For many people, every stage of life is a process that must be taken, so that a lifetime can be considered complete and leave no regrets.
But there are also people who have crossed a certain chapter and lived the days of marriage and childbirth.
7 years ago, Ye Haiyang spent 500,000 yuan to go abroad to buy high-quality sperm and gave birth to a mixed-race daughter from four countries, which sparked heated discussions on the whole network.
You know, the days without male support can be said to be difficult.
But Ye Haiyang said very calmly: "I don't need a man to complete my life, I just need my daughter to accompany my life, I don't care what others think of me, I only care what my daughter thinks of me."
Calm down and think about it, what Ye Haiyang said is not completely unreasonable.
After getting married, most women "spread their wings", take care of the affairs of the family, and also tutor their children's homework.
Men, on the other hand, are busy earning money, but they have little sense of participation.
The reason why many marriages are maintained is that children need a complete home, and they need complete father's and mother's love.
It can be seen that Ye Haiyang's illegitimate birth of a baby can be regarded as a reasonable thing.
Ye Haiyang and her two daughters
From a personal standpoint, I admire Ye Haiyang very much, because everything she desires is obtained through her own efforts, and she knows what she wants.
She has been single for many years, but she has not found her ideal other half, and at the suggestion of a friend, Ye Haiyang set her sights on "test-tube baby".
In a way, this is a responsible attitude, why do you say that?
Marriage is a major event in life, on the surface, it seems that two young people have formed a happy family, but in fact, there are two big families behind it.
If it is not a two-way street, it will definitely come to the step of divorce.
Both the child and the parents of both parties will feel sad and worried about this.
Ye Haiyang directly avoided this link and traveled thousands of miles abroad to buy "high-quality sperm" and fulfill a dream of becoming a mother.
It may be ridiculous and selfish, but why not be responsible for your own life?
Since giving birth to a daughter, everyone is puzzled by this, why do so many excellent men in China choose to go abroad? Ye Haiyang didn't explain too much, because her wish was to give birth to a mixed-race baby.
In addition, more people reprimanded him for being irresponsible and depriving his children of the right to enjoy fatherhood.
Ye Haiyang has no regrets, there is no trouble in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there is no consumption of trivial matters, she puts all her focus on the child.
Facts have proved that the environment and the words and deeds of parents have a great impact on children.
Ye Haiyang is a father and a mother again, after giving birth to the eldest daughter, he gave birth to a younger daughter, although the family atmosphere lacks the role of a father, but the children's happiness index is very high.
Ye Haiyang participated in the whole process of the growth of his two daughters, and basically everything was covered.
Gradually, she became the envy of many people.
Even because of Ye Haiyang's "success", it gave other people who were eager to try a little bit of courage.
Buy sperm and give birth to a dragon and phoenix fetus
Recently, a beautiful blogger posted her "dragon and phoenix fetus". The immature faces of the two babies lie quietly in the small quilt, and many people are envious.
It is worth mentioning that this blogger has embarked on the same path as Ye Haiyang.
In the past, she also had a sweet love, but when she got along with a man, she always had a feeling of suffocation. Gradually, bloggers think that they can also live alone.
But the parents said that it was okay not to get married, but not to have children, otherwise what would happen when they got old?
After much deliberation, the blogger believes that the parents' words make sense. She also wanted to be a mother, and she also wanted to reassure the two old people, so she decided to "buy sperm and have children without marriage".
At the age of 36, she became a mother and fulfilled her parents' wishes.
But this practice has sparked heated discussions on the whole network.
Some people also think that no one's wife, no one's daughter-in-law, just a daughter, is the only mother of the child, such a day is desirable.
Objectively speaking, such an idea is expected.
Because for a woman, from the moment she gets married, it seems that many things begin to become involuntary.
The people who choose nearby are relatively better, they can often go back to their parents' homes to visit, and relatives and friends also keep in touch, basically not much has changed.
And those who marry far away are not so lucky. Not only do you have to leave your native place and go to a strange city, but you also have to integrate into a strange family.
For the man, it is just a new member, but for the woman, it is to slowly integrate into this new life trajectory.
In addition, there are no friends to talk to, and in an unfamiliar environment, you need to re-establish your own network resources.
It's not easy from that point of view.
Of course, there are people who support and envy it, and there will definitely be opposing voices, after all, there are two sides to everything.
Some people think that they can choose an excellent other half, but they want to live such a life, which is to find guilt for themselves, which seems to reassure the old man, but the dilemma to be faced in the future should not be underestimated.
No matter what time the child is, he is an innocent existence, and the lack of fatherly love of the two little babies will definitely leave regrets in their hearts, and this is all because of the selfish deprivation of the blogger.
But for this statement, many married mothers do not agree.
Father's love and mother's love are indispensable emotions for children, but after getting married, the male protagonist and the female protagonist have basically become the norm for many people.
From the moment a child is born, how many fathers are involved in the whole process of growth?
Most people are busy earning money to support their families.
It is no exaggeration to say that if you put down the bricks in your hand and accompany your children in every chapter, the whole family will lose their financial resources.
Unconsciously, women play an important role. Every chapter of a child's growth is imprinted with the traces of his mother without exception.
The school has a parent-teacher conference, are there more dads or mothers?
In terms of education and communication, are there more fathers or mothers?
Perhaps those who have experienced it first-hand should empathize. Everyone's perspective on this matter will come to different conclusions.
But does the happiness index of a family depend on the "complete father's love"? I think practice is the best truth.
Whether it is mother's love or father's love, it is irreplaceable.
Whether it is Ye Haiyang or this blogger, the two girls are not married, and they must have their own considerations when they choose to become "single mothers".
And in the discussion, is fatherly love important? Everyone should calm down and think about this question.
In a warm family, father's love and mother's love are indispensable.
Living in such an environment, every child is positive and sunny, and childhood will not leave regrets, which will become a lifelong wealth.
On the other hand, a family full of quarrels is another result.
The father plays with his mobile phone all day, fishes for three days and dries the net for two days, ignores his wife, and shows his family status by doing his hand if he is a little careless with his children.
Growing up in such an environment, the role of a father is dispensable. It can even be said that if not, it is healthier.
Therefore, everyone should look at it rationally, after all, everything has multiple aspects.
At present, the situation of non-marriage is becoming more and more serious, and this kind of thinking is forming a trend. There are more and more debates, and some people even say: There will be more and more girls who will choose this kind of life in the future.
epilogue
Rationally, there are many ways to live.
It's like a flower in the back garden, no one can say which one is the most beautiful. But they are all trying to bloom, follow their own hearts, and take root.
Therefore, different people have different life plans, as long as they are happy.
Don't live in other people's "mouths", and don't live in other people's "expectations", life seems to be long, but in fact it is very short, only more than 30,000 days.
What kind of life to choose, what kind of truth to take, it is enough not to regret it.
Compared with meeting some women who are not good people, marrying far away from their in-laws' family, no one supports them, the husband ignores them, and they have to take care of the children after a busy day's housework.
Not getting married is also a choice.
With the rise of women's independent thinking, women nowadays do not need to be dependent on others at all.
Work hard, improve your quality of life, strengthen your ability, and live a full and comfortable life every day, why not?
The choice to have children out of wedlock, from a certain point of view, indicates that these people's abilities have been achieved.
It is not a fault that you can take care of your career and educate your children well, it is just a choice.
You don't have to worry about the betrayal of your other half, you don't have to go back home after a tiring day, and you don't have to entertain the intricacies of your in-laws and relatives.
It's just to maintain one's own little life, and take care of those who give birth to oneself and those who give birth to oneself.
I think that although this kind of thinking has drawbacks, this drawback can be "repaired" and it is also a choice.
Compared with the intricate marriage relationship, having children out of wedlock bypasses a lot of sadness and a lot of grievances.
What do you think about having children out of wedlock?