"What's never going to come back?" I asked.
"All the things of time, never come back. Your yesterday has passed, it has become yesterday forever, and you can never go back to yesterday. Dad used to be as young as you, and now he can't go back to your childhood so young. One day you will grow up, you will be as old as your grandmother, and one day you will spend all your time and will be like your grandmother will never come back. Dad said.
Dad was equivalent to giving me a riddle, which made me feel terrible more than the textbook's "calendar hanging on the wall, tearing off a page a day, making my heart anxious" and "an inch of time and an inch of gold, an inch of gold is difficult to buy an inch of time"; it is also compared to the text of "time is like an arrow, the sun and the moon are like shuttles" that makes me feel an indescribable taste.
--Lin Qingxuan, "Race Against Time"
Time is like a white colt, and we are always in a race against time.
Although there will be a new sun tomorrow, there will never be a sun today.
Girlish feelings are always poetry After the seventeen-year-old has passed, it will never come back.
It is just a blink of an eye, from a young teenager to a 30+ ranks.
Well, welcome to the world of the old.
Wu Xin, also has the anxiety of the first old?
In the variety show "My Girl", Wu Xin and her friend Shen Ling drank and chatted at home, chatting and suddenly collapsing and crying.
Wu Xin, as a member of the Happy Family, is famous, good-looking, rich, and the object of envy of many people, but she is anxious to the point of collapse...
Her self-analysis poked at the nerves of many people in front of the screen:
She said that she is in her 30s this year, but she has not yet married, it is difficult to find the right person, and she is afraid that she will not have her own position after getting married and having children;
But the work has encountered bottlenecks, no matter how much it is paid in "Happy Base Camp", it is the worst one;
I want to break through myself to act in a TV series, and because my acting skills are too poor, I am ridiculed by the group, and I feel that I have achieved nothing...
She said that she should still do a good job before considering feelings, mentioned that she was stressed when she mentioned her work: "Do you say how well I do my job?" Nor does it. This is a very strange thing. ”
Born in 1983, Wu Xin has been debuting for many years, and in 2006 she won the runner-up of "Shining New Anchor", signed a contract with Hunan Satellite TV, and hosted "Happy Base Camp" with He Jiong, Li Weijia, Xie Na and Du Haitao. Although he has been hosting for more than ten years, it seems that he will always be the one with the least sense of existence. "I did the worst job on that show."
Wu Xin said that the sentence she was most afraid of hearing was: "I haven't grown in so many years." "It was a spell in her life.
At the 2016-2017 Mango Station New Year's Eve Party, the setting was that 10 hosts needed to perform, but because of the overtime, Wu Xin's program was taken away. Wu Xin said that of the ten programs, only her own programs were removed, proving that she was the worst one and could be replaced, which brought her a great psychological shadow.
Isn't this kind of Wu Xin anxiety also our anxiety in front of the screen?
Age, loneliness, anxiety, panic, confusion...
Afraid of being eliminated, wanting to spell out a piece of their own world, and suffering from no particularly prominent advantages... Isn't Wu Xin's anxiety also the problem that every ordinary and small 30+ has to face?
As they grow older, they grow older day by day, and there is no longer a lonely courage of newborn calves who are not afraid of tigers, do not hit the south wall and do not turn back, no longer full of spirit and high morale, only anxiety and panic remain.
When we were young and ignorant, we all fantasized about having a smooth and invincible life; when we grew up, we found that the adult world was full of thorns, and everyone was doomed.
Single you, are you okay now?
Wu Xin, as the host of the country's hottest variety show, is bright and beautiful, famous and rich and beautiful, just because he is not yet married, he has endured such a lot of pressure, not to mention the ordinary girl in front of the screen.
Spring Festival home for the New Year's single you, are you okay? Have you ever been tortured by a soul? Is it considered by friends and family to be "a lifelong event that has not been done at an old age"? Does this give you the illusion that you seem to be "old and coming" and "desolate at night"?
In the idol drama "I May Not Love You", the heroine's thirtieth birthday is happily congratulated by the lover, of course, she is not happy, and even jumps like thunder, who, who is old?
Off-screen I am also inexplicable, how can it be, 30+ years old has to be linked to the word "old"? I can obviously run and jump, can write and fight, get up and down the snowy mountains, get the sea, slide the snow and dive the water, eat as much as cattle and strength like tigers, compared with eighteen years old, in addition to less acne and one or two more ex-boyfriends, there is no difference, why do I say that I began to grow old and will die? Health tests proved that if there were no accidents, I could live to be ninety years old, and at a rough calculation, there were almost sixty years to pass, and I really didn't know how to pass. If you are already getting old now, won't you be out of control when you're old?
At the age of twenty, I did not know the cruelty of reality, and at the age of thirty, I finally understood that in the eyes of many people, women are indeed a kind of "appreciation period" very short fast aging products. Men long for us to be like Nenmo, debut at the age of thirteen, and retire from the public eye at the age of twenty-three. There will always be stubble after stubble of new youthful faces, and they only ask to taste the most tender, fresh and ignorant period of time.
As Zhang Ailing wrote in "Love in the Fallen City":
Seven or eight years passed in the blink of an eye. Are you young? It doesn't matter, in two years it will be old, here, youth is not rare. What they have is youth—children are born one by one, new bright eyes, new red mouths, new wisdom. Year after year of grinding down, the eyes are blunt, people are blunt, and the next generation is born again. This generation is sucked into the glorious background of vermilion sprinkled with gold, and little by little the pale gold is the timid eyes of the people of the past...
And our biological parents are a little kinder than men, they think that you are at most, you can stumble to your thirties, just like the life expectancy of the ancient Egyptians is thirty-five years old, before this has not been done with themselves, then the whole family and even the whole society think that you are no different from a mummy. Believe it or not, if you live to be forty years old and unmarried, the deeds of the perverted old girl will be passed on by word of mouth among the masses until you actually die.
Fortunately, there was a news that came out before, which made people think that the old woman could still be saved. The British media broke the news that a young model in the country committed suicide in anger because her boyfriend broke her contract, and she died on the railway track at the age of sixteen. This surprised me, but when I thought about my twenties, why didn't I live for the scum of human suffering? When I was young, I didn't feel that life was simple and happy, only because I lacked life experience and wisdom, I felt that the world had collapsed when I encountered a little setback, and I felt that it was difficult to go anywhere. Finally reached the age of thirty, only to master a little bit of life philosophy, even if the boyfriend ran to marry someone else, it will not make a big fuss about the wedding, just think that this person is not bad, so he did not send an invitation to cheat the red envelope.
Although this is a ridiculous era, in 98, the little girl opened her mouth to scold the 93-year-old sister "you old woman", everyone is still like thousands of years ago, thinking that a woman's most precious wealth is youth, and you better go into the mountains to bury yourself alive in your thirties. But I'm still glad I've lived to this age, and I don't have to live as stupidly as I did when I was twenty. It is said that the sixteen-year-old model usually has good homework, and knows to copy two famous quotes to encourage himself: "To become an irreplaceable person, you must be different." But she is still one of the idiots who committed suicide for love. When I think of the brains of the young models, I am relieved that God is indeed fair.
But if the argument continues like this, I am afraid that more and more women will think that the most competitive thing to do when they are twenty years old is to plunder wealth. It is not surprising that girls in their early twenties go out on blind dates, it is not surprising that young girls would rather spend a million plastic surgeries and become live internet celebrities than use this money to study, nor is it strange that many viewers do not understand why Zhan Qingyun has to go to Harvard in debt for 1 million, nor is it strange that eighteen-year-old female students skip class to become second mothers, and it is not surprising that Guo Meimei can drive a Maserati just by pouting... The strangest thing is that people are full of admiration for these behaviors, thinking that these young girls can really carry clearly and see through. As for the story of their plundering of wealth, no one cares anymore, they have long been like the young models who committed suicide, dying in people's hearts.
Act now,
This is the cure for all anxiety
How many of us, like Wu Xin, are anxious about the status quo, but we don't know where to improve, and we don't have the perseverance and determination to change ourselves?
I often hate my own indisputable anger, but the thing I insist on the most is that I can't stick to it.
Then the ordinary self is buried in the crowd, anxious, broken, tormented...
In the end, I found that everyone could accept your mediocrity, but you couldn't accept it yourself.
Like Wu Xin, we stayed up the deepest night, used the most expensive cosmetics, and swallowed a lot of health care products to survive:
I want to use the time of soaking my feet to read a book to enrich myself, but I fall asleep when I look at it;
Get up early and exercise, pedal your legs on the bed a few times and it's over;
At home, when you are hungry, order takeout, eat and watch dramas, and it is another day. Wei Jia said, "Wu Xin is 'paralyzed'."
When it comes to the holidays, we are paralyzed at home watching dramas and eating takeout, isn't this exactly our pig girl herself in front of the screen?
Everyone longs to become a better version of themselves, but many times they only stay in the stage of "thinking". Until he was left far behind by those who were strong in action, he began to be anxious and anxious again. In this way, I fell into a vicious circle, constantly doubting myself, doubting my life, and falling to the bottom of anxiety.
Want to get too much, but do too little, is not also a common disease of our ordinary people?
There's a saying that goes something like this:
The reason why life is painful is that ability is not worthy of ambition. The reason why life is confused is because talent is not worthy of dreams. When your talent can't support your ambition, you should calm down and learn; When your ability is not yet able to control your goals, you should sink your heart and practice.
Anxiety does not change the status quo.
After anxiety, collapse, and crying, we have to ask ourselves: What do we really want? What can be done about it? What are you willing to do for this?
Dreams are not only dreams can be achieved, it requires us to constantly precipitate and accumulate, and constantly polish and improve ourselves.
In fact, everyone has the opportunity to live this life to the fullest.
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, you come up with a thousand reasons to laugh at it." Sometimes, after the hardships of life reach a certain level, a flower will bloom, and that flower is called "willow dark flower bright".
Acting now and finding the right rhythm for you is the cure for all anxiety.
Don't be anxious,
It's never too late to start.
15 years old find it difficult to swim, give up swimming, and when you meet someone you like at 18 and ask you to swim, you have to say "I won't yay."
18-year-old finds English difficult, gives up English, 28-year-old has a great but english-speaking job, you have to say "I won't yay".
Everything you indulge in now is a cost to you in the future.
--Cai Kangyong
The more troublesome you are in the early stage of life, the more you indulge yourself, the more lazy you are to learn, and the more likely you are to miss the people and things that move you and miss new landscapes in the later stage.
So don't always be afraid to take the first step, become a better version of yourself never too late to start, only action and persistence.
Haruki Murakami only started running at the age of 33 and has been running for 36 years now, and participates in a full marathon at least once a year.
Ni Ping only began to learn to paint at the age of 52, and now she has not only held a painting exhibition, but also sold a painting for 1.5 million.
"Tong Treasurer" Yan Ni only began to lose weight at the age of 45, and now the forward convexity is at least 10 years younger. On spring evenings this year, she was in a good state like she was in her 30s.
You're in your early 30s, what's there to be anxious about and feel too late?
Jolin Tsai debuted 20 years ago, and countless people have looked down on her, denigrated her, and ridiculed her. Once all her efforts had become a reason for others to hack her, everything she said was wrong, even the accent was ridiculed by the group... but now that "talented" girl has already counterattacked to become a sexy queen.
She has also been anxious, and she has been whirling in the vortex of negative emotions, but she has turned the dark side of those emotions into a driving force and a guiding light for life.
Because of various criticisms, because of anxiety, Jolin Tsai has always thought about life and has been working hard to make progress. In order to break the prejudice, Jolin Tsai and herself stumbled to the end, using their own efforts to block those ill-intentioned voices:
At the age of 26, he began to learn to dance, dancing for 14 hours a day until he was exhausted;
In preparation for her own concert tour, she flew to London to learn pole dancing;
In order to be more professional, she also worshiped the gymnastics queen as a teacher.
She worked hard to grow in the mud, so that she had the brilliance on the stage today, and achieved a better and better self.
No one knows how many bruises and sweat she has on her body, but she has seen the once earthy girl transform into a sexy singing and dancing queen.
After walking through all the darkness alone, Jolin Tsai's advice is:
Live in the moment, don't keep looking at the past and the future, and focus on everything.
Moderate anxiety can also motivate people to progress. Learn to digest anxiety and find a balance between ambition and life.
Everyone has their own way of life, and we have to find the right rhythm for ourselves.
Write at the end
For the next two decades, I benefited immensely. Although I know that people can never run through time, they can run one step faster than the original, and if you work harder, sometimes you can take several steps faster. Those few steps are small and small, but the use is very large.
If I have anything to teach my child in the future, I will tell him: If you keep racing against time, you can succeed.
We've been in a race against time.
Every year at the beginning of the new year, we will make a wish list, and then when the next new year comes, we will begin to regret that we did not do what we wanted to do in the past year, did not spend time with our families, and did not treat ourselves well...
Instead of making a flag year after year and not being able to do it, it is better to take the first step from now on, and then stick to it! Become a better version of yourself, there is never the best time to start, take action, persevere, is victory.
30+ girls, don't cry, don't worry, don't worry, take your time.
The security of a 30+ girl doesn't come from her boyfriend, but from the ever-increasing balance on her phone and bank card.
Girls of 30+ also have their own unique charm: there is still a youthful face, but the heart is no longer as ignorant as in the early 20s, but adds wisdom, calmness and elegance.
30+ girls are feminine but naïve, sophisticated and not overly sophisticated. Enjoy your time in your 30s, time is like the sand that enters the shell, it will make you miserable, but it can polish a brilliant pearl.
In feelings, there will always be points and combinations, and in life, there will always be comings and goings; 30+ girls have learned to like shallowly, love quietly, think deeply, and let go lightly.
To be infinitely gentle with the past,
Fill the future with light.
I always have dreams in my heart,
It was my own mountains, lakes and seas.
Every day I live now is the youngest day of the rest of my life.
Please don't get old too fast, but understand too late.
"I May Not Love You" has this classic line to encourage:
Mature woman charm first: finally learn to swing at the evil beautifully, just as we beautifully stepped on high heels.
Mature woman charm second rule: no longer be bribed by gifts, only believe in their own vision!
Mature girl charm third rule: have a friend who will be sad for your sadness.
Mature girl charm fourth rule: laughter, can allow you to defeat the enemy with yourself.
The fifth charm of mature women: no longer someone else's bookmark, but a good book worth reading and re-reading.
Mature woman charm sixth: what makes you shine is not the diamond, but the eyes you have cried.
Mature woman charm seventh: with your roots, no matter where, you can blossom again.
The eighth article of the charm of mature women: drink more water, purify life, purify love, and purify the truth of deception.
Mature Girl Charm Nine: Bravely tell yourself that this is not mine!
Mature female charm ten: no one can prescribe the length of our hair.
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