There is a saying that the higher the expectation, the greater the disappointment.
Many people often make the logical mistake of thinking that if they can achieve high expectations, they will be able to achieve great gains.
But as everyone knows, the pay and the gain are not always proportional.
Many times, the more you give, the less you get, and the less you give, the more you get.
Of course, there is no pattern to this, but if a person always expects too much, then the reality will leave you bruised.
In fact, as long as we observe patiently and think carefully, we will understand that many people have higher expectations, but they have not come up with enough actions to support them.
Then, instead, let yourself think more, and even become eager for quick success.
I have read a meaningful sentence: Once people have expectations, their mood will flicker.
In "Allow Yourself to Waste Time", Ma De wrote this passage:
"I slowly understood why I wasn't happy anymore, because I was always expecting an outcome.
Read a book and expect it to make me profound;
Eating and swimming, expecting it to make me lose weight by pound;
Be nice to others and expect to be treated well. ”
A really smart person must be one who lowers his expectations and does not over-consume his energy and concentration.
On the one hand, I will also let myself recognize the reality and know myself, so that I can maintain a relaxed state and move forward calmly.
In the end, I can live more and more calmly, confidently, bravely, and happily on my own.
High expectations are useless
In fact, when a person is always in a state of high expectations, he is not of much use to himself, but it is easy to consume his energy.
Because the more a person expects something, the more anxious his heart will be, and he will be anxious, either thinking about it in one step, or he will be impetuous, and all kinds of cranky thoughts.
People who are accustomed to this kind of people are wasting their time on the one hand, and on the other hand, they are actually wasting their opportunities.
What people are most afraid of is that their minds are occupied by some of their own thoughts and some unnecessary expectations.
Really smart people will definitely understand that if you want to see a good result, then you can only do the whole process well and be responsible for everything in the whole process.
The classical teacher once said:
"We always hope that life will be as we wish, that we will be rich, that we will be successful, but in the end, most of our hopes will be disappointed and hit hard."
Instead of expecting this and expecting that, it is better to reduce crankiness and act immediately.
Then, if you can feel satisfied and fulfilled in the process, in fact, no matter what the outcome, you have already succeeded most of the time.
After all, only those who truly live transparently and open-mindedly will truly believe that life is an experience.
On the contrary, those who expect too much, on the one hand, expect this, and on the other hand, want to get that, and in the end they get nothing.
In this way, it is easier to let one's mentality go to the brink of collapse, and life becomes more and more painful.
Wang Xiaobo once said:
"Human suffering is essentially anger at one's own incompetence."
Reduce your expectations of the outside world, whether it's people or things.
In this way, our emotions will become more and more stable, life can become more and more peaceful, and life will become more and more comfortable.
Only by reducing our expectations and lowering our expectations can we truly move forward easily and live freely.
Lowering expectations is a form of wisdom
Oscar Wilde once said:
"For my own sake, I have to forgive some people. For a man cannot keep a viper in his breast forever, nor can he get up night and night to plant thorns in the garden of the soul. ”
Indeed, much of the suffering of many people comes from their own influence by others.
For example, because of a word, a look, or even a casual detail, you can lose your mood all day.
But in fact, people never take you seriously, or even notice your existence at all.
You see, it is clear that others have never paid attention and thought to you, but because of your expectations, no matter whether they are good or bad, whether they are high or low, they let their emotions be capricious.
In the end, the more you don't get the results you want to see, the more you have such an expectation, even an impulse, that is, to explain to the other person, or to change the other person.
In fact, such a person is easy to lower his emotional value until his life becomes a mess.
I like Wang Guozhen's words very much:
"Opportunities, rely on yourself to fight for them; Destiny is grasped by yourself; Life is your own drawing board, why rely on others to color? ”
Learning to lower expectations is a kind of wisdom, and it is also a rare and very reliable way to live.
We only have less and less to ask for it, but to know more and more about self-satisfaction and lower expectations.
You will find that every day of your life is more relaxed, stress-free, and even more comfortable.
Therefore, lowering expectations is a rare wisdom, and these people also know that if they pin their hopes on others, it is equivalent to leaving disappointment to themselves and regrets to life.
To be alive is to lower expectations
To be alive is to be alive, to be simple, to be natural, and to be instinctive.
If a person always thinks too much and now thinks about life too complicated.
Well, in fact, no matter how high and how much you expect, it is impossible to live happily in the end.
Sanmao once said:
"If you expect too much, it's not good, what you have to bear is your own future and mood, and who can really share it?"
When a person slowly learns to lower his expectations, he no longer desires success and gets the satisfaction of his desires.
It's about simply pursuing what you really like, and really doing what you feel happy about, self-cultivation, and self-growth.
Then, everything in your life will definitely become brighter and more transparent.
As Gibran put it:
"When you stop aspiring to be successful, just do it; You no longer pursue empty growth, but just begin to cultivate your own temperament, and everything in your life really begins. ”
In this way, you will live more and more smoothly, and you will feel more and more at ease, and you will be able to live more and more calmly and calmly.
This kind of life will definitely make your every day happier and more fulfilling.