My aunt's mother-in-law is an Alzheimer's patient, and she has 80 years old.
My aunt, when she was young, was a famous flower in the village, long Peugeot, and she could also speak, I don't know how many people came to the door to be matchmakers, and at that time the family picked a single brother for him, that is, there was only one son in the family, so according to the rules of the countryside, the family property was this son, and the old man also helped this son.
The aunt married in the past, there was no brother to divide the family property, the old man was partial to these troubles, but he also lived smoothly, and he also gave birth to a son, plus the old man foiled, and her husband was also obedient to her, which can be said to be a model of a happy life for rural women.
Twenty or thirty years have passed in a blink of an eye, the son has also married and had children, and the aunt has begun to take care of the grandchildren. I don't want to be at this time, the old people in the family fell ill one after another, and my husband had a cerebral infarction. The old woman may have been stimulated, and within a year or two she became senile dementia, from a fairly neat person, to a complete dementia patient.
The aunt's family fell into a huge change because of the change of the old woman, the old woman took care of her husband, the aunt took care of the grandson, and the young couple went to work to earn money. My aunt's husband works odd jobs to earn some living expenses, and he can also help with housework.
It's all messed up now. The old woman is completely disabled, like a three-year-old child, this is not counted, when she is confused, she still chases her son and daughter-in-law and scolds, scolding for two or three hours, or yelling, seeing what to beat, and her energy is surprisingly good.
Eating, drinking, and sleeping all have to be served, and they have to be watched 24 hours a day, and if they can't do it, they run out and can't find it. The aunt and her husband have to take care of the elderly wholeheartedly, how can they have the time and energy to take care of their grandchildren, there is no choice but to sacrifice their daughter-in-law's work and let her take care of the children. At the same time, my husband was so busy taking care of the two elderly people 24 hours a day that it was impossible for him to go out to do odd jobs, so he lost a large part of his income, a family of 7 people, all pointing to his son's income.
Less income, more expenses, human contacts, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar, grandson's milk powder, the old man to see a doctor, after a long time, first of all, the daughter-in-law has complaints, other old people, can also help the little couple, we are good, did not help, but also into their own care of the children, the family scolded constantly, because the old man and urine, filthy smell, the young couple gradually had contradictions.
The aunt saw it in her eyes, was anxious in her heart, and was constantly resentful of her husband, blaming the sister-in-law for not taking care of it, but the sister-in-law also had difficulties, they were all dozens of years older, and they took care of the family, and the old man's property was left to you, so you can only open and close your eyes.
It is also difficult for the aunt and husband, the parents gave birth to a son, the countryside is this tradition, raising children to prevent old age, and the two old people did give all the family property to this family and gave it to him, what can I do when I die, strangled both of them to death?
So the aunt's house, if you talk too much, you will be easy to get angry, and if you have more resentment, you will have contradictions, the home is like a powder keg, just a little bit, the key is that the two old people in their eighties, there is no sign of leaving, the old man with cerebral infarction, walking trembling and trembling, but the internal organs are very good, the elderly with dementia, are even more energetic, and they are about to grind normal people to death.
When we saw it, we also sighed helplessly, how good is it for ordinary people to have such a stall, a good family is about to disperse. Three generations are not easy, it can only be said that the common people, life is not easy.