Someone once said: "Where is the real gap between the strong and the weak?" In fact, just one point, their hearts. ”
In the eyes of many people, how capable a person is can determine whether the person has the ability and whether he is a strong person. But what is more important than ability?
In fact, it is the human heart.
People's inner activities can ultimately affect people's external activities. What is your heart, how you behave will be. In other words, people with strong hearts can have better abilities.
The heart is the source of one's wisdom and ability.
In life, there are some people who are confident on the outside, but they are extremely inferior and fragile inside. In the end, such a person will eventually be affected by false self-confidence.
On the contrary, some people seem ordinary, but their hearts are incomparably strong. We usually can't see what kind of people they are, but once they are at a critical juncture, their calm and confident posture will be convincing.
Su Xun wrote in the "Heart Technique": "Tarzan collapsed in front of him and the color did not change, and the elk was happy on the left and did not look at the moment. ”
What happens to a person's heart will determine the state of his thinking. Therefore, people who are extremely fragile in their hearts always like to pretend to be confident because they want to hide their inferiority.
However, when something happens, they will reveal their true fragile side. For the thinking of such people, we call it "weak thinking".
<h1>Strong thinking: The real strong, strong in their "heart"</h1>
What is a true strongman? It is not how strong he is and how powerful he is, but how strong his heart is.
Man in this world is originally said to have nothing. Just like when we were young, we were so poor that only the flesh remained. So, how do we create our own lives?
Quite simply, start with "cultivating the mind."
Speaking of "cultivating the mind", many people will wonder, is it true that cultivating the mind is to be like a monk who is "empty of lust"? Actually, this is not the case.
True meditation is when we follow our own heart and then connect it with all things. When you calm down, you will find that you will be able to see through the truth of this world and will not be affected by external objects.
In addition, if you can control your mentality at will, then you can skillfully resolve all difficulties. Because behind the calamity, it is the demons of the heart that are at work. As long as the heart is clear and strong enough, it can naturally overcome oneself and others.
Just like Wang Yangming, the master of mind studies, why can he achieve the three immortals of "Li De Li Zhi Because his heart is clear and powerful.
When a person's heart is extremely strong, his mind is also active and unconstrained by the environment. When the eyes of others only saw the victory or defeat of the battlefield, he had already seen the attempts of all sides to play against each other after the battle.
The mind seems to be only a small part of the heavens and the earth. However, its power is infinite. It can not only resist the trend of landslides, but also face the shock of the waves.
<h1>Weak thinking: the outside is strong in the middle, and it is embarrassing</h1>
A hollow branch, no matter how hard it looks on the outside, is actually only a matter of slight force to break it.
Just like a person, if he looks particularly strong on the surface, it proves that the person looks OK. However, once he confronts people hard, or even fights with each other, he will lose.
In human psychology, the more unconfident a person is inside, the more he likes to show self-confidence on the outside, and the more he likes to show himself in front of others.
Why is there such a "discrepancy"? Obviously, the more a person lacks something, the more he shows something. Because he didn't, he had low self-esteem. Once he has low self-esteem, he also has to hide himself.
These people, in fact, their hearts are extremely fragile. They can't stand the test, and they don't have the determination to change their inner thoughts and mentality, and they can only cover their weaknesses with a fig leaf.
Why do we often say, "If virtue is not worthy, there will be disasters"? Because if your talent is not worthy of your ambition and position, one day, someone will replace you, or even calculate you.
Just like in the workplace, you can go through the back door to get a high position, but if your ability and thinking can't control this position, in the end, you yourself will be abandoned by your subordinates.
What is the mind of the weak? It is those who are incompetent, and do not want to admit it, do not want to change, just want to pretend to be their own thoughts and attitudes.
<h1>The winner is strong, and the self-victor is strong</h1>
The ancients had a saying: "The victor is strong, and the self-victor is strong." ”
Before you can overcome others, the first thing you have to do is to overcome yourself. If your demons become your biggest obstacle, then you will never be able to break through.
A person is like a spear, and your inner demon is the hardest shield you face in this life. If you can pierce it, believe that no one in this world can stop you. But if you can't pierce it, it's all talk.
How can we practice the thinking of the strong? That is to break through the self, get rid of the empty shelf, find their own talents and abilities, so as to occupy the corresponding position, and then in their position, seek their own position.
Wang Yangming once said: "It is easy to be a thief in a broken mountain, but it is difficult to be a thief in a broken heart." ”
What the heart is, will determine a person's lower limit. If the upper limit of man is infinite, then man must raise his lower limit well. The way to raise the lower limit is to cultivate the mind.
If you are an extremely fragile person, you may wish to sharpen your soul so that it can be calm and not more successful. When the mind becomes like water, then it is powerful.
The real strength is like flowing water, it looks weak, but it has a terrifying wave, thunder and thunder, not only can run thousands of miles, but also can gather thousands of rivers, dynamic and static, everything can be obtained.
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