For our post-80s generation, "Muzimei" is like a symbol.
The keywords bound to this symbol are "one-night stands", "sexual liberation", "first-generation Internet celebrities", "lower body writing"...
I even have to admit that in 2003, Muzimei serialized in Tianya, her own and countless men's "sex diary", which can be regarded as one of the sexual enlightenment books for some people.
It was also because of this that I once felt as if she didn't need marriage or love at all, just needed to find a fresh sex life day after day.
What I didn't expect was that I heard from her again that she had been in a relationship with a guy for a full five years – longer than any of my relationships.
I'm certainly curious about what kind of man could make a woman like her, dead set on loving for so many years.
Then I searched the Internet and this man looked like this:
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Well, what if Muzimi likes people to have money and status?
It turned out that the man's profession was that of a taxi driver.
Okay, what if he was loyal to Muzimi and loved her to death?
I checked again, and the driver was married and had children.
Moreover, to this day, he not only insists on breaking up with Muzimei, but also publishes on the Internet that he wants to sue Muzimei for violating his and his wife's right to reputation and make a claim against her.
To be blunt, I don't think Muzimi is right to be a third party, but I read the driver's indictment and still feel a chill.
"Had to develop a lover relationship between the plaintiff and the defendant"?
This sentence completely puts himself in the position of a victim, as if he had been jian by Muzimi for five years.
Netizens can't stand it anymore and have turned on the mockery mode.
I really can't understand how Muzimei, who has read countless people, was planted in the hands of such a di si who described it as obscene and used means.
Later, I went through MuZimei's Weibo and public accounts and saw the passage where she wrote about the driver.
Okay, clear.
In Muzimei's eyes, the driver is a middle-aged man with an unhappy marriage, a boring life, and a life like a pool of stagnant water.
As a result, Muzimi had an impulse to "save him".
She thought, you are short of money, I can give it to you;
You haven't been in love, I can teach you;
You and your daughter-in-law are not happy, and I can give you a brief relief outside of marriage.
Thus, there was everything she had written, her long "love" for five years.
She even gave this relationship a very dramatic name, "Yanjiao Absolute Love" (they met in Yanjiao).
However, no matter how romantic and beautiful she describes, revealing all appearances, in fact, there is nothing new under the sun.
Isn't this the most common reason for married men when they cheat?
"I have no feelings for my daughter-in-law, my life is painful, very boring, I long for true love. And you, my true love. ”
When you look at it from the sidelines, you will think that this is a very lame reason.
However, when a woman really hears the man of her choice say this sentence, it is really difficult to resist.
First of all, a woman's motherhood of her sweetheart is determined, and she has a strong urge to "save" her beloved man from the abyss of misfortune.
When a man you love reaches out to you for help, saying that he is in prison at the moment, and only you have the key to save him, the most women, the subconscious reaction is to go to the soup for him.
What's more, this man describes over and over again in front of you that his wife is less than one in ten thousand of you, that he is with her only endless pain and torment, and that only by your side can he regain his life.
What is the woman hearing at this moment?
It's "in the eyes of the man I love, I'm better and better than another woman".
I understand that this feeling will maximize a woman's self-confidence, competitiveness and even vanity. Women will look down on a man's wife at this time, thinking that she only has a certificate in the legal sense, and that the man's body and soul are already their own.
The "desire to save" plus the "vanity" and the original feelings of affection for this man, all of which are superimposed, and many women's reason can no longer control emotions.
Even a battle-hardened woman like Muzimi is no exception.
Until now, the driver has avoided her and is going to court with her, and she will still have difficulty controlling herself at some moments, holding a glimmer of illusion that the driver may still love her.
So, what are the facts?
There is no doubt that the driver has long had no emotional component towards her, and even only disgust and fear are left.
And, even more cruelly, in the eyes of the driver, she has never been so special, how unique she is - the driver is not the first time to derail.
Muzimi herself has said that before her, the driver had already developed an extramarital affair with a young girl.
It is conceivable that when the driver cheated on the girl before, he must have said the same thing to her:
My wife and I have no feelings, I am not happy in marriage, life is boring, you are my true love...
This is simply a habitual cheating man.
And this is also the real mentality of most cheating men.
"Unhappy marriage" and "You are true love" are men's idiomatic phrases, and in the face of every woman outside of marriage, we repeat them like a repeating machine.
After all, a married man, his money usually can not spend on you, his person can not belong to you completely, his time and energy, most of the time and energy must be given to his family, and your relationship, forever dark and dark.
No longer under the guise of "true love", which woman is willing to accept such treatment?
But in fact, you have no idea that you are his first "true love".
So, the easiest way is to – but whenever a married man says these words in front of you, all, all, when, he, rip, light.
Ten married men mention "true love" to you, and ten are lying to you, just think so, the best for you. It is better not to be inexplicably aroused by the heart of the Virgin Mary.
Or, taking ten thousand steps back, he is really unhappy, very miserable, loves you very much, and uses you as a life-saving straw in life.
But as long as he is a man with a bit of backbone, he knows that his marriage is not happy, and our country is free to divorce, can't he get divorced first and then chase you?
Since he didn't make this choice, it either proves that he is still not miserable enough, or that he is simply a cowardly man who cannot even take responsibility for his own life.
So, what obligation do you have to "save" someone else's husband?
As for Muzimi's sadness, it lies in the fact that when she was young, she saw more male and female love in this world, and saw too much dirtiness and complexity in the relationship between men and women.
Perhaps today, she has done her best to begin to long for a simple relationship, a clean and pure man.
But what she didn't realize was that the inner world of a middle-aged cheating man could not be simple and clean no matter what.
The end of this "Yanjiao love" gives her not only emotional hurts, but more, it should be disillusionment.