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It is a long process for two people to go from falling in love to getting married.
Some people have started a 10-year relationship, but they have never entered the palace of marriage.
Therefore, when two people are together, they also pay attention to fate and suitability.
If the time of love is too long, the run-in time is too long, and the two people can't find a comfortable and suitable way to get along, they will gradually drift apart.
Sometimes it's not that you don't love, sometimes it's just that you love too deeply, and you can't extricate yourself, but two people can't get along.
Each other's acute angles are unwilling to be rubbed away, and neither of them are willing to accommodate each other, nor are they willing to understand, which can only show that the two people are destined.
It is true that whether husband and wife can accompany each other to old age mainly depends on the following three points.
1. Know how to serve the weak.
What is the most taboo between husband and wife?
When two people fight, they pinch each other, and when two people quarrel, they expose each other's secrets, regardless of whether they win or lose, and they absolutely do not compromise.
Some people say that I have wanted to strangle each other 99 times in my life, but it is strange that in the end I ended up with the other party.
In fact, husband and wife are like teeth and tongues, if they are too close, they will inevitably fight.
Everyone has everyone's edges and corners, everyone has everyone's personality, if you don't know how to serve weakness, then this relationship is difficult to manage, and it is difficult to maintain marriage.
In many cases, it is precisely because of the hurtful words that come out during a quarrel that the marriage ends completely.
Maybe you said it in anger, maybe even you didn't know what it was, but when you calmed down, you would never say it.
And the other party is just serious and cares.
If you are destined to become a husband and wife, it must also be a blessing from your previous life.
This person who has been with you all your life is the most important person in your life, how can you be willing to hurt him?
No matter who is right or wrong, if you are weak, the other party's temper will not be strong, and when the temper is soft, there will be no temper.
The two of them will be fine.
To manage a marriage, you must know how to serve the weak, and know that serving the weak can preserve each other's dignity, and can make big things small and small things.
2. Learn to be inclusive.
Why is it so sweet when you're in love? Why is it so happy when you're in love?
The first is that they don't know each other very well, the second is that they are still fresh, and the third is to keep a good impression in front of each other, so they will hide their shortcomings.
However, marriage is a long stream, trivial days, firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea.
The two get along day and night, and both the advantages and disadvantages are undoubtedly exposed.
If you pick the other party's thorn at this time, if you say that the other party's is not at this time, it doesn't really make much sense.
You are grasshoppers tied to the same rope, you are people in the same boat, and if you want to row the boat far away, you can only cooperate for a win-win situation.
I appreciate your strengths, and I will reflect on your shortcomings and then correct them, but I also tolerate your shortcomings, don't embarrass you, and let you change them automatically.
If it is forced, the slightest face will not be left for the other party, and in the end the other party will only dislike you more and more, and finally stay away from you.
Whether husband and wife can stay together until old age depends on whether you can tolerate it.
Knowing how to tolerate in marriage and learning to turn a blind eye is precisely the achievement of a happy marriage.
How can there be a perfect dollar? It's just a dollar made up of two pentagons.
Don't force the other party, know how to tolerate, no matter how many years have passed, you can also grow old with the other party.
3. Trust each other.
In fact, it is precisely this element that ends marriage, and that is trust.
I don't feel at ease about handing over the financial power to you, because I don't think you and I are of the same mind, and I don't feel at ease about leaving your home to you to take care of, but I am always on guard against you.
I suspect that you are still in contact with your first love, and I suspect that you are still in an ambiguous relationship with your colleagues.
I suspect that you are not really living with me, and that you are only interested in my money.
When I came home and saw the mess in the place, whether it was a child or not, I didn't understand you, and even got angry, accusing you of not doing things at home, complaining that I worked hard outside.
These distrusts, once or twice, gradually make the other party disheartened, and gradually die and despair.
On the contrary, if you choose to firmly believe in the other party, believe in the other party's sincerity, believe in the other party's feelings, and believe in the other party's dedication.
You see every bit of what the other party does, you cooperate with the other party, and you give yourself.
You also firmly believe that you can be with each other until you grow old, because you are so loving to each other.
Don't do things like chasing after the wind and shadows, it's better to spend more time managing each other's feelings and managing this marriage well, which is the most important thing.
In short, husband and wife need to be weak, tolerant, and trusting in order to accompany each other until old age.
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