Audrey Hepburn once said: "My life is more wonderful than a fairy tale, and I have encountered difficulties, but at the other end of the tunnel, there is always a bright light." ”
Audrey Hepburn's life, there have been a wealthy childhood without food and clothing, there has been a poor life without food, there has been a brilliant film career, there have been four emotional experiences, there have been two unfortunate married lives, there are close friends who really love themselves, and there are affirmed lifelong achievements, ups and downs, more wonderful than fairy tales, can be called legends.
Photo of Audrey Hepburn at birth
Many people envied Audrey Hepburn's beauty and achievements, envied her friendship with Pike and Givenchy, and of course, many people lamented her two failed marriages. In a way,
Audrey Hepburn's father, Joseph Victor Anthony Hepburn Ruston, was a british national, born in the bohemian town of Uzig, his father was British, and his mother Anna's dowry was rich, so his childhood life was relatively rich. From an early age, he developed a profligate personality and devoted himself to the financial industry as an adult.
Audrey Hepburn in childhood with her father Joseph
Joseph was active in the South Pacific, the Dutch East Indies and European countries, and around 1923 and 1924, on the Indonesian island of Sumatra, he met Audrey Hepburn's mother, Ella van Hemstra, who had visited her father.
At that time, Ella was not divorced, and Joseph's style made Ella very fond. After Ella returned to the Netherlands, she and Horn Jean van Youdford were stubborn and stubborn, which made Ella feel that the marriage had come to an end, and divorced despite having two children.
A rare photo of Audrey Hepburn in childhood with her half-brothers Arles and Ian
After the divorce, Ella was sure that Joseph was still in Indonesia, so she resolutely went to Indonesia. In 1926, the two married in Jakarta, Indonesia, and later went to England and Brussels, Belgium, together. During their marriage, Joseph also held positions at the Brussels branch of the Bank of England.
On May 4, 1929, Audrey Hepburn was born, and the last name column of the birth certificate only wrote "Ruston" and not "Hepburn", so Audrey Hepburn's full name at that time was "Audrey Catherine Ruston". Later, Joseph discovered the surname "Hepburn" in family records, and Audrey Hepburn's full name became "Audrey Catherine Hepburn Ruston".
While living in Brussels, Joseph was in frequent contact with right-wing politicians and was convinced that doing business with the German Fuehrer would make a lot of money. Because of her father's profession and her first husband, Ella continued to associate with many aristocratic landlords, high-ranking military officers, government officials and royal courtiers in the Netherlands after marriage, and her Hermstra family background also reminded her to act rationally and carefully.
Audrey Hepburn as a child with her mother
Joseph is a very assertive, confident, and even a little stubborn person, and Ella's personality is very similar to Joseph's. Differences in values and strong differences of opinion led to frequent quarrels between the two during their marriage, and doomed Ella's future marriage to Joseph to end in a parting path. This upset young Audrey Hepburn, who, according to Audrey Hepburn later recalled, "When my parents began to argue fiercely, I used to hide under the dinner table.
The Rustons eventually struggled to agree on their attitude toward fascism, and in the second half of 1935 (some say May), Audrey Hepburn's father ran away from home. A few years later, Audrey Hepburn's parents divorced. As for the reasons for the divorce between the two, Audrey Hepburn never talked about it. Actually, I don't know where to start with any one person, but one thing is certain: Audrey Hepburn misses her father very much.
Deli Hepburn in childhood
Audrey Hepburn later recalled: "I broke down and cried non-stop every day. The divorce of my parents was the biggest blow I suffered as a child. In fact, I'm jealous of the kids who come home with tears on their faces because they have fathers. My mother loved me very much, but she wouldn't show it. No one hugged me. ”
As a child, Audrey Hepburn played with her father Joseph in the garden
Later, the father and daughter met at Waterloo Station in London, England, the first time Audrey Hepburn had seen him since her father had run away from his home on the outskirts of Brussels. Many years later, Audrey Hepburn told a friend about how she felt about the meeting:
The Railway Children, also known as The Children on the Railway, The Railway Children, and The Railway Boy, is a children's book written by British author Edith Nesbit, and the scenes mentioned by Audrey Hepburn are:
Audrey Hepburn said these words enough to show how much she missed her father as a child, how much she loved him, how much she longed for his love and companionship, and even how much she relied on him.
Audrey Hepburn at a young age
Psychologically, . The experience of her father running away from home in her childhood and the lack of father's love for a long time, the influence on Audrey Hepburn from childhood to adulthood, as well as love and marriage, he let the adult Audrey Hepburn in love and marriage has been in a state of love and love for a mature man like a father.
We simply describe this emotional need as the Oedipal complex, and it's easy to see why Audrey Hepburn chose someone older than herself in both young relationships.
After her father ran away from home, young Audrey Hepburn increasingly looked more mature than children her age.
Audrey Hepburn began her first relationship at the age of 21, against james Hansen, a businessman 8 years her senior.
Around the first half of 1952, despite strong opposition from her mother Ella, Audrey Hepburn and James Hansen announced that they would be married after the tour ended after the premiere of the musical Gold Powder World for 4 times.
In June 1952, Audrey Hepburn entered the filming crew of Roman Holiday and officially met Gregory Pike. In September of the same year, after the filming of "Roman Holiday" was completed, Audrey Hepburn continued to tour "World of Gold Powder", and then There was Audrey Hepburn announcing at the Chicago premiere that everything about her and Hansen was over.
Audrey Hepburn and James Hansen in Rome, Italy, on August 27, 1952
There are many versions of the legend as to the reasons for termination, nothing more than Audrey Hepburn's career take-off and busy work led to the two being separated on both sides of the Atlantic, Audrey Hepburn had no time to take care of love, gathering less and leaving more, mother strongly opposed, future married life is difficult to be like ordinary people, and even James Hansen spent his heart and other reasons. Whatever the reason,
Audrey Hepburn's second relationship took place at the age of 24.
On August 20, 1953, at the premiere of the film Roman Holiday, Audrey Hepburn met Mel Feller, a director, actor and playwright who was also Gregory Pike's friend, and was 12 years older than gregory Parker. Mel Feller's mature and steady temperament soon caught Audrey Hepburn in love.
Audrey Hepburn and Mel Feller
She didn't mind that Mel Feller had had three previous failed marriages, so on September 24, 1954, the two were married in a chapel on the shores of Lake Lucerne, Switzerland, and Gregory Pike was also present. Audrey Hepburn was only 25 years old and Mel Feller was 37 years old.
The wedding dress worn by Audrey Hepburn and Mel Feller was designed by Givenchy
The life of Audrey Hepburn and Mel Feller
After her marriage, Audrey Hepburn suffered two miscarriages until the birth of a son, Sean Hepburn Feller, on July 17, 1960.
Audrey Hepburn and Mel Feller's son, Sean, was born
Although Audrey Hepburn wanted to run the marriage, the hard work concept instilled in audrey Hepburn's mother did not give up her acting career. Since the success of "Roman Holiday", Hepburn's career has skyrocketed, and films such as "Dragon and Phoenix" filmed before marriage and "War and Peace", "The Legend of the Nuns", "Breakfast at Tiffany", "Enigma in mystery", "Lady of the Blind" and "Blind Girl Horror" have been well received and become hot stars in Hollywood. The difficulty of balancing work and family, combined with the growing gap and disagreement between Feller and Audrey Hepburn, has led to the two people drifting apart.
A family of three
When two people are not on the same communication channel and height, contradictions will always erupt. Feller's desire for control, arbitrary interference, and cheating directly led to the end of their marriage. In 1967, the two began to live apart, and on September 1, 1968, the two divorced in Switzerland, ending a 14-year marriage. (In fact, in order not to cause noise and preserve their respective property, the divorce of the two people was very secretive, according to Xinhua net and China Daily in 1968, and some people say that it was Christmas Eve in 1968, that is, December 24.) This is also one of the reasons why Audrey Hepburn was rumored to be cheating. ）
In this marriage, is it really Hepburn who is wrong? It is difficult to understand the bittersweet and bittersweet in it if you are not a party, and it is even more difficult for people who have not had a similar experience to understand the choice.
A sweet photo of Audrey Hepburn with Mel Feller on a country road outside Paris in 1956
Because of the lack of fatherly love since childhood, Audrey Hepburn's first two loves were with people who were many years older than herself, and even chose to marry in the best years. Audrey Hepburn and Feller divorced, has been nearly 40 years old, at this time Audrey He instinctively experienced all experienced, can see through everything, need to feel the sense of security they can give, for love and marriage, more hope that the other party can care about themselves, make themselves happy, of course, she still longs for love.
Thus, Audrey Hepburn made a very big reversal in the third relationship.
In the fall of 1968, Audrey Hepburn met André Doti, a psychiatrist nine years younger than herself, a teacher at the University of Rome, and a psychologist on a cruise to Greece. At this time, Andrei happened to be 30 years old, prosperous, successful in career, well-informed, funny and humorous, is a very typical Italian man, romantic and understand the style, very good at talking, very good at pleasing women.
Audrey Hepburn was very fond of this humorous and good-looking person, and after the two became acquainted, Andrei soon launched a fierce attack on Audrey Hepburn, plus he was a psychiatrist, and if he regarded a person as a prey, it was difficult for anyone not to be confused by it.
Audrey Hepburn and Andrea Dotty
Not long after her divorce, Audrey Hepburn traveled to Italy to spend Christmas with André Doti, and soon the two were married in Switzerland on January 18, 1969, at the town hall in The Swiss city hall of Morsch.
On January 18, 1969, Audrey Hepburn and André Dotty held a wedding ceremony at the town hall in Morche, Switzerland, and many people watched the ceremony on the day.
Audrey Hepburn wore the wedding dress still in pink knitted skirt provided by Givenchy
A year later, Audrey Hepburn gave birth to André Dotty's son, Luca Doti.
In 1970, Audrey Hepburn and Andre Dotty's son Luca Doti was born
In this marriage, Audrey Hepburn chose to take care of the family wholeheartedly. But Andrea Dotty is not an honest person, and he is a man of great manners, often wandering in the flowers, keen on night scenes, and often full of gossip. Audrey Hepburn has maintained a relentless attitude, still unable to make Andrea Doti loyal to marriage and family, and even intensified. Eventually, the two divorced in 1981. The marriage lasted 13 years, and Audrey Hepburn was already at the age of knowing her destiny.
Does Audrey Hepburn love Andrea Dotty? Sure love, but certainly no dependence on mature men like Mel Feller. Does Andrey Dotty love Audrey Hepburn? It is really difficult to say, when the two first met, Audrey Hepburn was already an international superstar, fame and fortune, mature and elegant, gentle and feminine, beauty is still outstanding, it is difficult not to make people "moved", and Andre Dotty knows the heart of women... In fact, it can also be said that this marriage was really wrong by Audrey Hepburn based on the sense of failure of the previous marriage.
Audrey Hepburn with sons Sean Feller and Luca Dotty
After the divorce, Audrey Hepburn, it is difficult to say whether she is disappointed in the marriage, but it must be more knowledgeable. In fact, among the general public, divorced at the age of knowing the destiny and having children, there are indeed many practical reasons not to get married.
The child cannot carry all her emotional sustenance, and marriage is not a process that must be taken, but the psychology of longing to be loved determines that love must continue to exist.
In the winter of 1980, before formally divorcing André Dotty, Audrey Hepburn met Dutch actress Robert Waldes at a friend's house. Robert Waldes is a gentle and delicate person, and Audrey Hepburn is still a person who longs to love and needs to be loved.
Audrey Hepburn and Robert Walders
Perhaps emotionally and spiritually, or perhaps the companionship and support needed in later years, after Audrey Hepburn divorced in 1981, Robert Waldes moved into Hepburn's peace house in Switzerland to live with him. For more than ten years, the two have been with each other. Although not married, Audrey Hepburn has always referred to Robert Walders as a soul mate.
Robert Waldes did make Audrey Hepburn, who had always longed to be loved, feel that she was truly loved and protected, and let her soul find a warm harbor again.
Many people know audrey Hepburn as a UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador in her later years, but few know that Robert Waldes led the way. From 1988 to 1993, during audrey Hepburn's tenure, the two appeared at various UNICEF activities together, visiting children in poor areas until the death of Audrey Hepburn in 1993. However, Audrey Hepburn is more famous, and Robert Waldes is more low-key.
Audrey Hepburn often traveled with Robert Walders
In her later years, Audrey Hepburn served as a UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador
People, as they get older, they will become more and more aware of what they need, and they will know more and more about what kind of people they need to accompany, but some people come a little later.
On the one hand is a love marriage, on the other side is a personal career. The glory of the film industry has made Audrey Hepburn win numerous awards, the Academy Award for Best Actress, the Golden Globe Award for Best Actress, the Tony Award for Best Actress, the Screen Actors Guild Award for Lifetime Achievement, the British Academy Film Award for Best Actress, the 3rd place in the AFI's Greatest Actress in a Hundred Years, the Emmy Award for Outstanding Individual Achievement... And the high praise given by countless media.
Perhaps, the life of Audrey Hepburn can be summed up in the words "Heaven is fair", which gave Audrey Hepburn beauty, kindness and achievement, but also let her taste the taste of love marriage.
On January 20, 1993, Audrey Hepburn passed away. Six people carried the coffin at the funeral: sons Hepburn Ferrer and Luca Dotty, brother Ian Edgar Bruce Coles van Youferde, partner Wards, good friend Hubert de Givenchy, and friend and doctor lawyer George Mueller. Her first husband, Mel Feller, attended the funeral, which Gregory Pike did not attend.
Audrey Hepburn's funeral
It had been 40 years and months since Audrey Hepburn and Gregory Parker had first met.
The relationship between Audrey Hepburn and Gregory Pike is indeed very deep, they are related to the drama, and they are in love because of the play. But what kind of feelings are there between the two? How much weight does Audrey Hepburn have in Gregory Pike's mind?
Many people have heard the story of 77-year-old Gregory Pike, on crutches, staggering to Audrey Hepburn's coffin, kissing the coffin lightly, and then whispering softly, "You are the most loved woman of my life." ”。 Ten years later, at Sotheby's, Gregory Pike bought the butterfly brooch from 1954 as a wedding gift to Audrey Hepburn, not a regular brooch, but a family heirloom brooch from Gregory Pike's grandmother. 49 days later, Gregory Pike died holding the brooch.
In fact, this story is made up by cinnabar and published in Youth Digest and Reader, the story is euphemistic and moving, the text is rich in emotion, and it satisfies the beautiful fantasies of all "Roman Holiday" fans.
As far as the story of the film "Roman Holiday" and the image of the protagonist are deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, there are indeed many people who hope that the love story of the two protagonists in the film can continue into real life. As far as Audrey Hepburn's lifelong love and marriage are concerned, many people also hope that the touching story in the text is true. The listener of the story, while lamenting for the two people who are not related to themselves in the story, while adding bricks and tiles to the legendary story of the goddess, but also telling themselves that there is true love in the world, to believe in love.
Stills from the movie Roman Holiday
The world says that there is no pure friendship between men and women, and it may not really exist, or it may really exist. But for some people, two people in the name of friendship is the most appropriate and comfortable way to get along.
Perhaps Audrey Hepburn, during the filming of "Roman Holiday", faced Gregory Pike, a handsome gentleman with elegant manners, a humble temperament, maturity and stability, giving people a sense of security and warmth, and fascinated by thousands of girls. But
Gregory Pike, on the other hand, was a married man during the filming of Roman Holiday, not only married for 10 years, but also had three children. Even though his marriage to Grita Rice may have been lit up at the time, and even after experiencing separation and divorce from his ex-wife Greta Rice, his gentlemanliness, cultivation and respect for Audrey Hepburn would never allow him to cross the thunder pool in real life to a young girl as pure as Audrey Hepburn.
Because he really had a lot of respect for Audrey Hepburn, it was the white moonlight in his heart.
During the filming of Roman Holiday
Maybe the two of them really had a relationship with each other in the name of the character in the filming, but the beginning is the end. No matter how much male and female love arises between the two characters, the two main actors, the roles and the main actors, in that September, the two main actors must withdraw all unrealistic emotions and return to their respective lives with the end of the filming work.
You can only pour all the love between men and women into that movie, hidden in the summer work of shooting "Roman Holiday", sublimate this friendship into friendship in life, and fall in love in the name of friendship.
From the moment of acquaintance, one is young, one is married and has children; one is married, one is divorced and remarried. In the interlaced changes of life, Gregory Parker's love for Audrey Hepburn has always been affectionate, Audrey Hepburn's marriage and family do not allow her to have non-divisional thoughts, and the trajectory of the two people's lives can only be far parallel and stare at each other, unable to cross and unable to be parallel.
After more than 40 years of acquaintance, the two do have friendship, and perhaps there is love as rumored to be - they are only one step away, but they are close to the end of the world.
Or perhaps countless times, Gregory Pike listened to Audrey Hepburn on the other end of the phone talk about the unsatisfactory married life, and felt the pain of Audrey Hepburn's love failure in the words of the letter. On the surface, the wind and waves are calm, but the heart has long been galloping, and all the heartache and care have turned into listening, comforting and silent companionship. That's all he can do, and that's all he can do.
What exactly is love? What exactly should love look like? For thousands of years, countless people have practiced and explored, but no one has ever found a standard answer.
As we grow older, we also gradually understand that people who once loved each other will not necessarily enter the palace of marriage hand in hand, and those who live together later may not be loved, and some feelings are also something that some people cannot understand and cannot do in their lives.
Perhaps, only by avoiding the interference of marital love, worldly things and fireworks, and even gender concepts can they achieve sincere spiritual dependence and long-term companionship throughout their lives, and even achieve mutual achievement, just like Audrey Hepburn and Mr. Givenchy.
Audrey Hepburn and Givenchy
And Gregory Parker is the distant beacon in Audrey Hepburn's life, and Audrey Hepburn is the white moonlight in Gregory Parker's heart, which cannot be touched by each other, let alone embraced and warmed, and is only suitable for shining in the softest depths of each other's hearts.
It is precisely because they do not touch it that they can always shine there, encourage each other in times of distress, give each other light and hope, and let each other feel the purest side of people's emotions.
This pure feeling has nothing to do with age, no relationship with distance, no relationship with time, no relationship with life and death, and it is beyond love.
Audrey Hepburn and Gregory Parker
The seemingly imperfect endings of the "love stories" in the film are always more moving and attractive than the stories with perfect endings, with a regretful beauty that gives people unlimited room for reverie.
If we are wishful thinking about the friendship between two people as love, it may be slightly inappropriate for these two respected people of the century. But from a certain point of view, the moving and beautiful love story is widely circulated, and it can also make many people understand that the love that is doomed to be unsatisfactory needs restraint, and it will become better because of restraint.
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