The wish of many female celebrities is to marry into the giants, but "once they enter the giants, they are as deep as the sea"! There is an Internet celebrity, named Shen Lijun, she married into the rich as she wished, and also gave birth to children for her husband's family, but in exchange for the happy life she wanted, in the middle of the night, she jumped from home, and at this time, her husband and her lover were choosing a wedding dress. Some people say that it is really not worth it for her to do this, why do you say so?
First, it is not worth it for the sake of the family, giving up self-learning and promotion
After Shen Lijun and her husband met, when her husband pursued her, he was very attentive, she was very touched, and she agreed. After that, they married in as they wished, and many people felt that this was the story of the prince and the princess, but in fact, there was no combination of corresponding strength, which was bound to be problematic.
She was at ease at home with her husband and children, thinking that this was a happy life, but she forgot that a happy life needed two people to create. Some people say that in married life, is there a mistake in one person outside the Lord and one person inside the Lord? There is no fault, and the fault is that those who are wrong in the Lord are not exalted. The way two people think will change because of the difference between inside and outside.
Women are busy at home, sometimes taking care of children, they forget to dress themselves, and when men return home, they no longer see the glamorous woman, but a wife in pajamas or casual clothes. This visual conflict is difficult for men to accept.
With that said, there may be many people who will think that this is for the man to shirk, in fact, the rich husband looks at her because of her talent? No, it's her beauty and temperament. If he didn't dress up for a long time, he would naturally get bored, although he knew that she had paid a lot for the family.
It can be seen from the fact that he quickly found a young and beautiful woman, he is a face value faction, and he likes women with better looks. In his eyes, Shen Lijun is just a woman who cleans and takes care of her children, which is too much compared with the beautiful women outside.
He forgot that she was also so beautiful at that time, and it was also because of her beauty that attracted him. After giving him a baby, he forgot about it. Shen Lijun also told her mother-in-law about him, and her mother-in-law asked her to endure on the child's face, and she felt right. But, she forgot, she was his mother.
Her blind tolerance has led to her husband's arrogance even worse, and the woman he likes even ridicules her on social networks as a hen who only lays eggs. This shows that the one he likes, she, is no longer there. What she should do is to get out of the house and do the same with Luo Zijun (the heroine of "The First Half of My Life").
Prove your value with your own strength, instead of teaching your husband and children at home, and gradually become a yellow-faced woman. Some people say that it is too late to say anything now, do not experience human suffering, and do not persuade people to be good. Her patience and pain in the process, only she herself knew, if not desperate, how could she jump from the 28th floor?
Indeed, she was diagnosed with cancer at the time, which was the last straw that overwhelmed her. She did not expect that the person she married would be so quick to empathize with each other, and he was really so cruel (at that time, they were very happy and very husband and wife). Indeed, from a moral point of view, this man is really not a thing.
If from the perspective of marriage, she lost her charm, he left. Yu Mingjia once said that her husband also asked her to teach her husband and children at home, but she refused. She felt that if she was at home every day, she would be disconnected from society. At first, a man may tolerate you, but when he feels that you are no longer attractive, he will turn away. And you will have nothing.
As an actress, she did not give up acting and had a good relationship with her husband. And Shen Lijun is busy at home, her contact with the outside world is reduced, and when her husband does not like it, she has no way to solve it, she can only suppress the depression in her heart, and eventually suffers from cancer, which is also her sadness (a few years before marriage, she was still very happy).
Second, it is not worth it for a woman who has physical problems and loses the ability to protect her children
Marriage is a walled city, people on the outside want to come in, people inside want to go out. Shen Lijun may not have thought of leaving, because she was reluctant to have children, but this home had no place to live. She didn't leave, she didn't find a way to increase her value, and the end result was that she passed away.
Marriage is not the only thing in life, there are many female stars who have been divorced, Yuan Li is such a female star, even if she leaves a rich man like Xu Wei, she still longs for love, still pursues love. Married to an unknown poet, now very happy. Shen Lijun should also be able to do it, I don't know why she didn't do it.
After getting married and having children, her work focused on children, which was understandable, but she did not improve herself. Some people say that this is standing and talking without waist pain, children alone are busy enough, how to have time to learn, how to improve?
Stella in "Perfect Relationship" (played by Chen Shu) did not make a sound after knowing that her husband had cheated, but filmed evidence of her husband's cheating and let her husband get out of the house. Since Shen Lijun didn't love anymore, she would adopt this way. Some people say that the husband's family is humiliated and not good for her.
Can not be announced, through this to get more assets, children, husbands to give, take away, anyway like children. If the husband's family does not give, if he does not want the child, then go through the legal process and seek the opinion of the child in court, so that he can protect his rights and interests.
Children can't be unwanted, but they have to be reasonable. Since he is unkind, don't blame us for being unrighteous. The derailment is definitely an ugly thing for the husband's family. They are also reluctant to speak up, so they leave with their children. The husband's family may say that she is the one who came to cheat money, and they say that as long as the child is taken away, it doesn't matter.
After leaving, he still worked in the previous industry. Even if the husband's family is looking for someone to hack her, her fan base is huge, and in the Internet age, there will always be many people who will uphold justice. Her influence on the Internet is certainly greater than that of her husband. Although there is no need to tear your face with your husband, you don't have to be so non-committal.
Her husband dared to be blatant, and he had to make him pay the price, after all, this matter was his fault. Her forbearance, in exchange for his intensification, such a man, do not kick twice, sorry for him! And as if he didn't know he was wrong, he was still frowning at the young woman.
As long as you want to catch evidence, it is easy to catch. This is proof of getting more assets. Even if you don't divorce, you can use this way to get him back to the family, so that the woman can't get anything. He died at a young age, was he making way for the woman? Why cheapen that woman?
Many people feel that the woman should be spurned, he looks at her face, and when her face is old, she will also take shen Lijun's old path. It's just that she is now, and she doesn't think about the future. Since a man can abandon the original match, he can abandon the new person, because when the new person becomes the old man, there will be a new person to replace.
Shen Lijun may feel that divorce is not good, just endure in the marriage, as a result, there are physical problems, coupled with the stimulation of foreign women, her emotions collapsed, and finally jumped from the 28th floor, which is also her suffering. But what about children? If this woman beats a child, won't she be distressed in heaven?
Third, it is not worth dying for a stinky man
Shen Lijun can have her own career after marriage, like Guo Jingjing, and can also help the family business progress. And she didn't, being a rich wife at home, enjoying a good rich life, but she may have forgotten, why did the rich marry her? It's because of beauty, but beauty is gone, what does she do?
She didn't think about it that much, just immersed herself in her own world. In a mindset, it's easy to get stuck in knots, and the result is that people go to extremes. Qiao Renliang died because of online violence, but also because he has been in this network environment, as long as he does not go online, he can solve the problem perfectly.
The perpetrators of online violence certainly do not dare to carry out violence in reality, because after the implementation, they can immediately call the police to catch them. Qiao Renliang was gone, which was a pity. Shen Lijun left, it was a pity. It's just that she left because of a person she once loved. Some people say that she has the style of an ancient martyr woman. It is true, but this is not ancient, there are no three from four virtues.
Even in ancient times, Lin Daiyu's knowledge was stronger than Jia Baoyu's. Shen Lijun died for a man who did not love himself, it was really not worth it. After all, she still has a family to take care of, and she still has children to raise. Some people say that she was already suffering from cancer at that time, what to do?
A few years of giants can turn a cheerful girl into a cancer patient, which is definitely related to her change of mentality. When filming with Gu Tianle, she was so confident and cheerful, why did she become a cancer patient after becoming a rich wife? What needs to be adjusted is her mentality?
Some people say that people cannot be resurrected from the dead. It is true, but we can see the changes in her life trajectory, we can also see the changes in her life, although she did not get happiness, we can see something from her story, these things are girls or actresses need to reflect.
You can't just stare at the giants, and the life of the giants may not be good. If you marry in, you must also improve yourself more, Chen Meiqi is also unable to have children because of a woman, and finally left the tycoon. Shen Lijun died because of a man, and she didn't know what she thought in the Heavenly Kingdom!
Write at the end:
A person's happiness is created or grasped by oneself. As the saying goes: My fate is up to me! Shen Lijun, on the other hand, took another path, which was her sadness and caused by her husband. We criticize her husband for not being able to change her back, so why did it cause such an ending?
Women can't base their happiness on marrying well, but on doing a good job. Only you have value, even if others don't love, you can still love yourself, and you have the ability to love yourself. This is also what this story gives us, marrying well is the ancient mode of thinking, and doing a good job is the state that should be in the present. What do you think?