A partner who loves each other can only be destined to love as a stranger? At one o'clock in the morning, on the other side of the phone, two people who had not yet entered the marriage were talking about marriage with relish. I carefully shared the movie I had just watched recently, wondering if the marriage in the real world was really like that; she, who had studied feelings, said that the film was written by a writer who lived in life, and the whole play must be very close to reality.
The story tells the story of the separation of a marriage and the cohesion of the family, and through the divorce lawsuit interspersed with it, the structural problems of marriage and family are uncovered. The story can be very personal, exclusive to the love and marriage between them, or it can be a microcosm of the overall society on the issue of marriage and family.
The whole play from beginning to end is not exaggerated, bizarre bridge section, including each scene of the play, each actor's outfit, and every word and sentence of dialogue reading, is so natural, and just as you follow these ingenuity, into this seemingly ordinary story, the male and female protagonists with dazzling, scalp numbing superb acting skills, leading you to another level, reflecting on the essence of love and marriage.
Love is never a right-and-wrong question, but a multiple choice question
The heart-wrenching and sad thing about the marriage story is that it tells us that in love, there is no right or wrong, happiness and sadness, but it is just the result of the choices you and I make when we face love again and again. As a woman, the first thing I saw and was most moved by was the heroine's encounter. From acquaintance, falling in love, getting married, having children, and finally to the end of marriage, the fork in the road seems to Nicole to decide where to go without effort. It was her love for Charlie that constantly guided her direction and gave her immense courage, and even at the end of the marriage, her choice was still clear.
When she was determined to bid farewell to the marriage, she still applauded his achievements from the bottom of her heart; she still did not feel the desire to call him dear in the most intense and relentless quarrel between the two; and at the end of the marriage, she still involuntarily knelt down on her knees and put her shoelaces on his bun. She chooses to continue to love Charlie, but no longer expresses this love in the form of marriage. Nicole said to Charlie: I am your wife, and you should also consider my happiness! Charlie retorted: You were happy, you just decided now that you weren't happy at the time! Charlie's words sound harsh at first, but they are irrefutable, because it was indeed Nicole's choice, and she may have been really happy at the time. She knew that at this moment, she couldn't blame Charlie.
Nicole reminds me of many very good female friends around me, who gave up their original jobs and dreams because of the work of another partner, including high-achieving students who have studied abroad, senior supervisors who lead teams of dozens of people, strongmen in the workplace whose annual salaries are much higher than those of another partner, and who really love their own workers, and when I knew them, they were only the wives of so-and-so.
Of course, similar things don't all happen to women, there was a male friend who quit his job and flew to a foreign country in order to enter into marriage with his girlfriend, and I asked him at the time: Don't you think it is a great sacrifice? He replied: I don't think it's a sacrifice. That's what matters when you really want to be with this person, you're just doing what you have to do to reach your goals.
What makes love troubling – it's never a right or wrong question, it's a multiple choice question. Nicole chooses to exchange perfection for Charlie's achievements, Charlie uses his passion for drama to arouse Nicole's belief in love, even if Nicole's encounter is sympathetic and unwilling, Charlie is not an unforgivable big bad, the two have their own sacrifices and efforts, and no one is really the wrong side, and this is the love that is closest to real life.
Marriage should not be about abandoning me, but about creating us
In the end, aren't all marriages in a seeming and divine separation? In life, many newlyweds who are in love have become the most familiar strangers, some for the sake of face and children to support marriage, and some choose to let go and pursue a new life. This is perhaps why it resonates so greatly – it's not just about Charlie's marriage to Nicole, it's about thousands of couples of Charlie's marriages to Nicole.
When Nicole first met her lawyer, Nora, she tearfully recounted her love and resentment for Charlie, and the negative emotions of wandering and struggling were compounded by recalling the sweetness of the past. She said: "I don't know what my taste is because I never used it again. For the sake of marriage, for the sake of the family, for the sake of her husband, for the sake of her son, Nicole gave up her hometown of Los Angeles, gave up her career, she exchanged accommodation for the achievement of the other half, she felt that marriage made her no longer herself, or that she did not have herself at all.
For Nicole, marriage didn't create us, it was more like you plus me. So, when the result is what you want, it's the convention; the result is what Nicole wants, is the discussion? Sharp skepticism breaks the imbalance in the marriage. Nicole's tastes, preferences, opinions and dreams are all unimportant, and that may be the problem. We continue to see Charlie and Nicole's familiarity and love for each other, both of them can turn each other's goodness into tearful words, but Nicole is becoming more and more unhappy. She found that Charlie did not care about herself, or even the subject of marriage, and that her career was affirmed by Charlie because the money she earned could be invested in Charlie's theater. At this time, she realized that the failure of this marriage is not simply who does not love anyone, but in such a relationship, Nicole has gradually lost herself, so only by abandoning this marriage can she be reborn.
The concept of a good father was invented 30 years ago. In the past, we all thought that Dad should be quiet, not at home, unreliable and selfish, although modern people hope to change, but we basically accept it all. Nora, who has been divorced and is good at fighting divorce lawsuits, uses a very natural and personal tone to puncture the double standards that this society imposes on fathers and mothers.
In just a few words, the injustice of society, including gender discrimination, and the limitations of the definition of marriage - why should dads be like this? Mom should be like that? Why must it be a dad plus a mom? Can't it be two dads, two moms, or some other combination? Are all men the same all over the world? Why do you have to make changes in accordance with society's expectations and requirements for your father after becoming a father? In the same way, once a woman becomes a mother, is there only a single image of the mother role?
From lovers to family, two originally independent people, acquaintance and love, after continuous exploration and running, into marriage, with the understanding of each other, to find a way to know, get along, and cherish each other. However, when this society requires that married people must play a specific role, it deprives the two of their freedom to explore the balance together, destroys the long-established tacit understanding, and the marriage relationship becomes complicated and difficult. Like Charlie and Nicole, they are highly complementary in their living habits, but their talent achievements complement each other, and the division of labor outside the male and female protagonists cannot show their best areas at the same time, nor can they combine the most perfect combination of the two, and eventually end in divorce.