As more and more marriageable people delay in entering marriage, the single group that is jokingly called "leftover men and leftover women" is growing, and TV dramas with leftover men and leftover women have become popular themes around 2012.
Released in October 2012, "Big Man When Married" is sincere and realistic, using the method of polyline projection to fully explain the difficulty of "being married". The drama won the "Top Ten TV Series of the Year" in 2012. The choreographer is ingenious, through the white-collar Cao Xiaoqiang's mortal trivia, so that 6 high-quality girls with different identities, different statuses, and different family backgrounds all have feelings for the food sales supervisor with a monthly salary of 10,000 yuan, because in this flashy society, it is difficult to find a down-to-earth and quiet, and Cao Xiaoqiang is the gold in the sand.
The kind and kind Cao Xiaoqiang (Xu Zheng) is a sales manager at a food company, with no prominent family background and ordinary work. Originally, he lived a quiet and conformist life, but all this was broken with the marriage and children of his friends and classmates around him.
The thirty-five-year-old "leftover man" Cao Xiaoqiang became a lonely man in this way. As the only son in the family, his mother was even more anxious to "go to the doctor for illness and disorder".
Cao Xiaoqiang has successively launched a love story with the tough and fragile Dao Ma Dan Guqing (Mei Ting), the naïve and noisy post-90s teacher Wu Xiaoliu (Cao Yuan), the real material Cai Weilan (Ma Su), the foreign company executive Xu Ruoyun (Che Xiao), the workaholic Zhao Kai (Song Jia), and the divorced old classmate Liu Chenxi (Zhang Xinyi).
In the vast blind date brigade, can Cao Xiaoqiang finally embrace the beauty and enter the palace of marriage?
In my opinion, Cao Xiaoqiang, the male protagonist of "Big Man When Married", uses a unique screen image to show an economic man who is still playing singles at the age of 35: his parents are anxious, he is not quiet, and he is a long and single road, making his life full of sour, sweet and bitter. The classic point of this drama is that no one in the play is "false", "facial", "martial arts drama" characters, sincerely with a very realistic story, vivid characters, showing the problem of "big man getting married".
He is realistic, he is sincere, he is practical, he will face the current situation that although the salary is good, he still needs to repay the mortgage, not to delusionally think of the beauty beyond his own ability, nor will he be vain, he is just trying to find happiness.
Just as Mao Buyi's song: "An excellent person like me, who should have lived a splendid life, how to come more than twenty years in the end, still floating in the sea of people" In this article, we come to appreciate the sour, sweet and bitter between Cao Xiaoqiang's first love and the strong and fragile knife Ma Dan Guqing on the outside:
Cao Xiaoqiang and the world, men are difficult, good men are more difficult, Cao Xiaoqiang is difficult, Cao Weiye is very simple
Cao Xiaoqiang and the family, behind each love there is a mother, is the embodiment of family resistance
Cao Xiaoqiang and Gu Qing, strong girls are insecure, it is difficult to believe that it is not men, but themselves
Love: The power of love comes from two people, and the difference in world view will make the power condense and disperse the power
Separation: It is always each other who defeat love, and those who destroy love are often doubts
Ask each other: how can people who love each other be honest, and the white lies are exposed, which is the drug of doubt
Final Chapter: People who love each other do not necessarily be together, nor do they have to remember for life, love, and forget each other, just like Cao Xiaoqiang's plaster
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Cao Xiaoqiang and the world: men are difficult, good men are even more difficult, Cao Xiaoqiang is difficult, Cao Weiye is very simple</h1>
1. Cao Xiaoqiang's emotional world is difficult, and "good men" need to be responsible for the world
Cao Xiaoqiang meets all the characteristics of being an "affordable man", has a stable salary, and barely enters the middle class. Work hard and be down-to-earth, treat people sincerely, and have a high tolerance for parents and relatives. Loyal to feelings, a little persistent, always want to find a soul mate who can fight together. But it was such a man who was left behind.
Returning home alone at night, not only to face Cao Xiaoqiang, who is cold in the cold pot and cold stove, but also to cope with the three times a day of the mother in the field and the endless persecution, behind the forced laughter and the mother's gag, the difficulty of a 35-year-old "affordable man" is fully displayed.
If it is a man with rhetoric, or a man with different appearances, as long as Cao Xiaoqiang has more scum on his body, he may have already taken off the list, but the reality is really like this. It's like an article, missing metaphors and exaggerations, the whole article is directly described, and it is not a splendid article. The reality is that a good man can't have these, and Cao Xiaoqiang is difficult to do. When the eldest man gets married, this is one of the real pain points. In reality, there are more such men. This is also where the classic of this play is mentioned at the beginning, and there are no "false", "facial" and "protagonist" people in the play.
2. Cao Weiye's emotional world is very simple, leaving sincerity, throwing away responsibility is to remove the pain, the beauty of love is gorgeous
Cao Weiye is definitely a good brother that the public generally hopes to have now. He is very dedicated to his friends and can always stand up in times of danger. For Cao Xiaoqiang, only recognition and support, his attitude towards life is detached and independent, and he is Xiaoqiang's best buddy.
When Cao Weiye was playing the piano for Cao Xiaoqiang's nurse, that innocent love seemed so beautiful, and simple love was gorgeous. Cao Weiye's love standard is also very simple, sincere treatment, love is still in love, no love to leave, good gathering and dispersion, always leave a brilliant moment. All that is left for the girl is beautiful love. Compared with Cao Xiaoqiang, Cao Weiye's emotional world is particularly simple.
Cao Xiaoqiang and family: Behind every love there is a mother, the embodiment of family resistance</h1>
There will be a mother behind every love, if not, it is that love has not reached the fire. Cao Xiaoqiang's mother's attitude towards Gu Qing is that of a standard Chinese mother. Joy and understanding from the very beginning. to gradual recognition and hospitality. Then slowly doubt and disagree. Until the final understanding of the families of both parties, it was resolutely opposed. This is a must-have package for many Chinese-style marriages, and the deep chasm that cannot be crossed in time for older age.
1. Love is never a matter of two people
Parents love their children, and they have far-reaching plans for them. This is an old saying from more than a thousand years ago, and it is not outdated even now. Love is never a matter of two people. When Cao Xiaoqiang and Gu Qing's love sprouted from just beginning to thriving, Cao Ma, Cao Dad, Old Uncle, Gu Dad, and cousin broke into the love world of the two like a marquee. Two elderly young men and women in the family room collision under the storm, extremely hard to protect their rare love, love so hard.
When love needs to carry two families to sprint, heavy pressure can make people tired. Love has never been a matter of two people, through the ages, it is better to be!
2. Every fruitful love needs to cross the families of both parties
When the cousin came back from the suburban school, he made another wave! He couldn't think clearly of ten thousand, his cousin's hand called that Gu Qing discount twice, how could they still come together?
When Cao Mama heard her son's hand being discounted twice! Immediately exploded, chasing Cao Xiaoqiang to the end, Cao Xiaoqing could not hide it, only to recruit one hundred and fifty. Although Gu Qing's family was burdensome, Cao's mother still accepted Gu Qing, but the fact that she could beat people made her disagree with Cao Xiaoqiang's re-association with Gu Qing.
When Gu Dad made a big fuss about the Cao family for his daughter, Cao Mom insisted that the woman buy a house! Then after Gu Dad disappeared for many days, he came back with a large bag of change, saying that he had not slept for three days and put together 100,000 yuan to let his daughter buy a house. Just when Gu Qing gave his father a bowl of noodles, he found that Gu Feng could no longer wake up.
Every fruitful love needs to face both families, and it is marriage that lovers cross over, and what remains is love. When the flame of love swaying in the wind faces the constant exchange of various family members, the flickering flame will still emit the light of love. In the face of all kinds of right and wrong, Cao Xiaoqiang had an iron heart, he had to be with Gu Qing, he said that he would not let go of Gu Qing, which made Gu Qing moved, and both of them were unswerving... That's why love makes people struggle, but do you think that's enough? It is not enough, and the test from all sides is already on the way.
Cao Xiaoqiang and Gu Qing: Strong girls are insecure, and it is difficult to believe that it is not men, but themselves</h1>
Gu Qing lives alone with his sister, as a knife Andma Dan, with a bit of kung fu. Independent life makes her strong and independent, hot personality, in order to hinder her sister's love affair with Cao Xiaoqiang's cousin, Yin and Yang mistakenly discounted Cao Xiaoqiang's arm twice. And it is precisely in the continuous contact under the farce that Cao Xiaoqiang has a good feeling for Gu Qing, who is strong on the outside and weak on the inside.
1. Gu Qing is an independent person, protecting himself and protecting others, the sincerity of love, the steadfastness of love
There are few girls like Gu Qing, and perhaps it is the hard life and career that shape her character. There is no weakness and willfulness of the little girl, always trying her best to solve the problems in life, not relying on her parents, and taking her sister alone until she is almost 30 years old. When such a girl has feelings for a man, her love is sincere and down-to-earth.
Leaving aside the family conditions of both sides, Gu Qing is actually very suitable for Cao Xiaoqiang. Complementing personalities and consistent values, it is the standard good man and good girl. Life entry is like the first sight, what autumn wind sad painting fan.
With the deep integration of the two families, various problems have also surfaced one by one. It has nothing to do with love, but it is also closely related.
2. The strong girl's weak heart, peace of mind, Xiao Cao can reassure her heart
Strong girls are often insecure, after fighting alone suddenly encountered the down-to-earth Cao Xiaoqiang, the two sides experienced a series of events such as sister's early love, escort, seeing parents, Cao Mom's opposition, father's death, etc., Gu Qing suddenly found that there is such a man who can reassure himself. Let yourself feel that you are no longer alone, and you have more worries and steadfastness in your heart.
Love is such an unexpected encounter, when you meet the person who can make you feel at ease, for an older girl, what is not satisfied? Gu Qing firmly fell in love with this man.
3. It is not Xiao Cao who does not believe, it is a man
In the face of Cao Ma's opposition and Gu Dad's tossing, the two let the two quickly strengthen their love and decided to go down together. Cao Xiaoqiang moved away from home and lived in the home of the dead party. He and Gu Qing frequently dated, and Gu Dad's death also came to an end temporarily. Seemingly calm love, but when the external force disappears, there is an internal problem.
The crux of the matter is also very direct, Gu Qing does not believe in men, Cao Xiaoqiang and other girls are slightly relieved, more or less caused a little misunderstanding, will subconsciously aggravate their own inner world. When it was misunderstood that Cao Xiaoqiang was watching the movie alone, this seed of doubt finally broke out. Just as love is at peace, when doubt makes you no longer feel at ease, love faces a rupture.
In fact, Gu Qing herself also understood that what she did not believe was not Cao Xiaoqiang, nor love, what she did not believe was a man. Her mother and her father have told her about the untrust of men with real experience, and even this disbelief has become the source of motivation for her to take her sister to run independently after years of practicing. It will take a long time to dissipate the uneasiness in the heart and return to the gentleness of women, but the older self and Cao Xiaoqiang do not have this kind of time. Ripening love can no longer soothe Gu Qing's heart, and she chooses to escape and leave.
Love: The power of love comes from two people, and the difference in world view will make the power condense and disperse the power</h1>
The painting is good like a spring mountain eyebrow, and the knot of a hundred years is concentric.
1. Resistance often translates into help
When Cao Ma's mother was extremely resolute in opposition, when Gu Dad made a big fuss about Cao's family, Cao Xiaoqiang and Gu Qing's love seemed to be in turmoil, but the hearts of the two people were squeezed tightly together. An elderly man and woman, in the face of long-lost love, invariably choose to know each other, keep each other, and are determined to love all the way.
Even Gu Dad's death did not change the hearts of the two. Cao Xiaoqiang moved away from his home for love, and Gu Qing faced the Cao family directly, but also for love. Leftover men and women can keep their hearts and bravely pursue their love. I was very touched by the vivid interpretation of the tenacity in love.
2. If the external force is not there, the inner will be chaotic
Blocking the influence of external forces, can love be smooth sailing? When an adult is married, we tell us the opposite. When you break through the cage and chase love, the lack of blessings and family support pressure will follow your love. On the surface of seeming freedom, it silently magnifies the anxiety in the hearts of both parties in love.
Without pressure, the internal force of the two people will be written off, and they will no longer work together as before. This may be love, everyone can not be exempt from the vulgar, and how much love is the end of this step?
3. Love is still a matter of two people, marriage is not
I love you, no reason. Love you just a very simple
Love is simple, but it is only a problem solving process, and the answer is marriage. Grandpa Mao said: "Love that does not have the purpose of marriage is to play hooligans." How many loves end in order to get married?
Love is a matter of two people, and loving you is simply liking you, and has nothing to do with anything else. But love without family support loses its blessing, as if the rose without soil will eventually wither away.
Separation: It is always each other who defeat love, and those who destroy love are often doubts</h1>
1. It is always each other who defeat love
In the face of Gu Qing's misunderstanding, Cao Xiaoqiang finally couldn't face it calmly. He understood that Gu Qing needed a sense of security, and he did a good job. But when the misunderstanding stems from each other, there is no other person he can support himself. Facing Cao Xiaoqiang Guqing was painful, because this man broke through her strength. Facing Gu Qing, Cao Xiaoqiang is helpless, although he has walked into this woman's heart, he cannot stand with her all the time. It is always each other who defeat love.
2. What destroys love is often doubt
Sometimes we know that the other person loves us, but we still keep getting angry. Obviously knowing his character, he still couldn't help but doubt it. What Gu Qing didn't believe was not Cao Xiaoqiang, what she didn't believe was herself. Her mother and her father both used real experiences to tell her that men were not credible, and she could not convince herself to calmly face possible misunderstandings. When the misunderstanding was solved, Gu Qing himself clearly realized, "I will cause harm to you!" ”。 But what about knowing? She did not have time to treat her heart, Cao Xiaoqiang did not have time, and the feelings of this older man and woman eventually went to self-rupture.
When Gu Qing decided to leave Beijing without consultation, and when Cao Xiaoqiang threw away the plaster cast with Gu Qing's contact information, this touching love finally came to an end. It begins with plaster and ends with plaster, as if it were a reincarnation. And what can destroy love is precisely doubt.
Ask each other: how can people who love each other be honest, and the white lies are exposed, which is the drug of doubt</h1>
Gu Qing finally chose to leave, taking away his father's ashes. I can't help but feel confused, how can people who love each other be honest? Cao Xiaoqiang is already a standard honest person, love originally needs a certain space with each other, and white lies should be the lubricant of love. But when it was punctured, it became the medicine that Gu Qing suspected.
At the end of every sincere love relationship, the other party will sincerely bless each other, as if only the other party can leave with peace of mind if they are well. Gu Qing found a new life, found a good job opportunity, but also unloaded Xiao Cao Xiaoqiang's last worry, it is time to end! As if this is the only way to make a perfect love!
Every end will be accompanied by new hope, without hope, there will be no end, hope is for oneself, but also for the lover.
Final Chapter: People who love each other do not necessarily be together, nor do they have to remember for life, love, and forget each other, just like Cao Xiaoqiang's plaster</h1>
In the background of the Jing Cavity, Gu Qing looked at Cao Xiaoqiang: "Cao Xiaoqiang, you are a good person, take care!" ”
The doctor gently tapped Cao Xiaoqiang's plaster cast, "Can I keep this plaster?" "What's the use of this, you keep it" "Oh, it's useless." ”
Starting from plaster, and finally plaster, this plain and vigorous relationship between older men and women has brought us too many touches. People who love each other don't necessarily be together, and they don't have to remember, love, and forget each other for a lifetime!
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