In life, your child has no such phenomenon, usually at home a big grin, but once outside, they become particularly timid, and even dare not play with other children, and when they meet strangers, they hide far away. In addition to not daring to face friends outside, sometimes they are also timid at home, such as being afraid of the dark and not daring to sleep alone, and being scared to cry when there is thunder and lightning. Many parents will be very worried after finding out that their children's personality is more timid and cowardly, so how to face the outside environment in the future?
Why do children be timid and cowardly
According to the study of children's timid and cowardly personality, in fact, most of them are "cultivated" the day after tomorrow, perhaps your "love" is the cause of children's timidity! Why are children timid and cowardly? What should children do as timid and cowardly as parents? Friends who want to understand these problems, let's look down together
1. Parents are overprotected
The more parents worry, the more the child cannot be independent, and it is easy to form a timid and cowardly mentality.
2. Psychological shadow
Some children have seen some terrible movies and heard some terrible stories, which have left a shadow on the child's psychology, thus causing the child to be timid and cowardly.
Psychological Shadows
3. Parents often criticize and scold their children
Some parents have a more violent personality, can't stand their temperament, can't control their emotions, when the child does something wrong, they open their mouths to criticize and accuse, do not give the child the opportunity to explain and listen to the child's heart, the child's soul is hit and traumatized, and he no longer dares to try easily, afraid of his hands and feet.
4. Children's communication skills are not enough
Some children rarely interact with people from an early age, except for their parents and elders, they rarely play with children of the same age, and rarely have the opportunity to visit relatives and friends and go out
What should I do if my child is timid and cowardly? How can parents actively guide their children to overcome their own timidity and cowardice?
1. Create more opportunities for contact with small partners
Children are naïve, in a safe environment, parents do not always circle their children around themselves, should let children contact their peers, develop the habit of playing with others, through communication to let children experience the joy and benefits, so that children can get along with people in the future more harmoniously.
2. Reduce children's fear
Help children to change their timid psychology, first of all, from the child's heart to make changes. For example, children are afraid of lightning and thunder because they do not understand its principles, parents can tell their children how it is produced, and children will not feel so terrible when they know the truth. No matter what happens, from the perspective of the child's inner fear, I believe that the child can cross the threshold of the heart.
3. Parents should encourage more and fight less
Children are young, do not understand a lot of, afraid of things, do not dare to face is normal, if the child is cowardly, timid, must not use bad words to hurt the child's self-esteem, this will hit the child's courage and confidence, children are more likely to develop inferiority psychology. The right thing to do is to encourage the child positively, and only with the support of parents behind them will they have the confidence to face it.
Parents should encourage more and fight less
4. Let the child familiarize yourself with the pattern environment in advance
For example, if children are afraid of the dark, they may be unfamiliar with the environment, or they are inexplicably afraid of the dark. At this time, parents can take their children to familiarize themselves with their rooms, every corner is safe, adapt to the environment, and let children understand that the darkness is just no light, in fact, everything around them has not changed.
5. Don't characterize your child
Every child's heart is eager to be affirmed, so when parents talk about children, they should also be concerned about their children's thoughts, especially do not say that their children are timid in front of outsiders, and do not show a very disgusted look, otherwise the child will think that he is a cowardly and timid person, even if he has self-confidence, he will be destroyed by himself.
Parents are the child's first teacher, the first to let him know how the world is, the child is born is a blank piece of paper, and what kind of picture the child will present, it depends on how the parents write. As parents, we all want to do everything for our children, but in the future we will eventually grow old, children will grow up slowly, children need to be sharpened, let them learn to face it as soon as possible.