Writer Ding Ling once wrote:
"Women, as long as there is a belief, there is a pursuit, any hardship can endure, any environment can adapt." 」
In the long river of time, no one can live a smooth life, but there are always people who can turn the tables in the headwind and turn the boring life into meaning.
For women, the happiest thing is to form a family with a loved one, enjoy the pleasure of being a wife, and experience the joy of being a mother;
However, there is a cruel truth in love: people's hearts will change, and love will disappear.
When the love of the heart becomes unreliable, the environment that women should adapt to is to let themselves shine.
Just like Tong Liya.
Recently, a Reuters report of Tong Liya participating in "Dance Student" was exposed, in the picture, she had short shoulder-length hair, a smile, and the whole person looked radiant.
Since the divorce, Tong Liya seems to have changed as a person, not only returning to the dance world, but also boldly challenging various things that do not fit her age.
For example, a few days ago, in the latest issue of the variety show "Dance Student", Tong Liya tried to dance pop dance for the first time.
You know, Tong Liya is 38 years old, about to enter middle age, physical fitness is not like young people, usually dance is a national dance, suddenly change the style of dancing popular dance, is not a small challenge.
When practicing, Tong Liya practiced for a long time and could not keep up with the fast rhythm, and after practicing, she was so tired that she lay in the dance studio, and also joked: When she is old, her waist and legs do not come.
But after some effort, Tong Liya showed a different self on the official stage.
Tong Liya, who tried pop dance for the first time, stood in the C position of the girl group and grabbed the camera as always, and the dancing posture was full of vitality.
Only to see her on the stage, gray and purple long hair waist-high, bandeau small black skirt with boots, thick makeup shiny and cool.
Wearing a bandeau and dancing a girl group dance, feminine and stunning, people can't help but sigh: Is this still the woman who once faltered for love?
Sure enough, when women really start to fight for themselves, all happiness is within reach.
The impression of Tong Liya is obviously very beautiful, but she is very unconfident.
Especially in the marriage with Chen Sicheng, she put her posture in the most humble place and became a poor woman who was wronged and begged to please her husband.
Betrayed, she said it would be good to go home; husband and wife quarrel, she must be the one who first obeyed the soft and soft peace; when asked in the interview what to do with a love enemy, she smiled bitterly:
"What should I do? I can only express myself well and strive for it. ”
In the ten years with her ex-husband, Tong Liya is like a representative of a humble woman, allowing netizens to do everything for her, but she resolutely sticks to her family.
She thought that the man who had said he would love her for the rest of his life would be her safe haven.
She thought that the promise of the mountain alliance and the sea would become a reason to stay together for the rest of their lives.
As everyone knows, the sworn love is only an expression of emotion, and under the passage of time, love will drift away with the wind.
In the man's repeated intensification, Tong Liya was scum and scum, the whole network is expecting her to quickly cut the mess, and then she chooses to forgive again and again.
Finally, this forgiveness was also consumed, and all of Tong Liya's love and tolerance for Chen Sicheng stopped in 2020.
Divorce is not an easy task for anyone, however, saying goodbye to a man who makes himself cry and letting himself regain his smile is the possibility of giving more happiness.
Tong Liya is no exception.
After the divorce, the first thing she did was to devote herself to the dance world and confess: I am not a crossover, I am a return.
Tong Liya herself is a dancer in the Chinese Song and Dance Troupe, best at folk dance and classical dance, and later devoted herself to the film and television industry for development.
In the show business circle, Tong Liya has acted in many large and small dramas, although her acting skills have been criticized, but she has also won the title of "the most beautiful costume goddess".
And now, when she is middle-aged, she bids farewell to her past marriages, and also takes time out of the film and television industry to pursue the dance she originally loved.
She put the national dance on the major stages, and with just one glimpse, she was full of styles and surprised everyone.
After being slagged, she faded her inferiority and weakness, and regained her lost dignity little by little.
She tried various styles, immersed herself for two years, and planned the dance drama "In the Distance, Here", thanking her for paying tribute to her hometown.
If marriage has brought harm and growth to Tong Liya, then after the divorce, she is like a new life, focusing on herself.
People suddenly found that Tong Liya, who strives to become excellent, shines every day.
Even under the high-definition lens of CCTV without filter, Tong Liya can calmly host the Spring Festival Gala, and the beauty is still the same.
Tong Liya, who was divorced five months later, fought a beautiful turnaround battle, and she was no longer the poor woman who waited for her husband to come home;
Rather, a woman who combines beauty and self-confidence, is a woman who strives to be excellent and does not forget her original intention.
Her self-confidence today carries the bitter history of the past and also looks forward to the future.
I don't know, looking at such an excellent Tong Liya, did Chen Sicheng regret not cherishing it when he dreamed back in the middle of the night?
He didn't regret it yet, but Tong Liya certainly wouldn't regret leaving him.
Marriage is never a stumbling block on the road of life, and if it is, then the other party must be the wrong person.
Only by leaving the wrong person can we meet a better self.
What a woman can rely on is never a man, but herself.
As Tagore said:
"Even if you go down, you don't have to keep them all, and you have to pick flowers to preserve, because along the way, the flowers will naturally continue to bloom."
No one's life is flowing, and no one can be in darkness all the time.
But those hurts become awakening, which is the driving force of life.
Women who rely on themselves will always have an irreproducible charm.
When you have enough strength, there will be enough beauty to come because of you.
A woman is lucky to have marriage as a guarantee and a husband to rely on, but if you don't have that person, please remember that single days can also be wonderful.
The writer Yamamoto wrote in "Then, I'm Alone":
"One person goes shopping, one person eats people travels, one person does a lot of things. A person's life is lonely, but more often than not, it is happy because of loneliness. Ultimate happiness exists in the deep sea of loneliness. ”
The so-called happiness is not how many people love, but the ability to love oneself and the value of being loved.
No matter when, people who strive to make themselves better will find the beauty in life.
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