I was very surprised to see a piece of news today, according to the survey data of the second part of the "Chinese Population and Employment Statistics Yearbook 2023", people find that it seems to be becoming more and more difficult to get married, and the non-marriage rate of the post-90s group is obviously high.
I saw a mother's cry: In addition to the RV, I spent nearly 600,000 yuan for my son, but as a result, I left without children for two and a half years!
I'll give you an example, people who don't understand it will understand it as soon as they hear it: Party A and B do business together, Party A provides a house and provides funds, and Party B only needs to bring someone by himself, and then there is no constraint on Party B in this business.
Party B can withdraw at any time and divide 50% of the partners, so do you think it is better to work hard to make money in business or within 1 year, dissolve and share 50% is cost-effective.
If you look at the labor force participation rate from the perspective of marriage, look at the ratio of men and women in science and engineering and technical manual workers, and look at the ratio of men's and women's income, do you think that the decent group since ancient times was established by that gender, and which do you think is more family-oriented, more important to clan, and better at cooperation.
Two similar mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law contradict each other, eight groups in a four-person dormitory, close to the nearest is not inferior to the far one who complains about the species, can't cook, zero points in basic life skills, doesn't know what responsibility is, and warns the uterus at every turn, is there more family responsibility?
And now men and women are equal, the woman must also earn money to support the family, if you don't have this ability, don't get married, everything is mutual, the boy didn't grow up drinking the northwest wind, he also has to live a quality life, and he must not be dragged down by someone.
Therefore, getting married now is really the least cost-effective thing, and it is really fragrant to be a single. And many people have become accustomed to quietness, occasionally envying those who come in pairs, and really someone is uncomfortable approaching.
This is the real situation of many single dogs, to put it bluntly, it is a person who is "alone" and can no longer adapt to getting rid of singles.
And now there is serious inequality between men and women in the marriage relationship, the man has paid too much for the marriage, once the divorce disappears, and the woman does not need to pay much when she gets married, but she can get a lot of wealth after the divorce.
Most of all divorces are initiated by women, and some women even make a fortune through marriage, which is the root cause of the increasing number of divorces that are getting married.
No matter what level of woman she is, the marriage requirements are automatically close to the goal of paying the bride price for a house and a car, and she will never get married, who is not afraid?
Getting married and all kinds of miscellaneous things add up to 1 million can't be done, and divorce is not costly. How many men have struggled for half their lives, only to be tossed by marriage and have nothing!
Of course, women can make a fortune by getting married, so some women have more motivation than men to get married.
The responsibilities are too heavy, there are too few excellent, too many ordinary, too high requirements, and they can't meet the requirements of girls, and the income of the working class is about 10,000 yuan, and the proportion of people from 20,000 to 50,000 is very small.
are all of high standards, where are there so many boys, picking and picking the rest of the people accounts for a large part of the people, high-income boys have already started a family, and the rest are still picking.
In the end, it became a leftover woman, a leftover man, the crime of engagement rape in Shanxi, the bride price is not returned, the legal income, young people dare not think about it, the reality is such a thing.
And due to the improvement of cultural and educational level, most of the young people who come out of school are about 22 years old, and the biggest problem they face is whether to find a job or consider marriage.
If the woman who gets married first means that she can't consider going out to work before the age of 30, and it's hard to find it when she wants to work and has no work experience, so how dare they get married and have children!
In the era of naked marriage, it was easier to be happy, share weal and woe, and walk hand in hand.
My sister-in-law's son is ready to be single and not have a wife for the rest of his life, he doesn't like women. He never wanted to get married for the rest of his life.
Now they live a peaceful life, not noisy or noisy, that's really a cool crooked. I really envy a family without a daughter-in-law, a family without a daughter-in-law, it's so happy.
My colleague's son spent 500,000 yuan on his engagement at the end of last year, and 2.4 million yuan for the wedding room, and he used his daughter-in-law as a treasure, and his underwear was washed by his colleagues, and all kinds of housework were not touched.
Eat fruits to high-end imports, but also all kinds of face dissatisfaction, colleagues say every day that they have done evil, we are scared, my son has no girlfriend and does not urge, let it be.
Let's do the math to know why men are reluctant to get married now, and there are more and more women left. Keeping a good balance on your wedding account can be very stressful.
Bride price: 18.8/288,000 yuan. 5 gold: 6-70,000 yuan. Ring: 20,000 yuan. House: more than 1 million yuan car: more than 100,000 yuan. Change fee: 2-60,000 yuan. Sedan: 66,000.
Red envelope on the wedding day: 8888 yuan. Received a red envelope: 1000 yuan. Barricade fee: 20-30 pieces of Chinese and candy. Home decoration: 10,000 yuan. Cover pillow: 10,000 yuan. Wedding photos: 1-20,000 yuan. Fleet: 20,000 yuan.
Banquet: 5-100,000 yuan. Tobacco and alcohol: 2-30,000 yuan. Candy: 5,000 yuan. Miscellaneous: 20,000 yuan, plus 2-30,000 yuan for honeymoon.
Last year, 180,000 people took the bride price and ran away, and recently many women ran away after a few months of marriage, and many ran away without getting the money for the same room. The cost of marriage for women is too low, and they run away too fast.
Marriage has become a business, a house, a car, a deposit, a bride price, hardware and diamond rings, a bride price has become a means of collecting money, divorce is to divide the property, once you get married, you must be ready to go bankrupt, who will dare to get married in the future?
Nowadays, the common thinking of young people is that they live alone without marriage, and they do not give the money they earn to the woman, nor do they use the woman's, they spend their own money, raise their own cats, and decorate their own houses to their liking.
Pay your own mortgage, take your own tennis lessons, clean up your own housework, and the main thing is to enjoy yourself in your own small universe, live a good life, and don't cross others.
Even if there is a world war tomorrow and the universe explodes, I must live my life seriously before the explosion, so that I don't follow the life guidelines defined by others.
Everything is like this, population extinction, what egoism, what lives for nothing, what dies and no one buries it, it's really enough, there is a kung fu to worry about others, it's not good to go to read books and chase dramas to maintain health.
Including the fact that life is too stressful now, and the pressure after marriage is greater than before marriage, resulting in a worse income from marriage than from not getting married, and the mutual distrust between men and women exacerbates this problem.
In other words, if everyone's income increases, the pressure of life is small, and marriage is indeed happy, but the reality is not, now a person earns 3500 enough to spend, and it is not enough to earn 15000 when married.
Which direction is less stressful to develop in which direction, so the marriage rate is low. Things gather by like, people are divided by groups, how can girls be single in places where there are many scumbags, and the environment for cheating marriage is similar to that of men. Good men and good women don't exist, so don't expect to meet them.
And to put it bluntly, today's men and women are afraid of hardships and family responsibilities, they all put pleasure first, selfish, and have no sense of family responsibility and social responsibility.
People's life is full of ups and downs, joys, sorrows, horrors, fears, and fears, there are three joys in life, one is self-entertainment, the second is the joy of family, and the third is family joy, I think only the joy of family is the happiest.
The phenomenon of non-marriage and infertility in today's society means that some human genes will disappear with it.