There is a question, I believe many people want to know, that is, how high is the cost of living for a single mother with a baby?
First of all, there is a premise for this, that is, if you voluntarily accept the custody of your children after divorce, you should bear the main responsibility for raising them.
A friend in Guangdong said: I am desperate to see this, I am not divorced yet, my husband gives 2,500 yuan a month, everything else does not matter, my own salary is 2,000 yuan, how to live now, my husband has used all kinds of means to force me to divorce.
Women who divorce and don't want children basically don't pay child support, and men don't necessarily really give it. In society, women's incomes are generally not as high as men's, and many women do not earn full-time mothers after marriage.
A single mother in Chongqing also said: An acquaintance is also a man who forced a divorce, and the agreement is 3,000 per month, which is actually about 1.5 W per month on average.
The woman didn't go to work after the divorce, and her parents died a few years ago without help. After more than three years of divorce, the man remarried and the children are two years old.
Usually, the life of the mother and daughter is really good to spend 15,000 yuan.
Moreover, the woman has two full-payment houses and a full-payment car of more than 600,000 yuan, and I heard that when the divorce was divorced, she also divided dozens of W deposits, and when the divorce was divorced, the man did not share except for his own company, and almost all the others were left to the woman.
Although the man forced the divorce, the man did a good job. Now, in addition to giving about 1.5 per month, children's clothes, toys, and fruits are also bought from time to time and delivered to the home of the mother and daughter.
This is indeed rare. I don't know what the man thinks, the divorce is still forced by the man. In addition to giving money and buying things every month, the man also opened a separate card for his daughter and saved money every year.
The woman's life in the past few years has been nail art, beauty, shopping, taking the children out to play on weekends and holidays, and almost every day she will post some trivial things in the circle of friends.
Divorce alimony is only counted for the children, and divorce is to live independently. If you have the courage to leave, you have to have the ability to survive on your own. My friend himself is divorced with a baby and doesn't have a house yet.
And the stubborn kind of person who knows that the old man can't really ask for child support, and the bank account number is not given. raised the children independently, brother and sister-in-law, good friends took refuge in their parents' family, and all kinds of sadness only they knew.
In order to make more money, I neglected to accompany my children, and I did all kinds of work during the rebellious period, and later my friend did a freelancer without social security to accompany the children through the rebellious period and return to the right path, and I worked three jobs when I was most tired.
But I think it's realistic, single mothers are their own choice, why let the society pay. Even if you meet a scumbag or something, it's a problem of your own bad eyes, why should others bear the cost for you.
There is one by his side, and he earned a child after getting married once, because he is a twin boy, and when he divorces, he has a family, and the others are all premarital property, and the woman herself has nothing. Now that I have a son, I can't find anyone to remarry, and I live a chicken feather.
And there are statistics that single mothers account for 33% and single dads account for 67%.
A single father in Hunan said: the child is 6 and a half years old, single parent, no education, no technology, no one to take the child, currently working as a security guard, 2500 a month, just enough for living expenses, dare not get sick, dare not buy new clothes, think of the child in the future, high school, college, every day anxious.
But every time I picked her up from school, I thought about all kinds of food on the way, and once joked with her, let her be reincarnated in a rich man's house, you can have all kinds of delicious food, and the car picks up and dropped off from school, she actually said that the rich family will take me there, so moved.
A single mother in Zhejiang said: Do your own business, excluding rent, all expenses are a little more than 10,000 yuan, with 1 baby, 1st grade.
Including aunt's salary of 5000 a month. I don't spend a lot of money, it's okay, I feel okay, and I don't feel difficult in life. At least the divorce is gone, the mental torture is gone, and I am happy!
A friend in Jiangsu said that he met a good husband: my husband doesn't love anyone. only loves his daughter, he is not a good son of his parents, not a good husband, but a good father.
He is willing to give everything for his daughter, he said that even if he divorces, he will give me the money he earns, because I am the child's own mother, he said that making money is for the child, so I should not worry about raising a baby in this life.
To be honest, this kind of man is still rare, and it is a blessing to meet him, even if he is divorced. My husband in my Yunnan friend's house, when the child is sick, he can perfectly avoid taking care of the child every time, and find a good excuse: I can't leave work.
I understand that I can't leave the work, the money keeps up, and I can come the whole way. But the problem is not, if you don't come, you can't even keep up with the money.
Anhui's family expenses feel very normal: my child saves money, except for the school food expenses, the personal expenses are only 3-500 per month, because she is only in the first year of junior high school, and eats three meals a day at school.
The food fee is about 2600 a semester, even if it is 4-5 months a semester, it is converted to 600 per month, she wears a school uniform every day, she doesn't want new clothes or anything, just eat some snacks occasionally, and don't go out to play.
Firewood, rice, oil and salt family living expenses can not be counted on the child's head, after all, adults use more than children, the child is not at home for a day, only come back at night to sleep, my daughter is really here to repay the favor.
There is also Datong, Shanxi, with a mortgage of 2500, a small dining table of 340/month, two mobile phone numbers of 300 (I do a lot of intermediary calls), water, electricity and gas 150/month, oil cost 900/month, vegetable money + occasionally go out to eat 2000 a month.
The ex-husband gave 800 a month, but he didn't give it for half a year, he saved money on his own clothes and shoes, and the children usually wore school uniforms, their own sportswear or overalls, and they bought two people for 1,000 at a time in the changing seasons.
At the end of the year, the two of them will pay medical treatment, as well as their own social security, which is roughly that, and red and white ceremonies are not every year after all.
I also saw the self-report of a single mother in Jiangsu: my ex-husband didn't know where he went, 0 child support, when I first divorced, my job was not high in salary and relatively free in time, and I only took two or three thousand.
But it is convenient to pick up and drop off children to take care of the family, and later with the communication experience of the work, I began to go to foreign companies to run sales, at that time it was really hard, often three or four days to run five or six cities, weekends and weekends, and Friday nights to drive home to spend more time with the children.
Sometimes I was driving home at night and crying while driving, which was extremely stressful, but fortunately, there were many people around me who helped me, and in the most difficult time, I worked three jobs and bought a house and a car by myself.
It's been 12 years since I've been divorced now, and the first grade of primary school is about to take the college entrance examination, my baby has 1800 tutors a week, 1000 for school meals a month, 1000 for fruits, and about 300 for pocket money.
Anyway, I don't spend money blindly, I like to buy pens and stickers in Pinduoduo, and it costs about 10,000 yuan a year to buy clothes for her, and the insurance is 15,000, and I don't save money now, I spend it when I earn it, and I live with my parents.
My mother cooks and my dad helps me pick up and drop off the children, seeing that both the one who gave birth to me and the one who gave birth to me are by my side, I am very down-to-earth, and I approve of remarriage on the lips, but I actually refuse it in my heart.
When my baby's college entrance examination is over, I will eat and drink, go to work to earn money, and go to dance and exercise after work, play the guitar and paint, I am happy when I think about it now.
In fact, after seeing so many people's crying, I think it's better to go to work, having a stable income is a woman's greatest confidence!
I have been working since graduation, I have been taking a break for more than three months since I was pregnant and giving birth to a child, doing housework, cooking, tutoring children's homework, and my income has not been lower than that of my husband.
Thinking about my life, it is very hard, the only comfort is to speak hard at home, but it is just self-comfort, men are chosen by themselves, and life has to go on.