Many of us have seen "Wind and Rain Harvard Road", and many people are familiar with this inspirational film, and Liz finally broke free from the cage of her original family and achieved a gorgeous turn.
In fact, "Gifted Hands: Dr. Ben Carson", which can be called a companion article to "Wind and Rain Harvard Road", is also an inspirational film, and it has a similar growth trajectory.
Compared with "Wind and Rain Harvard Road", this movie is indeed a little niche, and it is not as familiar as the former, but the Douban score is still as high as 8.3 points, which is a good film.
Born in 1951 in Detroit, Michigan, ben carson grew up in a single-parent family raised by his mother, his childhood was ridiculed, confused, and frustrated, but he finally became a high-achieving student at Yale University through his own efforts, entering Johns Hopkins Hospital with excellent grades and becoming one of the most famous neurosurgeons in the world. The surgery he pioneered to separate conjoined twins has attracted international attention.
So, in a family and growing environment that was not superior, how did he get on the road to success? There are mainly the following factors.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > factor one: Carson had a very intelligent mother, which was the starting point of his life</h1>
Carson's mother, a single mother, lives alone with her two sons and rents a house so that her son can attend a better school. Because the family was black, Carson at school was more or less discriminated against.
Faced with family changes from childhood, Carson became taciturn, coupled with poor academic performance, was recognized by his classmates as a stupid child, and was a poor student in the eyes of his teacher.
A classmate bullied him once, so that he could not suppress his anger, a punch injured his classmates. My mother went to the school to apologize in various ways to calm the matter.
On the way home, Carson says everyone calls him stupid, and he thinks he's a stupid kid.
At this time, his mother gave him the best answer: "You are not stupid, you just don't use your intellect." ”
When he said he had no imagination, his mother told him, "Of course you have, everyone has an imagination." ”
Mom told Carson, "If others can do it, you can do it too." And you can do better. As long as you work hard, effort will not be harmful to people. ”
There is a phenomenon in psychology called the label effect, which mainly refers to the definition of the child's life given by parents in the relationship with the child, which will slowly make the child's psychological identity under the influence of a long time.
For example, parents always reprimand their children, saying, "Why are you so stupid, so stupid?"; "Why are you so bad?" "Then the child will really feel that he is a stupid child, and slowly he will agree with his own label."
On the contrary, if parents always guide their children positively, like Carson's mother, "You're not stupid, you just don't use your intellect; "You're great, you must be able to do better, etc.", this will definitely make the child better and better.
This reminds me of the "Galaxy Tuition Class" I watched some time ago, and Ma Haowen, the father played by Deng Chao, said to his son Ma Fei: "Don't listen to what others say, you believe what you believe, you have to believe in yourself." ”
The famous Soviet educator Sukhomlinsky has a very classic saying: Parents are the first teachers of children.
Therefore, parental education plays a vital role in the growth of children.
Compared with Liz, the heroine of "Wind and Rain Harvard Road", Carson is lucky, he has a wise mother, and his recognition of Carson's unconditional love gives Carson a strong inner backing and positive guidance.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > factor two: the change in living habits is the basis for Carson's change</h1>
Carson's mother raised her two sons alone, had no formal job, and had to work odd jobs everywhere to earn living expenses. She worked as a nanny for a white family, and while cleaning the house, she found that the owner had a lot of books in the house.
She looked at the shelves full of books and was deeply moved. Turn off the black-and-white TV at home as soon as he returns home, and ask his two sons to use their leisure time to study. And made a rule, the tv at home watches two programs every week, and these two programs are still related to learning, knowledge quizzes.
Although my mother was illiterate, she knew the power of knowledge.
Ancient People's Cloud: There is a golden house in the book, and there is a Yan Ruyu in the book.
Mr. Yu Qiuyu, a master of Chinese culture, also said: "The biggest reason for reading is to get rid of mediocrity, one day early to have more wonderful life, and one day late to have more mediocre troubles." ”
Carson and his brother listened to their mother's words and began to visit the library frequently, and gradually reading made a qualitative change for them.
His grades rose day by day, he spoke more and more in class, and he was no longer a stupid child in the eyes of teachers and classmates.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > factor three: Having a strong interest in learning is an important reason why Carson is getting better and better</h1>
The world-famous inventor Albert Einstein once said: "Interest is the best teacher." ”
In addition to having a great mother, Carson also has an internal reason, that is, Carson is a child who loves to learn.
At first, he was recognized as a stupid child, but when he followed his mother's guidance and worked his own, everything reversed.
Zhan Qingyun said in a speech that life is sometimes like a reversal drama, do not compare everything with others, as long as you know what you want, and bravely pursue, there will be gains and results.
Through reading, Carson entered the vast ocean of knowledge, and his efforts were recognized by his teachers and impressed by his classmates. At the same time, it also confirms the mother's words: "Effort will not be harmful to people." ”
Instead, he tried to make him a master of learning, and finally went to the world-famous Yale University.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > factor four: The helper helps himself, and Carson's non-abandonment of himself is the root of his success</h1>
Although there is a mother's guidance and clear rules, if Carson does not listen to his mother, is unwilling to learn, and does not practice, then no matter how good the guidance, the correct direction is only on paper.
Fortunately, Carson followed his mother's instructions, set out in the direction of her guidance, plunged headlong into the ocean of knowledge, and slowly pried open a door for himself.
The factor of a person's growth is the biggest root, and seeking oneself inward is always the deepest root.
Liz of "Wind and Rain Harvard Road" is also such a person, she grew up in a harsh living environment, her parents took drugs, suffered from AIDS, sexual assault, hunger, vagrancy, etc. left her with nowhere to hide.
But she still did not give in to fate, but struggled to catch up, spent 2 years to complete the 4-year course, and finally realized her dream, won a scholarship from the New York Times, and successfully entered Harvard University.
Everyone's fate is in their own hands, we can't choose the environment we were born into, but we can choose to move forward to a better environment;
We can't control the weather, but we can change our mindset and welcome every day;
We can't influence other people's thoughts, but we can grow up to be what we want through our own efforts.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > a brief analysis of Carson's meaning and thinking about our real lives</h1>
Carson's rise from the lowest family to one of the world's leading neurosurgeons is a role model for us to learn from and a great inspiration for our current lives.
1. Parents are very important to their children's education, especially for the improvement of children's self-confidence. Be sure to motivate the child more and affirm the child more, rather than criticizing or even suppressing the child.
2. The formation of good habits helps children grow better.
3. Knowledge is power, especially for children, to cultivate a desire and interest in knowledge from an early age.
4. There are always more methods than problems, be good at thinking, do not evade or shrink back when encountering problems, but face difficulties and find ways to solve them.
5. Cultivate children to have a strong heart, so that children understand that hard work will not be harmful to people.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > concluding remarks:</h1>
Gifts: Dr. Ben Carson is a 2009 film directed by Thomas Carter about how Carson was on the road to success by a stupid kid recognized by everyone. The film adopts the technique of interpolation, with a gentle narrative style, and the story is told, which inspires people and thinks.