There will always be some roads in the future, and you need to go by yourself.
"Child, I ask you to study hard, not because I want you to compare grades with others, but because I hope that in the future you will have the right to choose, choose meaningful, time-consuming work, rather than being forced to make a living." When your work has meaning in your heart, you have a sense of accomplishment. When your work gives you time and doesn't deprive you of your life, you have dignity. A sense of accomplishment and dignity that gives you joy. (A passage written by Long Yingtai to his son Andrei)
As a parent, the most important thing to do is not to fill in all the potholes in the child's road ahead, but to become a guiding light to guide the child to the most correct path when they face the darkness.
Stay kind and don't forget to be sharp
Children, kindness is an innate, subtle word and deed.
First of all, you must learn to be polite and respect everyone and everything around you. Second, you have to learn to smile, learn to listen, learn to praise.
Good words are warm in three springs, and bad words hurt people in June. Be warm and friendly, but don't open the scars whenever you meet people, because you don't know whether others are sprinkling salt or medicine on you; learn to communicate effectively, but don't hurt people with words, don't mix with other people's disputes and conflicts; have a sense of right and wrong, what to do, what not to do must be measured in your heart.
In the face of the help of good people, we must be heart-to-heart, enthusiastic and frank; in the face of the temptation and deception of bad people, we must know how to protect ourselves, learn to detour, and seek advantages and avoid harm. It is true that there is some injustice and darkness in this society, but as long as you have a good heart, life is full of beautiful scenery.
Boy, kindness is right, but don't forget to be sharp when you're keeping kind. Calm, but not indifferent; firm, but not hard.
Learning is a lifelong lesson
The hot passage on the Internet says:
If you are full of talent, when you see the lake rippling in the evening, the sunset, the birds flying by. You will say: "The sunset and the lone bird fly together, and the autumn water is long and colorful." And if you haven't read a book, you're just saying, "There are clouds and birds in the sky, it's beautiful."
Child, you also don't want to be embarrassed because of poor words when communicating with people in the future. I also don't want you to miss out on the road to work in the future because of your low education.
Only by reading well can you have the ability to choose what you like to do and move towards the future you yearn for.
Hope you dare to make mistakes
Zigong in the Analects said:
"The transgressions of a gentleman are like the eclipse of the sun and the moon: they are also seen by all; moreover, everyone looks up to them."
This means that a gentleman's fault is like an eclipse of the sun and a moon: when there is a fault, everyone can see it; when it is corrected, everyone looks up.
Making mistakes is not terrible, the most important thing is that you can find your own right path through trial and error, and constantly groping. In the days when you were growing up, the consequences of trial and error that you could not bear for the time being, parents can help you bear together.
But there are always some roads in the future, you need to go by yourself, and no one will become the backing for your mistakes in the future.
Learn to be grateful
Child, there is not so much in the world that it should be. Not all people are as selfless as your parents are to you. When you grow up and go to society, you will find that there are more people who only ask for you and do not know how to give. People who are willing to help you are kind, and people who are not willing to help you are not wrong, because they do not have the obligation and responsibility to be good to you.
When you receive help from others, be thankful and say thank you. And when you want to make a request of others, ask yourself if you have done anything for the other person. Child, I hope that you have a grateful heart and feel more about the difficulties and efforts of others, so that you will not easily lose yourself. Learning to be grateful is also a way to learn to love.
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