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Some time ago, Cheng Lisha made a high-profile comeback in "Sister Lang 2".
When it comes to Cheng Lisha, everyone may not think of any of her works, and even compared with other sisters, she has no sense of existence.
Just like others will try to introduce their achievements and names, but when she introduces herself to others, there is only one sentence: I am Guo Xiaodong's wife.
At the time of the first mining, she made a bright and honest statement in the program, "I just want to be popular, I want to have a sense of existence."
The first stage appearance stunned everyone, she received a high score and entered the next stage as the third place in audience popularity, and shined on the stage.
Although it was eliminated during the previous performance, Cheng Lisha also gained a large group of fans.
And this comeback most brightened the netizens' eyes is her state, and her eyes on the stage are still full of that confident glow. At first glance, it is a woman who is spoiled by men and bubbles up in love.
But normally, women who are often so attached to men are not in line with the feminism of today's society, and the other sisters are very independent and successful women, and her identity seems out of place.
But what is interesting is that her marriage tied to Guo Xiaodong not only did not annoy the public, but her evaluation was "a happy woman" rather than "a full-time wife who gave up her career".
Why is Cheng Lisha so special?
What you see is not necessarily the truth
In fact, as a wife, Cheng Lisha was also a professional drama actress and graduated from the Shanghai Theater Academy. But since marrying Guo Xiaodong, he has slowly retired, and has been in the entertainment industry for twenty years, living the life of a husband and a godson.
The year before, because the two participated in "The Wife's Romantic Trip" together, Cheng Lisha was able to re-enter the screen again.
However, what made Cheng Lisha burst into flames was not her brilliant acting experience, but the national discussion # Cheng Lisha did not have a self in marriage #
She broke the "black material" of these years of marriage in the show:
Her marriage proposal to Guo Xiaodong was rejected many times;
She took more than 100 injections to give birth;
In order to take care of her husband and children, she gave up her acting career and worked as a full-time wife at home for many years;
Guo Xiaodong did not like her to wear clothes above the knee, and she only wore a long skirt with ankles after marriage;
Every time she goes out to shoot a movie and comes home, she personally goes to the airport to pick up, even in the middle of the night or in the early morning;
These words she said very easily, but netizens can be angry.
Guo Xiaodong also admitted after listening: I have never brought the keys to the house, I don't know what the keys look like, because whenever I go home, she will wait for me at home, and I almost lose my ability to take care of myself!
So the whole network is scolding Guo Xiaodong for being a straight man and not worthy of being a husband, scolding Cheng Lisha for not having a self, wishful thinking.
At first, I also thought that Cheng Lisha was a typical love brain, but with the popularity of the show, I understood her more and more.
Because from her, I saw a woman's firmness and calmness about marriage, and after watching each episode of the show, I could feel her direct and frank love for Guo Xiaodong.
Knowing that her love concept and lifestyle were scolded by netizens, she still generously said in the show, "If you want him, you will fly to meet him, and if you love him, you will tell him."
I want you to see me, I want to live with you. Show you how much I love you, let you see, and let you know. ”
To the outside, she looked almost morbid, humble in love, giving up everything about herself for a man.
But in fact, in the marriage, she has been taking the initiative and walking on the road to her own achievement.
She and Guo Xiaodong were able to finally come together because she was firm enough about love and marriage, knew what she wanted and did whatever it took to achieve herself.
Others said that she could not be a full-time housewife after marriage, but she still did it, and she relished it. She took the initiative to choose a lover, a way of life.
Long-term love is a two-way street
There is an issue in "Wife's Romantic Trip" that lets everyone call their husbands, after Cheng Lisha dialed the phone, Guo Xiaodong simply chatted a few words and hung up, she began to cry and said that she missed her husband.
She bluntly said that the reason why she did this was because she was too well protected by her husband.
Not only in the program, outside the program, the two will make more than 20 phone calls to each other every day, even if they are filming, even if they are scolded by the director, Guo Xiaodong will still answer his wife's phone.
When she encounters anything, she only needs to pour a brain to Guo Xiaodong, and she can solve it.
Guo Xiaodong does not want to look at outsiders, in the eyes of outsiders do not understand the style, even a little indifferent, in fact, in marriage he has his own way of loving people.
In order to make Cheng Lisha feel safe, Guo Xiaodong gave her a bank card as soon as she got married, and desperately took the drama outside to make money, but almost did not spend money.
Cheng Lisha's efforts will also be in the eyes, for the marriage proposal Cheng Lisha mentioned many times, Guo Xiaodong silently remembered in his heart, so he prepared a romantic underwater marriage proposal for Cheng Lisha.
Cheng Lisha, who was moved, left tears of happiness.
Cheng Lisha also expressed her heart: "When we have not yet stepped into marriage, it is easy to say that I am willing, because having love will make you have enough courage." But when we have been in marriage for more than ten years, every sentence I am willing to say, it is not so easy.
In fact, in marriage, what I did was not as good as what he did, so it should be the person who did not do well to propose.
I don't know if you're willing to take care of me like you used to, cry out in pain when I'm hurt, and go home when I have everything I don't want to do. ”
And what really made me change my mind about Guo Xiaodong was that Cheng Lisha mentioned Guo Xiaodong on another variety show "Please Mother", saying that he studied romance with Zhang Jie, bought a bouquet of flowers for her, hid the flowers in the jacket in advance, and wanted to suddenly take it out to give his wife a surprise, and the result was that he couldn't get it out several times.
The most valuable thing about a man is not sweet words, but knowing how to learn and grow in marriage and understand the wife's efforts. Because of this, Cheng Lisha is willing to eat for marriage.
their marital relationship,
The figures of most of the women are mapped
After some women marry into wives, they don't become the appearance of Cheng Lisha. But they were not as lucky as Cheng Lisha. The husband regards himself as a free nanny, and all the efforts of the wife are just a matter of course for the husband.
On the other hand, Cheng Lisha's marriage is just the opposite, and she has three ways of doing business in her marriage that are worth discussing:
1. Improve the value of being "needed" in marriage
Although Cheng Lisha is a full-time wife, she does not ask her husband for pocket money every month, but grasps the economic lifeblood of the family.
In an interview, Guo Xiaodong recalled: When I first got married, I wanted to show my diligence and wanted to make breakfast for my wife every morning, and Cheng Lisha directly said that I didn't want you to do this!
When asked why guo Xiaodong was not allowed to do housework, Cheng Lisha's answer was surprising: "If I still let him work, then what do I need to do?" ”
Indeed, what marriage relies on most is not love, but habit. Spoil him to the point of losing the ability to take care of his own life.
Finding a place in the marriage is also a success, and now Guo Xiaodong is spoiled to the point that she can't do without Cheng Lisha.
2, learn to be appropriate and expressive
There is a famous "south wind effect" in psychology: it means that both the north wind and the south wind want pedestrians to take off their coats, but they use different methods and get different results.
The north wind tried to use the cold to make the pedestrians submit, which backfired, but the south wind tried to make the pedestrians feel comfortable and relaxed, so that the pedestrians took the initiative to take off their coats, and finally achieved the goal.
The south wind effect is also very practical for marriage, women in the intimate relationship appropriately soft, weak, spoiled, sell cute, showing a warm side, seemingly weak, but through the warm wind long blow, drizzle moisturizer slowly resolve the contradiction, but more likely to become the winner of the intimate relationship.
Therefore, in front of men, even if you have hidden intentions in your heart, you must use your innate advantages to be as gentle as possible, so that you have the opportunity to further achieve your goals.
Chinese men are relatively subtle in expressing emotions, and only when chasing girls will they stimulate their sleeping romantic factors.
After marriage, it is more plain, and I feel that each other is already an old husband and wife, and there is no need to spend any more time on romance.
In fact, this is a very dangerous idea.
Women in marriage, more and more disappointed, more and more desperate, while men do not know it.
"Children who cry have sugar to eat", marriage is the same, know how to ask men, you can taste happiness. All marriages require our hard work, and going with the flow is the most powerless thing to say to ourselves!
3, learn to meet the face of men
People who pay attention to Cheng Lisha's Weibo know that she shows love every day on Weibo, a mouthful of a husband, and various festivals will post Guo Xiaodong's gifts to herself, and each time she has attached a text to express her joy, which undoubtedly satisfies the face of men.
Now that we have finally understood their marriage, how can such a real, decisive, dare to love and dare to hate woman be wronged? She did not lose herself as netizens said.
An independent woman is not only able to run her career well, but also manage her marriage well, but also a kind of independence.
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