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Recently, Zhao Juying, an Internet celebrity blogger who claims to be a senior family education expert for 33 years, posted a series of home visit videos on social platforms.
In the video, Zhao Juying not only insulted the children with language that demeaning their interests and hobbies, but also forced the children to destroy the hand-made models with their own hands, and even the small toys placed on the desk had to be thrown into the trash.
What's even more infuriating is that she claimed to "don't beat children", but she took a ring ruler and slapped the child's palm.
All of the information stated in this article is based on reliable sources of information and is detailed at the end of the article
«——【·Home Visit Incident·】——»
In the video of Zhao Juying's home visit, a junior high school boy appears who likes to assemble Gundam figures by himself.
However, Zhao Juying turned a blind eye to the boy's interests and hobbies, and instead severely reprimanded him, saying that the boy was "discouraged by playthings" and completely affected his studies.
She actually asked the boy to pick up a small hammer with his own hands and smash the brand-new GUNPLA he had put together to smash it! In the face of Zhao Juying's persecution, the boy had to raise the hammer and watch his hard work come to naught.
Zhao Juying ignored this, but belittled the model as "garbage", and even more outrageous, she forced the boy to "pick up this pile of garbage with her own hands".
There is also a video showing that before destroying the boy's model, Zhao Juying actually took out a ring ruler and slapped the boy's palm several times as a "punishment". The funny thing is that she kept saying "don't hit the child" before, but this is obviously an act of corporal punishment.
In the video, another second-year junior high school girl was interviewed and experienced a similar "education".
Zhao Juying called the small toys and comic books that the girl placed on the desk "childish" and "superficial", not only belittled the girl's hobbies, but also forced her to throw these personal belongings into the garbage bin downstairs one by one.
After the video of Zhao Juying's home visit was exposed, it immediately aroused strong public condemnation on the Internet. Countless netizens denounced her practice as a "erasure" and "suppression" education, not education, but wantonly harming the children's body and mind.
Some netizens angrily pointed out: "This is simply brainwashing and belittling children, forcing children to destroy their dreams and the world with their own hands! What kind of education expert is this?"
Some people even bluntly said that they felt "very suffocated" after watching the video, and questioned Zhao Juying's title and qualifications of "33 years of senior family education expert".
Countless netizens are worried that Zhao Juying's violent and hurtful approach will definitely leave indelible psychological shadows and traumas on the children, and seriously damage their self-esteem and self-confidence.
«——[Repressive Education·]——»
There has always been a hot topic on the Internet - "What happened to the children who were always ridiculed and suppressed by their parents?" This seemingly simple question has attracted thousands of people to leave messages to share.
"Low self-esteem, sensitivity, fear to love others, and difficult to love yourself. This is the most appreciative reply. Lacking the affirmation and love of their parents since childhood, they are labeled as "unloved", and when they grow up, they are afraid of socializing and difficult to embrace beauty.
Parents often say, "You're terrible," and children feel like they're not good at anything.
These negative hints will be planted in the child's heart with a sense of inferiority and powerlessness, and even if he grows up and achieves achievements, his heart will correspond to the denial of his parents and the denial of himself.
Suppressing education will stifle children's natural true selves, and they can only disguise a likable mask, and their hearts are always on guard and suffering from gains and losses.
Even if you grow up to be an independent individual, you will habitually self-deny and belittle, and it will be difficult to extricate yourself when you fall into a strange circle of "self-PUA".
Lack of self-confidence in doing anything, lack of independent motivation from the heart, and be at a loss at the slightest setback, give up resistance.
«——【Public Question·】——»
During the fermentation of the Zhao Juying incident, questions about her identity and qualifications were also exposed and questioned.
It is understood that as early as 2022, Zhao Juying has been listed as a "dishonest person subject to execution" by the court. She describes herself as a "retired senior teacher", but in fact she was dismissed from her teaching position at the school.
In addition, Zhao Juying also claimed to have obtained certificates and titles issued by several foreign educational and psychological counseling institutions, but the authenticity is questionable.
What's even more ridiculous is that she herself admits that her English is not good, but she claims to have memorized 150 pure English classics at the age of 3, which is really laughable.
Analysts pointed out that the core of the educational concept advocated by Zhao Juying is to oppose children's interests and hobbies with learning.
She believes that hobbies are only distracting, so she adopts the practice of "cutting the grass and eradicating the roots", using extreme violence to force children to destroy their own interests.
This not only blatantly deprives children of their subjective initiative and autonomy, and stifles children's curiosity and creativity, but also runs counter to the correct educational concept, and is vividly compared to the control education of "marionettes".
At the same time, Zhao Juying's series of violent acts against children, such as personality humiliation, threats and intimidation, corporal punishment, etc., are regarded as taking advantage of parental pressure to inflict "bullying" mental and physical harm on children.
«——【Public Criticism·】——»
Education experts have criticized Zhao Juying's education methods as extremely simplistic and violent, which goes against the essence of education.
Education should be about discovering children's interests and strengths, inspiring them with love and understanding, and cultivating independent thinking skills, rather than stifling machine "cramming education".
Some media pointed out that in today's education, the so-called "good for you" may not be suitable for children. Education should pay attention to children's psychology, discover children's strengths, and communicate more to understand rather than blindly harsh.
Compared with Zhao Juying's "strangleholding" approach, the correct concept of family education should respect children's personality characteristics, discover and actively cultivate children's interests and specialties.
Pay attention to children's psychological needs, and inspire and guide children's healthy growth with love and understanding. The child's inner world is autonomous, not something that can be suppressed at will. Adults should influence children with tolerance and inclusiveness, not violence.
Hobbies are not opposed to learning, they can be a powerful tool to stimulate enthusiasm for learning, and learning itself can also be a happy thing, and the two are not opposites.
«——【Conceptual Deviation·】——»
The Zhao Juying incident reflects some anxieties and conceptual problems in Chinese family education today.
Statistics show that nearly eighty percent of parents regard their children's grades as "face", and even invest heavily in so-called "experts" for strict training in order for their children to be admitted to prestigious schools.
Some parents pursue the ultimate and regard their children's only way out as a good score, ignoring the cultivation of their children's interests and specialties.
The implementation of "training-style" tutoring for children, trying to let children excel in various subject competitions, thus becoming a strange circle of "education fanaticism".
Education experts call for children not to set too high expectations, not to let them bear huge learning pressure too early, and to avoid "high-intensity" training to bring mental trauma to children.
«——【Wake Up and Reflect·】——»
Through this incident, we reflect that family education should be cautious, pay attention to the ways and methods of education, pay attention to the all-round development of children, and care for children with love and understanding, rather than violently suppressing children's nature, which is the right way for education.
Only in this way can children grow up healthy and happy, and bloom with their own brilliance.
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