughter were written in a notebook. Messages from the third grade of elementary school to the second grade of high school are included in "Strange Daddy Stupid Girl".
"Rabbit Daddy's Book" is an upgraded version, with richer content, more complete form, thicker reviews, and stronger readability.
First of all, the concept of "family letter" is clarified. "Strange Daddy Stupid Girl" is published in the form of a diary, and after expert certification, these messages have gone beyond the diary, but a family letter with emotion, interaction, resonance, and speculation. Correspondence between family members is the expression of the truest emotions. Pen and paper writing, in today's popular electronic media, even if the handwriting is sloppy and mixed with typos, it is also conducive to purifying the mind and tempering the mind. Although there is no off-site transmission of books, reading at different times still produces a cooling effect, prompting self-knowledge and self-improvement.
The daughter watched the TV series "Hot Mom Hot Girl", felt that "life must be self-respecting", and conducted two rounds of communication with her father on this topic. Dad left a message for the first time: "I think a person should respect himself whenever and wherever he is, self-respect is to understand himself, and he must see himself clearly!" The daughter replied, "Dad, I will be self-respecting, the teacher praised me, today is really happy!" "Dad replies again" Confidence determines the future, praise is a kind of motivation, hard work, hard work, equal to success! "They are all vernacular words of life, but in terms of educational effects, they are not inferior to the famous masters such as "Fu Lei's Family Book", "Zeng Guofan Family Book", and "Zheng Banqiao's Family Book".
Secondly, it shows the complete "I love my home". "Rabbit Daddy's Family Letter" added the daughter's high school and freshman messages, which lasted ten years, including a real "family letter" sent to the home through the post office during the first year of college. The number of messages in the third year of high school has decreased, but the daughter is still insisting, and the problems she is thinking about are more profound. For the first time in the book, I left a message asking, "Do you think your appearance is beautiful or your heart is beautiful?" Please write back! The last letter reported that "I have applied for three clubs, although I don't know if I can enter, but I at least tried my best to sign up!" I will study hard and will not let you down! "From ignorant primary school students to confident and cheerful college students, the growth path is clear and steadfast." In the "Daughter's Homework" and "Holiday Gifts" chapters, it is also reflected.
A major highlight is the appearance of her mother Li Haiyan. "Strange Daddy Stupid Girl" only records the dialogue between father and daughter, in fact, the mother is not absent, she left a message in the notebook very early as a "friend". The father is a "big friend", the daughter is a "little friend", and the family of three communicates with equal gestures. In contrast, it was found that the father talked more about his work to motivate his daughter, and the mother basically did not talk about it, only talking about the study and life matters that the daughter should pay attention to. Mom is also a model of career success, which confirms the difference between men and women, paying more attention to details and thinking more carefully. Parental care is complete love.
Without the harmony between Cheng Min and his wife, no matter how close the father and daughter are, it is difficult for the daughter to grow up healthily. The "Rabbit Father's Family Letter" posted a message note from Li Haiyan to Cheng Min, which exists more than 400 pieces, recording the wife's concern for her husband and instructing her to drink the beautiful soup she cooked by her own hand, accounting for a considerable proportion. "Husband: You must finish the soup today before going to work; remember to reply, your daughter called." "Dear husband: Today's breakfast is Ganoderma lucidum soup and corn, yesterday's porridge I came back tonight to eat again!" I wish my husband good health, peace in and out, and all the best! ”
This is clearly a love letter! The daughter who is immersed in this naturally experiences the happiness of loving and being loved all the time.
Again, the review and comments enhance the main idea, and the "golden sentence" is dense. "Rabbit Daddy's Family Letter" is not a strict style of family letters, only a few words, if simply listed into a book, it is inevitable to lose triviality. Time has passed and it is worth chewing again. After each "correspondence", the book set up a "Family Look Back" column to re-examine it with the current vision. In the third year of high school, I remember "I feel like I'm growing up again", my daughter recorded the experience of being alone at home, and her parents gave timely encouragement. In "Family Looking Back", Cheng Min said: "The ultimate purpose of education is to make children independent and eventually separated from their parents", Li Haiyan said: "We who are parents cannot be nannies for a lifetime." This is both a look back and a relief for her daughter's self-reliance and self-reliance.
The preface by Lu Qin, Zhang Ding, and He Suihong, the commentary by Xiao Binchen, the commentary by Wang Xiaomian, Lan Min, Qi Lizhu, and Dong Leming, as well as The Preface, Experience, and Afterword of Cheng Min refine the significance of individual cases and extend it to the universality of education and family. "At every juncture where my daughter grows up, she will hand over a ladder in time. It can be said that it is the family letter that accompanies the growth of the daughter" "Parents crouch down to listen, accept, and embrace the child, which has not only achieved the child, but also the parents" "In my eyes, any mountain treasure and sea flavor is not worth the wife's pot of beautiful soup." True love is not a mountain alliance oath hanging on the lips, but an ordinary bit of life"... Such golden sentences are the finishing touches for the family's calligraphy and painting, and the reading is fragrant.
Han Yu's "Original Tao" has a saying that "those who want to rule their country, first qi their home", which can be described as the positioning of Chinese culture on family style. General Secretary Xi Jinping has repeatedly expounded the importance of family style, and the relevant departments of the central government have jointly issued opinions on the construction of family style. It can be seen that the family style is not only related to their own "small family", but also related to the "everyone" of the country. Cheng Min said: "We are an ordinary family." Sincerely, this is one of countless middle-class families. But there are also extraordinary things, in that it has built an excellent family style and contributed to the wonderful life of a family of three.
"Rabbit Daddy Family Book", a vivid teaching material for parent-child education, and a model reading book for the construction of family style. For those who are busy and even confused, and do not know how to become parents, especially those who are fathers, it will definitely open the door into the child's heart.