was really let down, and the youth fed the dog, which is undoubtedly the greatest physical and mental harm to anyone.
But there is a saying:
Life is so long, who hasn't loved a scumbag and scumbag?
It doesn't matter if you love the wrong person, the important thing is to know how to correct it.
If you love the wrong person, you don't have to turn your face, as long as you do two things well, you win.
Eventually, you will find that apart from life and death, everything else is bruises.
One
Give yourself permission to grieve and embrace yourself well
A friend said that when she found out that her husband had cheated and betrayed the family, she almost endured internal injuries.
She is a very strong woman and a very cultivated woman, and she doesn't want this bit of in her family to be known to everyone.
Shame aside, the more people who know and the more people who mix, the more difficult it is to smoothly resolve the contradictions.
The friend chose a person not to heal, but the more painful she was, the more she blamed herself in her heart, and she couldn't accept herself who was so depressed, decadent, and miserable.
So, she desperately pretended not to care.
But the stronger she was during the day, the more sad she was at night, and for a while, she was so miserable that she couldn't sleep all night, and wept until dawn.
Later, she went to see a psychiatrist. The doctor's words instantly made her break her defense:
Cry when you want to cry, you are not an iron warrior, you have to learn to accept your grievances, helplessness, and accept all your negative emotions. You accept them, and slowly, they stop pestering you.
Friends said that when she admitted her vulnerability and allowed herself to cry, she felt a lot calmer.
The host Cai Kangyong wrote a sentence:
If there is something that you can't let go of and can't carry it, maybe you can try to use your imagination to put your current painful self like flying a kite, and let it go high into the sky 10 years from now, to overlook the current painful self. Only by looking at it from a distance can you pull out.
Accept your fragility in the moment and look at yourself in pain from a distance.
When you stop fighting with yourself and stop being strong, your heart will be much easier.
They are all flesh and blood, people with feelings, who hasn't been vulnerable and helpless? What a normal thing!
Two
Keep yourself busy and make yourself better
Regarding emotional injury, Mr. Yang Jiang once said this:
Earning money can cure all hypocrisy, having money can cure all inferiority, working hard to earn money is a woman's greatest confidence, it is not necessarily responsibility, but it is definitely dignity.
A bird rests on a branch, not because it believes it won't break, but because it knows it can fly.
When a woman has financial confidence and spiritual support, she will naturally become calm and calm when she faces any problem and deals with any problem.
Marriage is essentially a game of power, and people who don't have the strength can't get to the negotiating table.
There is a reader who has been a stay-at-home mom for three years and has not been very financially independent.
When she suddenly found out that her husband was having an affair outside of marriage, she didn't do too much mental internal friction, but as quickly as possible, she found an elderly person in the community to help her pick up and drop off the children, and immediately went out to find a job.
After getting a regular job, she signed up for an evening nail class and spent all her time improving her skills.
During this time, the man complained and ridiculed sarcastically, but this reader never took it to heart. She said:
When you're really busy, you don't have the time or brain power to think about all those trivial things.
Because she disdained all the man's bits and pieces, didn't care, didn't quarrel, but the man panicked, and slowly cut off contact with the people outside, and put more thoughts on the family.
In the book Marriage: The Challenge, the psychologist Rudolph says:
Many people believe that marriage is about gaining security. However, marriage does not provide a sense of security. It is a problem in itself that remains to be solved, a daunting task that life has given us that must be completed.
In life, doing oneself is the first thing, and the others, if there is fate, gather, and when fate ends, they will disperse, and there is no need to force it.
If you bloom, butterflies will come. When you live yourself into a living flower, life will naturally become sunny.