Irresistible magic - divorced couples co-starring in reality reality shows, tearing open the fig leaf of marriage! The best Han Zong of the Year, not one of them
Just ask, let the divorced former couples co-star in the same show, but also spend a few days alone in the reality reality show, do you think this show is planned reliably?
To be honest, when I first heard about this project, I didn't believe it, how could it be? But anyone who is more normal will be embarrassed, right? Can the current program be used to the extreme for the sake of ratings, is it too bottomless, dare to think! If there are really divorced couples who are willing to star happily, it must be more lack of money and how crazy they want to be red! Even the show's host, Kim Won-hee, said she was shocked when she received the invitation, "Is our country so ahead of its time?" ”
But, however, the facts snapped me in the face. At the end of the year of the catastrophe in 2020, Han Zong, who was decent all year round, thought that this was it, and he did not expect a big hit, which is the divorce reality show "We Are Divorced" that I said above. South Korea's North Korea TV premiered on November 20, and the ratings soared directly to a staggering 14.7%. At present, 4 episodes have been broadcast, and the episodes are high and hot searches, causing a huge discussion among the Korean people.
Best of all, it doesn't have any dog blood! No dog blood! No dog blood! Say important things three times. It is not a bottom line but a high standard, whether it is a divorced couple, a couple in marriage, or a person who is not married, you can get thinking from the show, empathy, empathy helplessness, but also empathy.
The guests of the show are not crazy, they are either elegant or beautiful or handsome, and there are different sad pasts hidden under the calm appearance. Happy marriages in the eyes of others, under the pressure of life, have become chicken feathers. What was once all about each other is now the most familiar stranger.
Perhaps because of public figures, their marriages tend to be scrutinized more. What these guests have in common is that they were once model couples in the public eye, and their divorce was all sudden and incredible to the outside world.
Why join this show? Some guests are unwilling and still want to know what they look like in each other's hearts; some guests want to take this opportunity to explain the layers of misunderstandings; some guests still have nostalgia after understanding their predecessors, with small expectations such as "Do I have a chance to get back together now that I have changed now"; some guests finally let go of the pressure and did not need to look at others' eyes, with a hint of curiosity, and wanted to determine once again whether they could get along more freely and honestly in the days to come...
In fact, all these reasons can be boiled down to one point, that is, these divorced couples hope to re-examine the broken married life in the show, and try to reconstruct a more harmonious relationship after divorce. The progress of society and the more tolerant of the multi-faceted nature of marriage have given modern people more choices about the relationship between divorcing parties different from the past. In particular, the divorce rate and the non-marriage rate (fear of marriage rate) continue to rise at the moment, this topic can be said to be a new marriage issue that modern people need to face. And this program has a very positive practical significance.
In addition to the divorced couples who starred in the show, in the studio, the host Shin Dong-yeol, Kim Won-hee and the observer guests, including psychologists, jointly formed an observation group, analyzed and discussed together, which played a good guiding role, which also made the depth and practical significance of the program itself more prominent - reflections on married life and life after divorce after divorce.
Liang Zaizhen, a psychologist in the program observation group, said, "Divorce is not to become happy, but to reduce unhappiness. ”
The guests and hosts in the studio had a lively discussion
Once the program was broadcast, the audience's messages were overwhelming, whether divorced or not, all of them could resonate with the audience, and the momentum went straight to the phenomenon-level variety show -
"This is a show that has left a mark in the history of Korean television."
"Isn't this a TV series?"
"Society has really changed, and it is actually possible to have such a program broadcast!"
"I can feel the heart, and I also feel the heartache."
"Although I am not divorced, I am completely substituted"
"Why am I so heartbroken? There were so many tears that I couldn't sleep. ”
"The father who has a daughter cries when he sees it."
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The family has a difficult scripture - divorced couples with outstanding personalities
NO.1 Lee Young-ho & Fresh In-sook
To say these two, may not be very familiar to the current small pot friends, but in the 80s of the last century in South Korea, it was a popular film circle and television circle of the goddess of the gods, the two works added up to more than 200, their wedding was once known as the Korean entertainment circle century wedding, the sensation is no less than the previous two years of the double Song.
It is these two famous movie stars with high national popularity, and what has always been shown to the public is the model of love and sweetness. But they divorced 13 years ago without warning and abruptly announced the end of 26 years of marriage, which caused an uproar at the time. In fact, they had separated two years before their divorce.
In other words, this appearance is the first time they are alone after a gap of 15 years. Although they would meet before because of their son and granddaughter, they were all together, and the two had never been alone together. However, after the divorce, Xian Yu Yinshu once said that he did not rule out the possibility of reunion, but Li Yinghe said that the most wrong thing he did in his life was to marry Xian Yu Yinshu.
It can be seen that in this relationship, Xianyu Yinshu is in a weak position, but she still has a trace of nostalgia and fantasy, and Li Yinghe wants to escape as soon as possible.
Therefore, as soon as the news that the two agreed to star came out, it aroused the curiosity of the Korean people, and the message board below the message was full of expectations and speculations.
Li Yinghe and Xian Yu Yinshu, who were together alone for the first time after the divorce
The 62-year-old Xian Yu Yinshu was the first to appear. Although he is 62 years old, as soon as he opens his mouth, he is still full of girlish heart. She wondered what her ex-husband had become in her daily life, and she wondered if she would still see her as a woman in her ex-husband's mind. Of course, she still has a full stomach of grievances and questions to understand with him. To this end, she made an appointment with a hairstylist friend to help her with her hair and makeup, and she carefully selected a box of clothes and accessories herself, plus brought her ex-husband his favorite kimchi. Although she was shocked and disappointed when she heard from her daughter-in-law, "Dad is very good at cooking, maybe better than Mom" and "Dad made me cold noodles super delicious", she still had a glimmer of hope and a beautiful imagination.
The 71-year-old Li Yinghe is still full of youthful vitality, and his dress is also very fashionable, not at all like he is over seventy years old. He is sexually playful, has many friends all his life, is always surrounded by a group of people, drinks and chats every day, and no day's schedule is empty. Even the outrageous trip to the newlyweds was with a large group of brothers, and the first night of the new wedding was to let the wife go back to the room alone to rest, and drink until 4 a.m. to have fun. Buying gifts is always buying a bunch, and sending friends is very generous. The gift to his wife was taken from a pile of gifts so that he himself could not remember it, while the wife was so happy that she treasured it like a treasure and gave it a special meaning. It's clear that he cares more about himself than his wife. Marriage is a bondage to him, and divorce is a relief. It doesn't matter whether it's good or bad, right or wrong, this kind of person is not suitable for marriage.
His reason for acting is to solve some misunderstandings that are superimposed too much, because he himself is not a kind of person who is unlikely to express himself, and everything is buried in his heart. He would be very active drinking with friends or going golf with him, but when he came home to his wife, he would become very silent and depressing. Therefore, even if he is very nervous about starring in the show, he tries to pretend to be light and breezy. So much so that after meeting his ex-wife in the first episode, he kept his eyes wandering and did not dare to look into each other's eyes. And keep the conversation distance from his ex-wife, refusing to communicate deeply. At the age of 71, in marriage, he feels as if he has not yet grown up.
Li Yinghe and Xian Yu Yinshu revisited their first love
It is such a pair of old husbands and wives, after meeting, Xianyu Yinshu can't wait to talk, chase and ask 100,000 why, I want the two people to be alone for 3 days to open their hearts and talk. And Li Yinghe has been dodging, feeling that it is very awkward to be alone with Xian Yu Yinshu, and it is very stressful and uncomfortable. The lianzhu cannon that was rarely yu Yinshu asked questions, making Li Yinghe, who was not good at words, feel that his mouth was going to cramp. Maybe it's to reduce stress, maybe it's to escape, maybe it's just a habit, in short, Li Yinghe has not changed in the slightest compared with the past, and he is still a friend supremacist. In just two days and three nights, I invited two groups of friends to drink two big wines, and I had no desire to talk with my ex-wife like a needle felt, and I laughed with my friends and laughed a lot.
At that time, the audience who watched it left a message, so why did he have to go to the show? For a time, Li Yinghe, a negative heart, was brushed on the Korean network hot search. On the other hand, rarely than Yin Shu, her emotions have not been effectively released, but her body and mind have been more tired, and she has also left tears in the middle of the way, "Ah, I am too greedy, a person will not change, he has not changed at all..."
The monologue of Yin Shu is presumably poking at the hearts of many couples - one of the husband and wife is ignorant and inconsiderate and only cares about himself, the key is completely unconscious, immature like a wayward child; the other blindly tolerates everywhere, works hard in the family, thinking that he can make the other party wake up after seeing it, but the result is basically futile. Such a vicious circle of married life, until he forced himself into a Xianglin sister-in-law who was full of resentment and nagging.
Such a day is too tiring, the heart is tired!
I wanted to eat and chat with the two of them, but I didn't expect that Li Yinghe's friend was already on the way
Look, are we familiar with the lives of these two? Are there many marriages around us that sacrifice one party to sacrifice themselves to maintain superficial harmony? Or are we ourselves caught up in it?
The first time alone ended in an imperfect way, Li Yinghe reflected more than Yin Shu, and he seemed to finally realize some problems. Therefore, in the third episode, he specially prepared a trip to Jeju Island, hoping to make up for The regret of The Young-sook for the newlywed trip. It can be seen that he is very hard to perform, for example, he said that this time he really did not have other friends, he pushed off the existing itinerary, he also had regrets in his heart but he was unwilling to say it. But the more sincerely he said it, the more the audience saw it with emotion. Growing up again at 71 is no joke, and many adults don't grow up in marriage.
NO.2 Cui Meat & Liu Shisu
The second divorced couple to star is the popular anchor of YouTube. The husband is Cui Meat, who has 700,000 followers, known as YouTube Personal Channel Shen Dongye, and his wife is Liu Zisu, a fashion blogger with 260,000 fans.
In particular, the two married at a very young age and soon had a lovely daughter Matsuba, who became rookie parents. They started falling in love at 25 and 23, married and had kids at 26 and 24, and divorced at 30 and 28. The current divorce is only 7 months. In the words of the host, the divorce stamp has not yet been dried.
From the beginning of their love, until the divorce, netizens witnessed the sweetness of the two and later a family of three. Their daughter Matsuba is very cute, and in the process of raising children, their "Parenting Diary of Matsuba" is very popular.
Therefore, when fans heard the news of their divorce, they were incredible. Because those sweet and joyful images are so beautiful, as if everything happened yesterday.
Cui Meat and Liu Zisu, who were together alone for the first time after divorce
Unlike the older couple of Li Yinghe and Xian Yu Yinshu, the younger ones behaved more freely. Even, for the divorce thing, it is more mature.
After the divorce, based on the comprehensive consideration of all aspects, the daughter Matsuba was raised by her father's meat, while Shiso returned to her home in Busan to live with her mother, taking a train for several hours a month to see her daughter, and usually only video to solve the pain of lovesickness.
Cui Meat meat has a lively personality and is very attractive, as a single father, he works hard. He often felt guilty about his daughter because he couldn't give Matsuba a complete home for 5-year-old Matsuba. For his ex-wife, he will also be very sorry, and there is no trace of complaint, but there is still a nostalgia that outsiders can see. The heart is still there, but the footsteps have to leave. Therefore, for starring in the show, in fact, he has a small expectation of "maybe there is still a possibility of compounding".
The beautiful and dazzling Liu Zisu has an introverted personality, smart and stubborn, strong self-esteem, and is very principled. She was born in a family that was not rich, and her mother was hard-working, so she looked like a very independent girl. She and meat belong to love at first sight, a bit of a sense of immediacy from fans and idols. She was hooked because she saw the meat music stage on the spot. Her outstanding appearance also made the flesh and flesh see her at a glance in the crowd.
The two naturally walked together, had a lovely daughter, and the Tubing business was thriving, and everything seemed to be on the right track. However, the hidden danger is inadvertently buried deeply. When I found out, I couldn't dig it out if I wanted to.
Can they do it all over again? 4 years ago, 24-year-old Liu Zisu and 26-year-old Cui Meat
They met alone after 7 months of natural freedom, and the modern young people's concept of marriage was vividly reflected in them, and the whole process showed the mode of getting along with each other that could afford to be put down. But is this really the case?
In the show, Meat and Meat made Shiso to eat and massaged her; Shiso took Meat to visit the house and beat bugs for Meat. The two of them giggled and wanted to indulge, and the ambiguous and sweet atmosphere filled the air. Both the guests in the studio and the audience in front of the TV had the illusion that this was really not filming "We Are Married"? Why did they get divorced? This is not scientific.
The reason why marriage is always a chicken feather is because there are always many uncontrollable things in life. It is not the reason of both husband and wife themselves, but it is a problem that marriage has to face. Just like the pair of meat and perilla, everyone can see that the two obviously have love, but there is an unbridgeable gap in the middle. Marriage has never been just a matter for two people, it is about two families.
Sure enough, a large part of their divorce came from Meat's father, Meat's sister, and Shiso's mother. From the beginning of the discussion of marriage needs at the meeting ceremony, the two families had a very unpleasant quarrel. Flesh Daddy also said ugly harsh words to Shiso's mother, which left a shadow in the introverted and sensitive Shiso's heart, and she did not know how to get along with her father-in-law, so that she finally reached the point of ignoring each other. The meat father's evaluation of the daughter-in-law is also "0 points, whether it is the wife, mother, or daughter-in-law, all of them are unqualified."
Meat is old, sandwiched between old father and wife, I don't know how to be good. Fathers often consciously or unconsciously put pressure on meat, "I will not live for a few days..." So that in the war between father and wife, meat will always unconsciously favor father. This is also the place that makes Shiso most sad and disappointed.
In the process of raising his daughter alone, the flesh that had previously been busy with work and dominated the married life gradually understood the difficulty of his wife, and he wanted to save it, so he kept trying. However, the self-respecting and principled Perilla is completely ironclad and does not give meat any chance. In her opinion, the days after the divorce were her most relaxed days, and she was finally able to catch her breath and no longer have to look at others. Although missing her daughter is an unspeakable pain in her heart, she also has no regrets about the choice of divorce. She laughed and said, "The whole 20-year-old has been put in", which makes people listen to the sad tears, how tired her heart will be!
Once a happy and happy family, Matsuba is so cute
The hope and bond between them is the daughter Matsuba. The lovely Matsuba's longing and attachment to his mother, the understanding and thoughtfulness of the little devil, and the helplessness of finally parting and letting go, made the studio people and the audience in front of the TV set cry into tears.
Is the reason for the divorce reflected by this divorced couple also very substitutionary? Are there many such things around? When you got married, maybe you had this kind of distress?
In episode 4, Meat takes Matsuba to Busan to see Shiso, because of the divorce and child custody issues, Shiso's mother is very disappointed in Meat and has no good words for him. Can they really get along as they wish after the divorce?
NO.3 Park Jae-hoon & Park Hye-young
The couple only started starring in episode 4 and didn't have much time to appear. But in just this short forty minutes, these two brought great expectations to the audience. Even the host said, "Powerful characters have appeared" and "it is the impact of different directions!" ”
Park Jae-hoon and Park Hye-young, who are together alone for the first time after their divorce
Park Jae-hoon was a top model, singer and actor, and his wife, Park Hye-young, was a former professional player in the South Korean national wrestling team. Unlike the first two pairs of men who are more dominant in their married life, this pair is completely dominated by the woman, but the man looks at the woman's eyes everywhere. The two only met for a few minutes, starting with the costume, Park Hye-young counted down her ex-husband 4 times. Moreover, he was not at all cold to the candles that Park Jae-hoon lit to create a romantic atmosphere, felt too much pressure, and blew them all out. Watching his ex-wife do all this while talking, Park Jae-hoon just smiled awkwardly and grumpily.
Park Jae-hoon and Park Hye-young met for 6 months and entered the palace of marriage
Park Hye-young has the directness and handsomeness of an athlete, and the tall Park Jae-hoon has a gentle and delicate personality.
After the divorce, the two children were raised by Park Hye-young. Because when the two divorced, the youngest daughter was not born for a long time, so there is no specific memory of the father. For her, her father is the voice on the phone and the "handsome father" stored in her mother's mobile phone address book. Junsheng is their eldest son.
This program arrangement is also the first time they have been alone since they divorced for 5 years, and they have sons before meeting.
Another point that differs from other guests is that they divorced in 2015, but they did not announce it in time, so they missed the right time to disclose it. Moreover, they participated in many variety shows related to couples in those years. In front of the public, a good image of husband and wife has been maintained. This is painful for Park Hye-young, who feels it is a deception to the public. Moreover, the eldest son also knows that they are divorced, and the children will see all this in their eyes. So, from Park Hye-young's point of view, she is eager to make it all public through this show.
Park Jae-hoon and Park Hye-young were once regulars in couples variety shows
Park Jae-hoon obviously took the meeting more seriously, and he arrived at the date site early, carefully inspecting everything and arranging everything, just like he had done at home before.
Compared with the tension in Park Jae-hoon's waiting, Park Hye-young frequently said as soon as he appeared, "I really think I am not suitable for marriage, I often wonder if I have ruined a good man!" "Why, you're only saying this now, and I can't gouge out my eyeballs!" ”...... In the marriage relationship, Park Hye-young played all straight balls, and often hit it with one hit.
The reason for their divorce, in addition to the personality incompatibility, I think, the pressure of life should also be one of the factors that cannot be ignored. Park Jae-hoon's career has not been very smooth, and he has been at home for several years without a job. The wife is also a fiery personality, but he is particularly gentle, and it is conceivable that there must be many contradictions in married life. As a result, Park Jae-hoon has always felt guilty about his hard-working wife.
Park Hye-young knife mouth tofu heart, don't look at his total number of ex-husbands, but in front of the children, has always maintained his image and established his majesty. Their eldest son said that as long as Mom and Dad stopped marrying, they could accept their divorce, and in his heart, they were still family. The son adores his father very much.
The program team is really very attentive, the selected guests are very interesting, and the content they present is very in-depth. Do you see the same reality of the couple relationship that this pair shows? Modern people in life, not only bear the pressure of marriage, but also bear the huge pressure of career and interpersonal relationships. Social pressures tend to regurgitate families, which are sometimes very fragile. This is the unspeakable pain of marriage.
How they get along and get along with themselves in the future is very exciting.
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The stress survey results of Washington Medical University show that among the stresses that people face throughout their lives, the first is the death of a spouse, the second is divorce, the seventh is marriage, and the ninth is reconciliation with a spouse, and four of the top ten situations are related to marriage.