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The proverb that has been passed down through the ages has given us profound wisdom in life. It conveys to us that as parents, we should give our children enough freedom to explore their own path in life, rather than imposing so-called "love" on them.
In real life, we often see that parents think that all kinds of care given to their children are love, but they don't know that this behavior actually invisibly deprives children of the opportunity to grow up freely, but restricts their future development.
For those audience friends who love to enjoy sketch performances, Cai Ming, a star known as the "Queen of Sketches", is undoubtedly known and unknown to everyone. The audience is familiar with her lively and cute image on stage, with witty words.
However, not much is known about Cai Ming's family life. Looking at Cai Ming's youthful and energetic face today, many people mistakenly think that she has not yet stepped into the palace of marriage.
In fact, Cai Ming has not only become a mother, but she also has a very good son. However, for some reason, Cai Ming chose to hide the matter for a full 34 years.
Cai Ming's only son, Ding Ding, has shown otherworldly talents and independent character traits since he was a child. With the full support of his mother Cai Ming and the influence of the concept of open education, Ding Ding bravely pursued his hobbies and dreams, and finally achieved remarkable career achievements.
Once, Tintin originally planned to study law, and invested a lot of money and energy into it. But over time, he gradually realized that he didn't really have a passion for the law.
So, after much deliberation, Tintin decisively abandoned this path. Faced with his son's decision, his father Ding Qiuxing was furious, accusing Ding Ding of being a "loser" and "lacking perseverance".
Ding Qiuxing thinks that his son is just looking for an excuse to escape the difficult learning environment.
However, Cai Ming never blamed her son for this, on the contrary, she told Ding Ding earnestly: "Son, this is your own decision, you have the right to make mistakes, but you must learn to bear the consequences."
Perhaps, you will spend a long life in countless brave attempts and challenges, or even achieve nothing, however, either way, it will be your own life journey. His mother's magnanimity gave his son Ding Ding endless strength and courage, so that he devoted himself to the screenwriting career with the determination to break the boat, and finally achieved amazing achievements in this field, participating in the creation of many excellent film and television masterpieces such as "Thai Embarrassment".
Ms. Cai Ming has always maintained an open and relaxed attitude towards her son's education. When Tintin completed her basic education, she gradually let go and let her son decide his own future direction, rarely interfering too much in Tintin's personal development. Except for appropriate guidance on some important issues of principle, the rest of the matters are left to Tintin to deal with the whole thing. Because of this, this unique educational concept provides Ding Ding with a broad space for self-development, so that he can finally realize his own unique life value.
So, why did Cai Ming hide the fact that he had become a mother for 34 years? This has sparked widespread speculation and misunderstanding from all walks of life. It was once rumored that it was because his son Ding Ding's performance was too bad that Cai Ming felt ashamed, so he had to hide it. However, this is not the case.
Cai Ming's true motive for concealing her son's identity stems from her thoughtful and good intentions. As a well-known and well-known household name, she is keenly aware that her notoriety can have a negative impact on Tintin's growth. She longs for her son to truly have his own independent life, instead of living under his mother's halo forever. As Cai Ming once expressed frankly: "I have seen too many second-generation stars in the entertainment industry, no matter how much effort they put in, there will always be people who accuse them of just taking advantage of the glory of their parents." ”
An independent individual should have his own independent personality traits, and should not be bound by the achievements of others. This is Cai Ming's original intention and intention to conceal his son's identity. She hopes that Tintin can grow up carefree and not be disturbed by any external factors, so that she can truly have her own unique and wonderful life.
It is precisely because of such far-reaching vision and deep maternal love that Ms. Cai Ming was able to make a jaw-dropping and great decision! This decision is full of maternal love and perseverance, giving her son Ding Ding great freedom to develop, and perfectly interpreting the greatness and vastness of motherhood.
Ms. Cai Ming's decision to conceal her son's identity was by no means impulsive or capricious, but a rational choice made jointly after in-depth exchanges and repeated trade-offs with her husband, Mr. Ding Qiuxing.
As a veteran director, Mr. Ding Qiuxing was indeed confused by his wife's decision at first. He longs for the world to see the joy of being a father and share in the happiness of this family. However, when he learned about Ms. Cai Ming's original intention, he immediately resonated deeply and fully agreed with it.
Both of them want their son Tintin to grow up carefree and enjoy a happy and carefree childhood. They all look forward to Ding Ding's existence in the world as an independent individual, rather than being permanently labeled as "the son of Cai Ming and Ding Qiuxing".
Although Mr. Ding Qiuxing inevitably had some regrets in his heart, based on his respect for his wife and trust in her decision, he finally chose to bury this father's joy deep in his heart.
On the occasion of the Lunar New Year, Mr. Ding Qiuxing always takes his son backstage to watch his wife Cai Ming's rehearsal performance. In front of the staff, Tintin will politely introduce himself: "I am not anyone's son, my name is Tintin and it is a pleasure to meet everyone." ”
Mr. Ding Qiuxing made this difficult decision because of his deep understanding of his wife's good intentions and his ardent expectations for his son's future. He is willing to temporarily give up the right to share the joy of being a father, just to create an environment for his son to grow up freely.
This heavy father's love is full of Mr. Ding Qiuxing's deep nostalgia for his family.
To truly understand why Ms. Cai Ming hid her son for 34 years, we must go back to her unique and legendary life story and worldview.
Since she was a child, Ms. Cai Ming has shown outstanding talent and is loved by a wide audience as a child star. Due to its superior conditions, it naturally attracts the favor of many suitors.
The love letters in Cai Ming's house are piled up like a mountain, almost unable to accommodate them. However, Cai Ming turned a blind eye to this mountain of love letters. Spiritually independent, she adheres to a unique life credo: one person can live a colorful life, so why bother looking for a man to take care of herself? As a result, she rejected everyone's show of love with an equal attitude, and the mountain of love letters still stood silently.
Once upon a time, many suitors retreated, but there was still one person who always unswervingly cared for Cai Ming and soothed the loneliness in her heart with practical actions. He is Ding Qiuxing, who later became Cai Ming's husband.
As an outstanding director, Ding Qiuxing did not reveal sweet words in his love letters to Cai Ming, but shared the bits and pieces of his life with her and brought her laughter. He deeply understands that although Cai Ming always brings endless joy to the audience on stage, behind the scenes, she often feels melancholy.
It was precisely because Ding Qiuxing had a deep insight into Cai Ming's deep loneliness and warmed her loneliness with practical actions that she finally won the heart of this charming woman. After getting married, Cai Ming was happy with her noble son Ding Ding, and she vowed to devote all her efforts to the child's upbringing and education, ensuring that he could take the right path and not repeat the detours she had taken.
Ding Ding, who has shown an independent personality since he was a child, makes Cai Ming seem to see himself when he was young. She decided to give her son maximum freedom and not let him be as restrained as herself, distracted and swayed by outside voices.
Therefore, during Ding Ding's childhood, Cai Ming and Ding Qiuxing made a puzzling decision: to temporarily conceal the fact that they were married and that Ding Ding had been born.