Introduction: My name is Huang Ying, 37 years old this year, has been married for 15 years, started from scratch with her husband, accompanied him all the way to the present, and never thought of leaving this matter. However, just when my career was just starting to improve in recent years, because I had inadvertently cheated on me once and for all, he insisted on divorcing me.
I never thought that divorce would come to me one day. Just because of one of my mistakes, he was like ending the marriage we had struggled for for 15 years together, ending the feelings of love that had once been.
Moreover, he urged me to divorce me quickly and not to delay him from marrying another woman. But is this really me sorry for him?
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I met him when I was 20 years old, he was two years older than me, because I didn't have a degree, I came out early to work, at that time as a waiter in a milk tea shop, he was a cook.
Once he and a friend went to our store for leisure and entertainment, he fell in love with me at first sight, asked for my contact information when he left, and then often came to our store to drink milk tea, and over time he became familiar with it.
Later, he launched his pursuit of me, and I also agreed to be with him, at that time the relationship between the two people was still very good, after two years of development, we got married.
It is also the time of these two years that the two people planned their careers after marriage, saved some money from each other, and resigned together after marriage to start a business in their hometown.
After we returned to our hometown, everything started from scratch, and we successively chose the storefront, decoration, etc. When we first started the business, everything was done by the two of us, and gradually after the store business was done, there were other staff.
It is precisely because we have come from scratch that every bit of our lives is recorded, and our feelings are deeper.
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Later, the business of the shop became better and better, and there was a son and a daughter, and our family was also happy.
The business also gradually opened several branches with the operation and promotion of the two of us. Our division of labor is gradually divided, my husband is responsible for internal management, and I am responsible for marketing promotion and business negotiations.
Because of the business negotiation relationship, there are more people in contact, and I have also met all kinds of people, and sometimes my husband will accompany me and take care of each other. However, most of them were still outside by myself, and naturally I met some suitors.
However, I have a family, and I have struggled with my husband for so many years, thinking that no one can do without anyone, so I avoid these things and do not let these factors affect the family.
It's just that sometimes I really can't help myself, I can't help myself, I want to socialize and receive customers outside, just in order to better expand the source of customers and branches, I have to continue marketing and promotion.
Just some time ago, because of the problem of business expansion, I negotiated with a customer for a long time, and there has been no end to the discussion, and this customer has privately expressed his love for me several times, but for the sake of the family business, I did not tell my husband and decided to endure.
Once, when I was having dinner with this customer, I also drank wine during the meal, and I was inexplicably drunk, and I didn't know how to have a relationship with him.
Afterwards, I was very remorseful, I felt sorry for my husband, sorry for this family, and I felt very guilty and uncomfortable in my heart.
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After struggling with my thoughts, I didn't want to hide it, so I was honest with my husband, because I really didn't cheat on purpose, everything was caused by carelessness.
One night, I told my husband about it and apologized to him very sincerely, saying that everything was for the sake of the store, in order to be able to solve the business problem, and I didn't know why I was drunk and that happened.
After the husband listened, he did not get angry, did not complain and scold, but said very calmly: "I don't blame you, you are also for this home and shop, since it has happened, what to do can not change the existence of the facts."
Later, we negotiated with the customer privately to solve the problem, no longer in business with him, but between me and my husband, there was an invisibly more estrangement, he seemed to often avoid me, as if he was abandoning me.
I also feel that I made a mistake that led to this disharmonious situation, because I was sorry for my husband, and I accommodated him in all aspects, trying to make up for my mistakes.
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Even though he said it didn't matter, I still felt dissatisfied, and his heart must be uncomfortable, at least that's how I felt it myself.
It wasn't until later that he said that he would do the business negotiation himself, and let me take care of the children at home and occasionally help with the business of the store.
However, it turned out that he always went out very late and came back, and said to me that he had gone to socialize. It wasn't until one day, when my friend found him cuddling with a woman on the street and taking a picture of me, that it all dawned on me.
At this time, I still felt that everything was caused by my own incident, so I did not tell him about making mistakes, and I felt that I had made mistakes first, and I was not qualified to blame.
After a period of investigation, I also learned the basic information of the woman, who was quite young, her education was higher than mine, and the basic conditions were better than mine in all aspects.
However, since I have struggled with my husband for so many years, deep feelings, it is impossible to divorce me, and there are two children, no matter what, such a thing should not happen.
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The weather is unpredictable, and everything is feeling good about yourself. Unexpectedly, my husband was so infatuated with that woman that there was no way to save her, and everything obeyed her.
At the urging of that woman, my husband asked me for a divorce, saying that it was me, and he never told me, for years of feelings and children, he didn't want to blame me, but he really couldn't do as if nothing had happened.
He also said to me: "It was not until I met her that I found the existence of love, let's divorce, our marriage has long existed in name only, there is no point in living anymore."
I did not expect that after so many years of feelings, one day because of my inadvertent actions, it will cause a rupture, and eventually under the intervention of a third party, it will lead to divorce.
I was very unwilling, I didn't want to give up this family, I didn't want to leave him, and I couldn't let go of my two children. But he said resolutely: "One child is raised, the property is divided equally, and no one owes anyone anything."
He also urged me to divorce my marriage quickly, so as not to delay him from marrying another woman. But is this really me sorry for him?
I said, "Let's all calm down for a while before making a decision, if you still insist on divorce, regardless of this family, regardless of the growth of children, regardless of the feelings of more than ten years, then make a decision when the time comes."
He agreed to my request, and for the next few days, he did not urge me again, but he did not return night and night.
However, shortly after I asked for it, I suddenly received a message from the woman, and the cause and effect of everything were revealed.
It turned out that my husband had known the woman a long time ago, and he had cheated on her first, and as a result, I was kept in the dark, and if it were not for the fact that this divorce did not work out, the woman was so anxious that she fell out with my husband, and she would not have found the reason.
I had a relationship with that client, everything was arranged by my husband, he made me difficult, so that I had to contact the client frequently and create opportunities for him and the woman to get along.
What's more, I had a relationship with a client that he also arranged, and wanted me to take the initiative to leave him because of guilt, but in the end, it backfired, and the East Window incident occurred.
Everything was already in the water, but I didn't feel so relieved, some just kept sobbing, washing my face with tears, and I didn't know what to do.
The feelings of more than ten years are so fragmented, should I humbly bend over backwards and continue to maintain this family for the sake of my children? I guess, there's never going to be a time to go back, right?
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