In the world of feelings, everyone longs for single-minded love.
So when choosing the other half, I was extra cautious, for fear that I would make a wedding dress for someone else.
Stars in the entertainment industry are just as cautious.
Under the watchful eye of the public, the slightest change in the emotional life will attract onlookers.
Among the many celebrity couples, the most distressing original partner is Yang Jiewei, if she had half of Cui Yaoqi's ruthlessness, she would not have fallen to the point where she is now.
For the sake of her lover's career, she gave up her right to be a mother.
For the sake of her lover's future, she swallowed her anger and was willing to become the woman behind it.
In the end, a third party entered the house, and Yang Jiewei became a "cousin".
can't help but sigh, what has she experienced?
When the name Yang Jiewei is mentioned, many people will feel unfamiliar.
But when it comes to her husband Alan Tam, he is a well-known big name in the music industry.
Once in an interview, he said something like this:
"It's not acting, it's not showmanship, every man has a woman behind him, and both of them work so hard."
Who are "they"? In a monogamous marriage, why is there a third person?
I often wonder if Yang Jiewei would have been a different kind of life if she hadn't met this man.
But life is always going on, and there is no regret medicine.
As a well-known beauty consultant and art planner in the entertainment industry, she has poured all her efforts into Alan Tam.
It is no exaggeration to say that how high this man's career is, how much credit Yang Jiewei has.
Alan Tam's fame is based on her dedication.
But the relationship between the two was not exposed to everyone until 1993.
Yang's father died, and the obituary published "Son-in-law Alan Tam", and fans blew up for a while.
When did your idol get married?
In fact, Alan Tam and Yang Jiewei have registered as husband and wife as early as 12 years ago.
In the days when the man was unknown, she worked hard to study the choreography, dance design, and lighting scheduling, and turned herself into an all-round art planner.
It's a pity that this forbearance can only be appreciated by itself.
Considering Alan Tam's future, if the relationship is exposed, there will definitely be a large number of de-fans, and her career will be affected, Yang Jiewei chose to protect her lover silently as an assistant.
Until his father died, he couldn't hide it anymore.
After learning the news, fans launched a verbal attack on Yang Jiewei.
Some people think that she is climbing the dragon and attaching the phoenix, and she has fallen in love with Alan Tam's wealth and status. There are also people who feel that if the two people are not a good match, it will not be long before they separate.
It can be said that there are many people who watch jokes, and under Alan Tam's halo, no one notices how much Yang Jiewei has paid and how many grievances she has suffered for this marriage.
It is worth mentioning that in the face of the disapproval of the outside world, she is very calm, does not listen to things outside the window, and loves Alan Tam as always.
Not only does he manage the affairs of the family, but he also manages his assets carefully.
But such a sacrifice is not in exchange for the love of her husband, but the betrayal that everyone knows.
Three years after the marriage relationship was exposed, in 1996, Alan Tam's "double score" scandal was all over the streets.
At that time, Yang Jiewei didn't believe it and felt that it was "hype" from the media.
But seeing Zhu Yongting and the baby in swaddling clothes, many things are self-evident.
She didn't understand, what had she done wrong?
Over the years, in order to support her husband's career, Yang Jiewei has lost too much.
I thought that after the relationship was made public, I could enjoy my happy married life openly and openly.
It's a pity that Alan Tam once again met the gentle Alice Chu by chance, and the two hit it off at first sight and had endless common topics.
Unable to extricate themselves from the depths of their love, the two chose moths to fight the fire.
Later, with the arrival of a little life, Alan Tam decided to leave the bloodline of the Tan family after careful consideration.
Yang Jiewei couldn't accept everything in front of her and denounced the man's ingratitude.
What about Alan Tam? To put it mildly: "This is solved by history".
In this way, he began to run between the two women, comforting the original partner while taking care of Zhu Yongting and the child.
Looking at it after many years, everyone's "ridicule", these are just drizzle.
Within the walls of marriage, the unspeakable pain is Yang Jiewei's real unhappiness.
She and Alan Tam met in a glittering bar, and it was love at first sight.
Under the man's pursuit, the two confirmed their relationship.
At that time, Alan Tam, not long after the band disbanded, was equivalent to an unemployed young man with no talent.
Yang Jiewei doesn't care, she firmly believes that where there is a will, there is a way.
even quit his high-paying job in order to help her boyfriend and wholeheartedly help Alan Tam realize his dream.
Gradually, men's careers soared all the way and gained a firm foothold in the entertainment industry.
The two of them walked into the palace of marriage in a low-key manner, although there was no grand ceremony, just the two families had a light meal, and Yang Jiewei was also happy.
In her opinion, she didn't look at the wrong person, although the other party became famous, but she never failed her.
In the days that followed, Yang Jiewei became a full-time nanny.
In life, he takes care of Alan Tam's daily life and work, and takes care of Alan Tam's assets.
Slowly, Alan Tam's career rose to a new situation and became the most representative singer in Hong Kong in the 80s.
How popular was he at the time? Except for Leslie Cheung, who can share the spring with him, everyone else stands aside.
Later, because of the death of Yang Jiewei's father, the marriage of the two was exposed.
Alan Tam slowed down his pace and gradually focused on his family, and he proposed the idea of "having children" to his wife.
Yang Jiewei was stunned for a long time, and suddenly began to feel flustered.
Because the two have been together for many years, there have been many "love crystallizations".
But every time Alan Tam asked her to "take it off" for her career, Yang Jiewei's body was gradually damaged, and the doctor told her that she could no longer have children.
In addition, there is another point, when the two first got married, Alan Tam put forward the idea of "Dink", claiming to carry out love to the end.
Yang Jiewei didn't expect her husband to backtrack.
Frankly, she informed Alan Tam of her situation.
After a brief silence, the man turned and left without any comfort.
Looking at Alan Tam's back, Yang Jiewei couldn't cry, and her heart gradually began to feel uneasy.
At the same time, the Tan family also knew that she couldn't have children, and everyone changed their enthusiasm and began to become cold.
You must know that since she got married, Yang Jiewei has been very filial, and when her parents-in-law are sick, she has personally served her, and she has treated every relative with her heart and lungs.
But the matter of "not being able to have children" has made everyone change their faces.
However, the bad things are not over.
After Alan Tam and Alan Chu gave birth to their child, all their thoughts were on the mother and son, and they completely ignored Yang Jiewei.
Later, Alan Tam's father died, and he directly took his son and Alice Chu to attend the funeral in a high-profile manner.
In front of relatives and friends, Yang Jiewei is like an outsider, as if she is the "third party".
Eventually, she chose to cut her hair as a nun to calm her mind in the temple.
Alan Tam completely ignored this.
even straightened Zhu Yongting directly, after all, her son needs to recognize his ancestors and return to his ancestors.
In this way, Yang Jiewei has struggled all her life, and all the "rivers and mountains" that she has worked hard for her husband have fallen into the hands of others.
An original partner who shared weal and woe ended up like this.
Many people feel sorry for it, thinking that if Yang Jiewei had half of Cui Yaoqi's ruthlessness, she would not have ended up like this.
Rationally speaking, Alan Tam and Kou Shixun both have two women.
But in essence, there are certain differences.
Cui Yaoqi, as Kou Shixun's original partner, even with the appearance of Xu Lidan, her husband's care and love have never been lacking, and she even has economic power.
The most important thing is that Kou Shixun has been maintaining the harmony of the three through his own efforts.
Alan Tam, on the other hand, is a completely different gesture.
Yang Jiewei's dedication, peace of mind, and blatant harm after betraying her marriage.
Zhu Yongting, the "superior", does not have any respect for the original match, and she enjoys the "wedding dress made by others" with peace of mind.
It can be seen that even if Yang Jiewei is "ruthless", there is no good result.
Because in love, from the moment she sacrificed herself, she was doomed to lose.
As the saying goes, three points of love for others and seven points of love for herself, and she loves others nine points and one point loves herself.
Alan Tam is like Yang Jiewei's "work", how can she be willing to completely destroy everything she has created?
It can only be said that it was a mistake after all.
Whether it is Cui Yaoqi or Yang Jiewei, it is a tragedy in marriage.
Whether it is generous acceptance or a dignified exit, after all, he can't be "ruthless" and truly seek justice for his sacrifice.
This is a kind of pathological self-touching, which will not make the other party feel guilty, and in the end it is only yourself who suffers.
Through Yang Jiewei, I reminded all those who are in a relationship: being kind to others is cruel to oneself.
What do you think about this?