Ms. Zhao found out that her husband was cheating. Ms. Zhao said to the man:
"It's your business to break off from her. Your betrayal of your marriage is our business, and your hurt of me and my children is also our business.
If you solve the matter with the mistress, it does not mean that we have solved the matter of our marriage. Don't think about breaking up with Xiao San, you can come back by patting your ass. ”
After listening to this, the man cried bitterly and talked about the 10-year relationship between husband and wife, and took the initiative to call his daughter, begging her to say good things for herself. Ms. Zhao asked me:
"Teacher, can you tell me what the man thinks, I saw him a big man kneeling in front of me crying into a tearful man, I just thought I knew it was like this, why bother in the first place?
The sweet words he said to Xiao San were disgusting and obscene, he was so sincere to Xiao San, why did he come to beg me? If he really loves me and can't let go of this family, why would he give up all this to find a mistress? I really don't understand what's going on in his head? ”
I will take the marriage requests I received last year as a case to tell you how a man views his original partner after cheating:
01 The first case Mr. Wang cheated on his subordinates.
Mr. Wang cheated on a young and beautiful female subordinate, and during those cheating days, Mr. Wang felt very good, because he felt that he seemed to be younger with such a young girl.
He began to pay attention to his dressing and hairstyle, and even began to go to the gym, and the presence of Xiao San made Mr. Wang feel that life was full of passion again. So Mr. Wang is very good to Xiaosan.
But when Mr. Wang's derailment was revealed. Mr. Wang's first thought was how to explain to his family? Mr. Wang told me that he didn't think about the priority of his wife and the junior at that time, and his first thought was how to solve the matter.
Soon the wife gave an ultimatum of 1 out of 2. Of course, Mr. Wang is reluctant to be a junior, but Mr. Wang knows that marriage is still the basic plate of men, and there is no reason to throw away the staple food for side dishes. So Mr. Wang chose to return to his family.
The junior, who has always been favored by Mr. Wang, was completely dumbfounded. She felt that Mr. Wang doted on her so much, so listen to her, how could he abandon her?
In fact, many juniors have a misjudgment, they will think that as long as a man is good enough to him, he will have a chance to win in front of his original partner. But in fact, men are good to Xiao San because men want to get some value from Xiao San.
When men feel that they have to lose a larger family value for the sake of these small values, they naturally make trade-offs.
02 The second case Mr. Li wants a threesome.
After Mr. Li's cheating was discovered by his wife, his first thought was not to return to the family, but to try his best to weigh the situation.
He tried his best to get his wife to accept the threesome situation. For this reason, he kept throwing the blame at his wife, and kept threatening his wife, saying: "You are nothing without me." At the same time, he will also take advantage of his wife's good mood to give his wife favors.
Although Mr. Li's abacus is very good, but he didn't expect his wife to be a ruthless person, she does not accept any manipulation from Mr. Li, as long as Mr. Li does not completely break off with Xiao San, then she will not only divorce, but also let Mr. Li die.
Mr. Li and his wife played for more than a month, and after finding that his wife was not easy to mess with, he threw off the mistress and abandoned his armor.
These two cases are particularly typical. Mr. Wang wanted to take the initiative to break up with Xiao San, but Mr. Li wanted to have a threesome. But no matter what, they all chose to return to the family, and when they reviewed the whole thing, they all told me: "There is no love between me and Xiaosan." ”
Most men return to the family, either to protect the greater good, or because of his wife's resolute and tough attitude, so that he has no room for flowery bowels. Of course, there must also be feelings for his wife.