Crazy housewives ~ mamma mia

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First of all, the theme, mothers, especially the new generation of mothers (young mothers with babies around 2008), are crazy!

Before there were Chinese uncles crazy stock speculation, after there were Chinese aunts crazy to buy real estate to buy gold, when a wave of gold lords came forward, a wave of gold lords fell. The new generation of mothers began to emerge, in front of which was only online shopping micro-business, and now the typical sign of ~~~~~~~ education investment.

First, my views are not important at all, more of a feeling and thought; second, my views will only be visible in the family and among a few book friends, so if you want to say who you want to influence, in fact, you can affect these dozen at most; third, my views are certainly inaccurate in the past, and it is difficult to say in the future, but in the present, at least it should be worth considering.

Why do I think that there is a little money spent on education, so I have to put a big hat on my mothers? In fact, it stems from past personal life experience and experience, and also confirms the information seen between friends and colleagues at the next few dinners, and because I personally feel that in fact, under the tide of madness, I must have a sober judgment, otherwise I will either become the leader of the tide with the tide, or drown in the big waves, or be stripped of my underwear and naked on the beach, or actually have the opportunity to stand on the beach and watch. The latter seems to either lose nothing or gain nothing, but in fact, everyone may also overlook the fact that the people who watch from the wall are not necessarily just people who come in vain, but also those who open shops to sell popsicles, or change the way of harvesting (such as watching the tide and making scenes, going back to selling stories and selling film). But most of those who rush into the sea end up likely to be inferior to those on the shore.

Talk about what I came from, so I have such a big urge to write something.

In fact, the earliest is from my very good buddy, two girls in the family, this year a high school, a primary school fourth grade, according to him only two children's education costs every month to invest 20,000-30,000 yuan. Every month, everyone feels stressed, don't you? This friend runs the business, the daily income is roughly hundreds of thousands of yuan a year, but because it is doing business, the daily expenses are also very large. After all, it is people's own flesh and blood, so although I feel that the investment in education is too high, since parents are willing to give up, we others should shut up and not talk more. But on the one hand, looking at his huge daily pressure, on the other hand, watching him travel back and forth to Beijing and Tianjin on Saturdays and Sundays (because the eldest daughter is in tianjin for high school, and the little girl is next to beijing for primary school). This arrangement is made to take into account the so-called quality of teaching.

At a dinner party two days ago, in addition to me, there was a second-in-command of a certain company (I am also a rich second-generation, with a two-year-old daughter), and a group of colleagues from two companies (most of them are young mothers), and the topic at the dinner table shifted from daily business work to the current economic situation, boom and sluggish industry, to this year's education industry (because this year it seems that only the education and insurance industry is the development of economic conditions), and finally to everyone talked about the daily education investment of their children at home. I have nothing to say myself, mainly because I think that my ideas about my children's education do not conform to the mainstream ideas most of the time, so I just shut up and listen, and occasionally respond. Therefore, listening to the personal introduction of these mommys, I learned that one is that one of them has just applied for a two-year 50,000 one-on-one online English course for his doll; the other, in order to cultivate his child's interests, pulls his own doll to participate in various courses, and then experiences the doll from the initial interest to the loss of interest and then completely does not go to class; the latter is more exaggerated, saying that now wait a few years (the child is just one year old), wait a few years when the child is almost 6 or 7 years old, and send the child directly out of the foreign boarding school for a year. Although there are differences in the economic situation of these mothers, the family has a house and a car, and both husband and wife go to work, and the income is generally OK. But if they are very rich, it should not be counted, but when they talk about the educational investment that has already happened, the kind of arrogance they show, really makes me feel terrified, and the liver and gallbladder are actually broken inside.

Then there is an interaction I had in the circle of friends today. On weekdays, I flip through the circle of friends, mostly for work and social needs, and occasionally post a book review in a small area similar to punching a card. But today I see many former female colleagues who have known each other one after another, and now they are young mothers, and the concept of education is so similar, and the investment in education is so obsessed, it really makes me worry about my future. Among them, one of the circles of friends I saw was actually an educational advertorial, but the content written by this friend in the back really scared me. The sentence goes like this:

If you were taught as a child that "everyone in the world is unique, so everyone is the best!" Then when you become an adult, the world will teach you fiercely, what is called survival of the fittest!

My God, the meaning of this statement is actually to say that we must desperately invest in education, and we must spare no effort to let children learn all kinds of things, and finally ensure that they are not eliminated by society. I'm not sure if this view is the view of young mothers now, but I do want to say that it is definitely different from my point of view, and it can even be said to be the opposite.

To add a message, the previous meal, two years of 50,000 yuan online course that mother, is to their children to report the foreign teacher English class, her idea is very simple, to let their children must learn English, the reason is that English is the world's common language, will be the same in the future, and the money will depreciate there, although they say that let the child learn more things is to improve the return in the future, but I understand that she means that increasing "education investment" is actually a good return on investment. And the mother who wants to send her son, who is just old enough to enter primary school, to board abroad for a year, on the grounds that going abroad early will make it easier to adapt to the environment and learn English easily. At that time, some mothers said that there are still some children who let their children learn programming from elementary school!

Oh my God! Oh my God! I don't know what everyone thinks, but in fact, I just disagreed at the time. But looking back now, I was freaked out at the time. In my opinion, these mothers are simply the mothers of the ancient Greek Spartan city-states, not necessarily really treating their children as young children and weak daughters, but as potential, future Spartan warriors, and now all kinds of blood-costed investments are to send them to the future that people are afraid of when they think of it, that future is not such a peaceful and peaceful society as it is now, but a Shura field, an ancient Roman arena, that society is full of dangers, full of crises, and mothers are cultivating saints. And what these little saints will do in the future is to fight and survive!

But my thought is that if the future is so dangerous, people with normal brain circuits should be wiser not to have children!!

Or from the topic at the dinner table, for the colleague who invested tens of thousands of dollars a year in one-on-one diplomacy, I told her that in fact, there is no need to learn English now, on the one hand, the child can't use it temporarily, on the other hand, I gave an example: that is, the technology is developing rapidly, and when the child grows up to need to communicate with others in foreign languages, it doesn't matter which Chinese, a translation software, or an external device that automatically translates with the voice (such as a headset) to get everything done, in fact, I have reservations in the topic. If we are forced to the extent of China's economic development in the future, everyone must learn Chinese or something, then in fact, there will be no lethality. To see the expression of this mother at that time, it is actually a little uncomfortable! Another said that sending his children to go abroad for a year, I did not speak, afraid of being beaten, but the rich second generation next to him stood up and said that language needs the environment, and can be learned quickly in the environment, but not in the environment, as a child will soon forget. In contrast, I nodded my head a million times in silent agreement. Fortunately, the mother's money has not actually been spent, so the topic has gone somewhere else.

In today's society, competition is indeed very fierce, but I actually have a feeling that the fiercely competitive battlefield we feel exists only in first-tier cities and developed cities, below the second and third tiers, and should not be so fierce and not so much pressure. But with the movement of hot money in various industries, as the speed and influence of information dissemination is getting faster and faster, more and more true and false is difficult to distinguish, things like education will become a money-burning transaction, and stock gold is not the same thing, financial products are cyclical, more or less can see some changes in the future, but human life is only once, with the change of life cycle, in fact, the so-called education investment, most of the time just hit the water.

Speaking of which, there may be a lot of moms who protest seriously. For example, if the child plays the piano, even if he has not become a musician, but the child at least knows some music theory, just understands some instrument playing skills, which will increase the temperament; for example, the child who learns English will say, at least the child's English course is easier than others; and those who let the child learn Mathematics extracurricular tutoring are more convincing and sonorous.

I'm still that sentence, not my child, and it really doesn't make sense to say too much. But the general atmosphere and environment of this society are like this, if I don't say something different, sooner or later it will affect myself.

For education, my current understanding is actually to become a talent or a talent. No matter how the semantics are stretched literally, from the perspective of learning content, there must be a priority. For example, Chinese learn Chinese characters, foreigners learn English, in fact, the purpose is the same, because being able to read and write is a basic need for communication and communication, so from a young age to learn, but also have to learn almost, because the future communication and expression will have problems, so depending on this, I myself feel that my language courses have always been good, so now I also benefit from this ability. Another example is swimming class, not to mention physical fitness, but also to save life under special circumstances, so it is better to learn early than to learn late, but in the future, the world will only be left with deserts, or there is nothing to learn. For example, courses like foreign languages and piano, if they are not specially for interest, in order to have such a musical temperament (good to be able to sell for a good price in the future), in my opinion, there is nothing to learn. Think of those real masters, except for a few who have talents and conditions from an early age, who can become masters when they grow up, most of them are actually people who have achieved success by later following their interests and ambitions. The protagonist of Maugham's "The Moon and Sixpence" who taught himself to become a painter is precisely in real life.

But if the family economic conditions are very good, the children are willing, the parents can afford it, in fact, do not have to think too much, but if the general family also adheres to this idea of not investing in it, it will be backward and the child will suffer losses, in fact, not only can not achieve this good wish, but also easy to become another extreme, extreme poverty!

The lights went out in the carriage, my eyes were tingling and uncomfortable, and I was going to stop writing.

Before I stop writing, I would like to make two more points in a summative manner:

First, education investment, play until later will only fall into the prisoner's dilemma; in the end, those gifted and well-off children can become the winners, and families that do not have these conditions will become poor because of superpowers to pay.

Second, in my eyes, education, in fact, is still to educate themselves, to teach themselves well, to make themselves a rational person, a person with judgment, a talented person, a person who understands their own interests and can chase their dreams. Because the latecomers will strengthen themselves for the same reason, not that everything for adults is for children, that is like eating rotten grapes, and eating rotten grapes forever is not enough!

Finally, I think of the Jews, who are the most Nobel Prize winners, the people who hold the most wealth in the world, and why they are like this is really worth learning and using as examples.

And myself, because I have a long life experience, have a lot of life setbacks and experiences, so when considering the issue of education, combined with my own situation, I think that the focus of its attention is to cultivate two abilities of children: one is self-learning ability, the other is the concept of wealth!

The former has grown up with me, allowing me to always be in a variety of competitive environments, not to be prematurely dumped by various elites, and at least to continue to grow and continue to eat rice; the latter, in the process of various failures in financial management, from thrift, yearning for sudden wealth, and finally dreaming of it. But at least after I have combined the two repeatedly, I still believe at least at this stage that I still have the opportunity to grasp a little wealth in the future. Rockefeller, the oil king, said that the concept of 10% value-added when educating his children, I think to this day, I really understand its meaning. This kind of skill (self-learning ability) and this kind of truth (the concept of wealth) is what parents need to help their children master, and I will also find a way to continue to improve it, and pass it on, so that it may become a force to relieve parents' anxiety, and become a force to help children get more happiness!