On June 27, 2020, Yu Lan, one of the "22 Biggest Movie Stars" of New China, passed away. As soon as the news came out, the entire entertainment industry was shocked, and many stars and netizens spoke in mourning.
Most of these people only know that Yu Lan is a famous performance artist, the mother of director Tian Zhuangzhuang, and the aunt of Li Xuejian, a national first-class actor.
As everyone knows, she also has a layer of identity - the wife of actor Tian Fang.
Speaking of Tian Fang, many people nowadays do not understand, or even know that he is an actor. If you really look at the curry position, Tian Fang was much more famous than Yu Lan at that time.
However, the two of them did not care about these false names, and their love had nothing to do with it.
The love and marital status of the two people are not simple to say, and the eight-word description is: it began in Oolong and returned to dust.
Figure | Tian Fang, Yu Lan
One
In 1935, Yu Lan, who was in his second year of junior high school, became obsessed with the new star Tian Fang, who had just debuted. It is also strange to say that the average person appreciates a star either out of appearance, or because of his acting skills, or his character. But Yu Lan is because Tian Fang has a look when he plays a farmer.
At a glance, she decided that the actor had a promising future and was "more simple and flawless" than other movie stars.
At that time, Yu Lan never thought that this excellent rising star in her mouth was her future partner.
In October 1938, Yu Lan, who ran away from home, came to Yan'an, the holy land of revolution, and under the arrangement of the organization, she entered the Kang Da To study. Coincidentally, it was here that she met Takata, who had become famous and popular.
At that time, Tian Fang was no longer the small farmer that Yu Lan had seen on the screen, and now he was a well-known movie star and a powerful actor in the mouths of ordinary people.
However, the actor stepped out of the screen and came to Yan'an to participate in training and work with all the revolutionary comrades.
At first, Yu Lan couldn't believe that she really saw Tian Fang, but it was the chatter of the people around her that pulled her back to reality, telling her that the actors she admired were also involved in the anti-Japanese resistance.
However, even if Tian Fang stepped off the stage admired by everyone, there was still an aura shrouded. Wherever he goes, there will be a voice of discussion, as Yu Lan said: "He is still a star after all." ”
It is precisely because of this that Yu Lan has always kept a distance from Tian Fang, and she knows how deep the love in her heart is, but she still does not dare to give a true heart to Tian Fang.
She wrote in "Bittersweet Boundless Reading Life": "Tian Fang is close to my heart. However, I knew that we would not get close, after all, The distance between Takata and me was too far.... ”
Figure | Yu Lan
Although man is far away, his heart is not far away.
In fact, when Lan unilaterally felt that Tian Fang did not have a good feeling for himself, Tian Fang had already secretly determined that his partner for the rest of his life must be lan. Just before breaking through this layer of window paper, Yu Lan made a big oolong come out.
In the spring of 1940, Zhao Lu, who was with Yu Lan in the Luyi Experimental Theater Troupe, suddenly told her that the big sister of the troupe wanted to introduce Tian Fang as a boyfriend. When Yu Lan heard this, his heart felt as nervous as if he was being grabbed by someone, and he asked uneasily, "What about you?" Like him? ”
Since Yu Lan had never revealed her girlish feelings in front of her friends, Zhao Lu naturally did not know that her friend was fond of Tian Fang, so he replied directly: "I have long liked him." ”
A word broke the love buried in Lan's heart. As a friend, she was willing to give in and willingly blessed Zhao Lu and Tian Fang to be together.
However, this blessing of hers does not need to be sent out, because the person Takata likes is her, and there is no one else. Sister Seychelle did the wrong object as a matchmaker.
However, due to the sudden change of things, Yu Lan did not believe the explanation of Sister Saisheng later, so he simply went directly to Tian Fang to discuss the explanation for Zhao Lu, completely forgetting that the other party's sweetheart was himself, and asked: "What is wrong with Zhao Lu?" ”
Tian Fang was still a little confused when he was asked like this, obviously they were happy with each other, how could they be angry? In order not to be angry with Yu Lan, he honestly replied: "She is very good, a good comrade, but I consider that I am too similar to her personality, and it will not be good to combine." It should be the opposite sex attraction. The first time I saw you on the banks of the Yan River, I secretly chose you. ”
A few words, a deep love and full delivery.
For Tian Fang, no matter how good others are, they are not as good as Lan.
Figure | Young Takata
Two
On November 7, 1940, on the day of the anniversary of the October Revolution in the Soviet Union, Yu Lan and Tian Fang were officially married, and in the presence of the troupe's teacher friend and Yu Lan's brother Yu Aaron, they made a solemn vow to protect each other and spend the rest of their lives together.
At that time, Yu Lan only had the joy of gongs and drums in her ears, and she did not hear the blessings of the people around her and the instructions of her brother. Only at the end, she heard what Yu Aaron said to Tian Fang. It was said that the boy had tears and did not flick, but Yu Aaron was smeared with tears at that time, choked and pulled Tian Fang and said, "I hope to treat my sister well in the future." ”
In fact, it is not surprising that Aaron was not at ease, after all, Tian Fang had married his wife on the orders of his mother earlier, and later his wife suffered from puerperal fever, leaving him a son and a daughter and then died. With this in mind, Yu Lan's relatives and friends have advised her: "Yu Lan, he is much older than you, married, and has children at home." ”
Yu Lan, who is only 19 years old, does not care about these things, and she feels that "true love does not lie in the age gap." As for the child, Yu Lan thought that in the case of war raging everywhere, it would be difficult for Tian Fang to get together with the child, so she did not trust this matter at that time.
Unexpectedly, Yu Aaron later directly took Tian Fang's child over. Originally, Yu Aaron just wanted to go back to see his family for Tian Fang, but this look found that Tian Fang's mother and two children were not doing well.
As a brother, his heart is naturally toward his own sister, but no matter how much he loves his sister, he can't watch the old man pull two small children when he can't support himself. Therefore, he brought the child born to Takata's ex-wife.
Fortunately, those two children are also more sensible, as soon as they see Yu Lan, they call their mothers, and they are not angry, but Yu Lan feels embarrassed first.
The stepmother title came suddenly, but it wasn't bad, and both children were sensible and didn't let Lando worry about it. But this does not mean that her life can be stable and happy, children do not make trouble, but "big children" have opinions.
Xu is to make up for the two children, and Tian Fang often ignores Yu Lan.
Yu Lan recalled this incident in his later years and said: "He transferred all his love to the child, and cared for the child to the point of no return, but I seemed to be superfluous." Wherever I was, whenever I took a slow step or ignored something, he always scolded me and made me feel very embarrassed. ”
Sometimes Tian Fang scolded too loudly, and the two children would hug Yu Lan after hearing it. At that time, Yu Lan himself was finding reasons for Tian Fang's various behaviors in his heart to comfort himself.
She kept telling herself that The reason Why Tian Fang was so fierce to her was because he was ashamed of his children and because he had never fulfilled his father's responsibilities. But once people are upset, it is easy to think more and more.
Figure | Tian Fang Yu Lan took a group photo at the back hill of the Luyi Auditorium in Yan'an
In general, couples and couples are like glue and paint, but Tian Fang and Yu Lan are not like this, and their married life is more like parents teaching their children to live.
Yu Lan is not good at living when she is young, nor does she understand life, every time Tian Fang has to point out when she should do what, even pack cotton shoes, save coal, these things, he will ask Yu Lan must be in place, can not be lazy can not forget.
However, what makes Yu Lan feel sad is not these small things, but Tian Fang's enthusiasm is used on others. Whenever she performs in other places, Yu Lan is alone to collect her and Tian Fang's luggage, and even carrying the duffel bag is also done by herself. As for Tian Fang, he helped other young female comrades down the mountain.
Yu Lan was generous on the surface, pretending not to mind, but in fact, his heart was already angry enough to explode the flowers. On one occasion she kicked her duffel bag straight down the ravine to show her displeasure.
However, The straight man of Steel, Tian Fang, did not find his wife's anger and kept running up and down for others. Later, yu Lan broke up with each other until other comrades came forward to solve it, and Tian Fang found his mistake.
But when it was the child's turn, Tian Fang seemed to have forgotten to take care of Yu Lan's emotions, always blindly reprimanding her for not being right. If Tian Fang knew that Yu Lan was pregnant at that time, would he still be so grumpy?
The answer is unknown. But at least it can be guessed that Tian Fang will not. After all, it was the second child of the two. As early as a few months after marriage, Yu Lan had already been pregnant once, but at that time, Yu Lan did not want to have a child, so he had an abortion after obtaining the consent of Tian Fang and the leader.
Now that she has a child, the panic of becoming a new mother has swept in again, and Yu Lan thinks that she cannot bear the responsibility of a dual mother, so she quietly hides from Tian Fang for a second abortion operation.
Compared with Tian Fang's attitude, the killing of the child did not make Yu Lan feel sad, she knew that she was not yet a mother, so she would not dare to have a child when she was not ready to be a mother.
This is both responsible for oneself and for the child.
Perhaps looking at What Tian Fang has done in this way, many people will feel that such a husband is not considerate at all, and does not love his wife at all.
As everyone knows, some love is not only impossible to express in words, but even in behavior. The reason why Tian Fang is so kind to Lan is because he trusts the other party too much. He felt that Yu Lan could do a good job, so he chose to help the weak and give priority to collectivism; he felt that Yu Lan's "new mother" needed to be honed, so he loudly educated her and wanted her to grow up faster.
It's just that his method is too cold, making it difficult for Yu Lan to adapt. Of course, not only Blue, but now, Tian Fang's behavior will be criticized by people every time he brings it out.
However, you can criticize Tian Fang's approach, but you can't criticize his love for Lan.
His affection is only not exposed, not non-existent.
Three
"Knowing that the king has gone, I feel deeply in love." This sentence is most appropriate to describe Tianfang's feelings for Lan.
In November 1945, for the liberation of the people, Yu Lan and Tian Fang had to separate themselves and work hard in their own small world. It was also during this period that Yu Lan developed a crush on another comrade of the organization.
This feeling came too suddenly, but there are traces to follow. In the process of working with the male comrade, Yu Lan has been paying attention to the other party, and she is curious about why this talented comrade always works silently, never expresses himself, and does not love to fight for merit.
As the two got closer and closer, Yu Lan learned that the other had been unjustly "rescued" in Yan'an. After hearing about his difficult experience, Yu Lan paid more attention to this male comrade, in addition to admiration, there was also respect.
Yu Lan, who has become a woman, knows that her thoughts are wrong, but she cannot control her feelings, so when she reunites with Tian Fang, she proposes to leave and explains the reason to Tian Fang.
That night, the two lay on the same bed, relatively wordlessly waiting for the dawn to come.
For Yu Lan's change of heart, Tian Fang did not say anything more. He did not directly retain it, nor did he express his willingness, as if he knew that Yu Lan would regret it.
Sure enough, not long after, Yu Lan apologized to Tian Fang and said, "I was wrong." It turned out that it was because Yu Lan saw the gay man's wife and children, and she deeply felt that her "laissez-faire" would bring irreparable harm to the two families, so she woke up in time and returned to the family before making a big mistake.
But not all mistakes can be made up for with a word of sorry, in love, the most intolerable thing is to change your heart. Yu Lan knew this, so after apologizing, he asked Tian Fang, "Are we leaving? Or do you live together? ”
It is said that people with acutes are very straight, but their hearts are very soft, and Tian Fang is such a person. Instead of answering Yu Lan's question, he directly hugged her and forced tears to confess again: "I will love you!" ”
The warmth that came from the bottom of his heart made Yu Lan can't help but recall Tian Fang's warmth and thoughtfulness to himself: every time she wanted to participate in the performance, Tian Fang would always take time to guide her, and when it was his turn to star in the film, Tian Fang would also write to Yu Lan about his thoughts and performance experience; later, in order to give Yu Lan a place to practice, Tian Fang specially used scissors to cut off a thorn in the grass in front of the house to prevent Yu Lan from being injured.
Bit by bit, leisurely. Thinking of this, Yu Lan felt even more guilty, hugging and crying with Tian Fang.
However, although Tian Fang forgave her, the organization still gave Yu Lan criticism and punishment. She accepted it all and had no complaints. Unfortunately, however, the gay man she admired died in a car accident.
If Yu Lan is not sad, it must be false. But fortunately, Tian Fang has always been with her, and he mourns and mourns with her.
After this matter was completely over, the relationship between the two was restored, even better than before. Perhaps it was the previous experience that made Yu Lan grow up, at this time she began to yearn to have her own children, she wanted to be a real mother.
In December 1947, the couple's first son, Tian Xinxin, was born, and five years later, the second son, Tian Zhuangzhuang, was born.
Unfortunately, the happy life of a family of four did not last long.
At the time of the sudden change, no one was safe and sound.
Figure | Tian Fang and Yu Lan with the eldest son Tian Xinxin and the younger son Tian Zhuangzhuang
Four
"He went to work the earliest, the strictest requirements for himself, always riding a broken bicycle, always carrying a small lunch box containing a homely meal, he was very concerned about comrades, Beiying wanted to divide some actors to go to Changying, he clearly remembered which comrade had a frozen nose when he went to North Korea, and it was not appropriate to go to the northeast ..."
This is what an old comrade of The Northern Shadow said when he recalled Tian Fang. Whenever I think of Tian Fang, many old comrades will sigh a word, but it is a pity.
Indeed, there are not many comrades who are as principled and upright as he is, and who dare to tell the truth in the 1960s. But it is such a person who has been classified as "the ruling faction taking the capitalist road", and Yu Lan has become a "representative of the black line".
When the unwarranted hat was imposed on the two, they felt aggrieved and unjust, but they never said a word of complaint. At that time, they still believed faithfully in the organization and believed that they could work together to survive this suffering.
In that social situation, many couples either dispersed or directly tore their faces, beat a rake at the criticism meeting, and drew a clear line with each other.
Contrary to these people, the worse the situation, the more Yu Lan and Tian Fang cherish each other. But love is not enough to be realistic, and Yu Lan can give Tian Fang more care when he is arranged to work, but he cannot share the pain when he falls ill.
In the spring of 1974, under multiple tortures, Takata's health became worse and worse, and his face was as yellow as a dragon's robe. Yu Lan was immediately frightened, thinking that he must have jaundice hepatitis, so he took him to the hospital to register for hospitalization.
Who ever thought, there is no nearby hospital willing to accept Tian Fang, not to mention his identity problem, as far as this disease is concerned, the hospital does not dare to accept, after all, jaundice hepatitis is an infectious disease.
Seeing that Tian Fang's illness could not be postponed any longer, Yu Lan had no choice but to find help from his friends. In a situation where everyone is in danger, few people help for friendship, most people will be afraid, and one careless person will plant it himself. Fortunately, Yu Lan's friends were very righteous, and without saying a word, they arranged for Tian Fang to go to the Capital Hospital.
After examination, it is more likely that The disease of Tianfang is liver cancer and requires surgery. Before the operation began, Tian Fang had to endure the torment of illness every day, with a low-grade fever every day, cold hands and feet, and cold sweat all over his body.
Sometimes being tortured so much that he couldn't stand it, Tian Fang would rush to the blue fire. Yu Lan was not angry about this, it was painful, and occasionally when he was scolded, he ran out alone to cry, and came back to continue to pretend that nothing had happened to take care of Tian Fang.
Writer Zhang Jiajia once wrote: "Everyone's strength is a soft cocoon. Looking at Tian Fang, who was tormented by illness and emotionally out of control, Yu Lan was like a cicada wrapped in a cocoon, no matter how Tian Fang vented, he did not struggle to return. She was using her own tenderness to give Tian Fang a small world of freedom, so that he could pour out all his pain and dissatisfaction.
But Tian Fang also knew that it was not right, and apologized when he saw Yu Lan come in with red and swollen eyes: "I am uncomfortable, I am not angry with you, to whom!" ”
Upon hearing this, Yu Lan did not feel relieved, but on the contrary, it was even more uncomfortable. She did not understand why such a good man had to endure such pain; she could not accept why Tian Fang had devoted his life to the revolution in exchange for no one inside the organization.
Compared to these, there is one thing that makes Lan Xin cold.
Since Tian Fang's surgery, he has taken imported drugs approved by the hospital leaders every day. It is said that as long as he continues to take the imported drug, Tian Fang will be able to live for more than two or three years.
There was a rebel in this hospital, and he happened to be a doctor on duty. After learning that Tian Fang was taking imported medicine, the doctor deliberately removed the medicine, causing him to have a high fever again. To this end, Yu Lan ran to find the top leadership, which won tian fang medicine.
With the blessing of medicinal effects, Tian Yi returned to normal. After learning about the situation, the doctor came out again, saying that since the white blood cells in Tian Fang's body had dropped, it was no longer possible to use imported drugs.
On the day of the drug stoppage, Takata's pre-surgery symptoms "came back", and his illness changed from controllable after surgery to uncontrollable. After learning that his medicine had been withdrawn by the doctor, Tian Fang's eyes were filled with tears, and he helplessly said to Yu Lan, "Why are you torturing me like this?" Not only to fight the sick, but also to fight people! ”
Maybe at that time, Tian Fang was hating iron not steel. The doctor was obviously very young and had a bright future, but he did not do his job well, but threw himself into the internal struggle and hurt his own people.
Or maybe he's disappointed by the situation. He obviously gave up his beloved acting career for the sake of the people and for the sake of organization, and chose literary and artistic work. Today, there is all kinds of malice to endure for that choice.
How could this not be upset for him?
Later, some other doctors said that the medicine could not be withdrawn, so they gave Tian Fang imported drugs again. However, the bacteria in Tian Fang's body had already developed resistance because of this several back and forth withdrawals, and even the best medicine was useless.
They could only watch Tian Fang's stomach swell day by day, and his legs swelled up day by day. Some young nurses were surprised to see such a scene and praised: "Comrade Tian Fang is too good, his endurance is very strong, this disease is very painful, but he never hums." ”
As everyone knows, late at night, Tian Fang, who can't sleep well, will always quietly hum in pain, and when the pain is extreme, he will also ask Yu Lan for help, hold her hand tightly, and say heart-wrenching words.
He said to Blue, "There's nothing you can do about it!" ”
Yes, Yu Lan is not a god, she can't bear the pain for Tian Fang; Yu Lan is not a high cadre, and she can't stop it when others withdraw their medicine. The only thing she could do was to stick to Takata's side.
Thinking of this, Yu Lan cried out, or Tian Fangqiang stood up to comfort her with the pain on his body: "Don't cry, the more difficult it is, the more you have to fight." ”
Unfortunately, he did not survive this struggle.
Figure | "Heroes and Children" Tian Fang
On August 27, 1974, Tian Fang, whose legs were already swollen to the point of shining, fell into a coma, his face convulsed involuntarily, and sometimes he woke up and muttered, "This is the first time in our party...."..."
Yu Lan understood what Tian Fang wanted to say, but he did not dare to let him say it, and quickly stopped: "Tian Fang, I am afraid, you don't say it!" ”
She knew that if Tian Fang had uttered this sentence in its entirety, he might not even have to lie down in a hospital bed. Fortunately, Tian Fang listened and kept silent, but it was not long before he began to explain the aftermath:
"Yu Lan, my key hangs on the door of the desk, use it to open my drawer..... There's a diary in it... Organizationally you can see... Can get to know me... You can also watch... There was also a passbook in the drawer, which might have 200 bucks in it. Yu Lan, although this little money is small, it may be useful to you. ”
At the end of the conversation, he passed out again and died at 10:00 a.m. the next morning, at the age of 63.
Looking back at the marriage between Lan and Tian Fang, although it is not perfect, at least she has fulfilled the promise she made when she got married - to protect each other.
Although Yu Lan almost reneged on her word, throughout her life, Tian Fangcai was the most important person in her life.
From acquaintance to marriage, they have always been each other's guardians.
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