Text: Marriage counselor Liu Jie
The relationship between husband and wife is sometimes like a small wooden boat sailing in the sea of emotions.
Sometimes it's calm, sometimes it's stormy. may be that one sentence is wrong, or a look is misunderstood, and the two begin to quarrel awkwardly, and there is a rift in their relationship.
But can these small bumps make the ship capsize? Of course not. There are rifts in the ship that can be repaired, and the contradictions between the two can also be resolved.
When a relationship breaks down between a couple, there are three steps we can take to repair the relationship.
01
Communicate openly and honestly to identify the problem
What is the most important thing when there is a problem in the relationship between husband and wife? Sit down and have a good chat, of course.
A good chat is like building a bridge between two people's hearts, not only talking, but also listening attentively. In this way, you can find out exactly what the problem is.
In real life, many couples have conflicts, which is not a big deal. It's often just some small misunderstandings and awkwardness, and saving up becomes a big problem.
It's like sand in your shoes, one or two grains are nothing, but the more you get in, the more uncomfortable your feet become.
Just like many couples, they are originally very affectionate, but after a long time, it is inevitable that there will be complaints.
For example, if a wife feels that her husband is always busy with work and does not care about anything at home, she will feel unhappy. But the husband was so busy with work that he didn't notice his wife's mood at all.
If this continues, the misunderstanding between the two will often accumulate deeper and deeper.
At this time, communication is particularly important.
If the husband can find out about his wife's unhappiness early and talk to her well, maybe the misunderstanding can be solved.
Similarly, if the wife can directly say her thoughts instead of holding it in her heart, there will not be so many contradictions between the two.
There's a good saying: "Communication is the key to solving problems." "When it comes to problems, evasion and the Cold War are not the way to go.
The best way to do this is to sit down and talk calmly. You will find that many problems are caused by misunderstandings and lack of understanding.
Therefore, when there is a problem between husband and wife, you must remember to communicate more. Don't be afraid to face problems, and don't run away from them.
Only by communicating sincerely can we find a solution to the problem together and return the relationship to the original beauty.
02
Finding solutions together
After finding out the problems between husband and wife, the next thing to do is to find a way to solve them together.
This step requires two people to work together. After all, feelings are a matter of two people, and one person can't handle it.
Let's take the husband and wife I just talked about, after the two of them talked, the husband found that he really didn't take care of the family much, so he decided to correct it, allocate the time between work and family more reasonably, and spend more time with his family.
The wife also said that she should understand her husband's busyness more and give him more support. In this way, both of them contributed to solving the problem, and the relationship naturally got better.
As the saying goes, "a slap doesn't make a sound".
To repair the relationship, both people must be sincere and take action. That's how you can get the relationship back on track.
03
Learn to be tolerant and understanding, and regain trust
When repairing the relationship between husband and wife, it is essential to learn tolerance and understanding.
Who hasn't made a mistake in real life? When your partner messes things up, or gets angry at you for some reason, don't rush to blame and complain, try to forgive him.
For example, between husband and wife, the husband always goes out to party with friends after work. Just play by yourself and don't worry about family affairs. The wife got angry with her husband because of this, and the relationship between the two was very stiff.
But later, after calming down with each other, they decided to have a good talk.
The husband apologized and promised to change it later. The wife also decided to give her husband a chance and forgave him.
Between husband and wife, who can be innocent? The key is to learn to be inclusive. In this way, the trust between the two can be slowly regained, and the relationship will be more stable.
Of course, rebuilding trust won't happen overnight. You need to care more about each other in your daily life, be more considerate, take the initiative to take responsibility when you encounter problems, and don't shirk your responsibilities.
In this way, little by little effort, the relationship can be reheated.
In fact, the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife is not terrible, the key is whether we are willing to repair it with our hearts.
Through open communication, finding solutions together, and learning to be tolerant and understanding, I believe that many couples can get out of the predicament and regain their beautiful love.
After all, love needs to be managed, and as long as we do it with our hearts, we will have the opportunity to reap the fruits of happiness.