"Mother" is a great title because she is responsible for the future of our humanity and is the most central factor in the intergenerational transmission.
But it is precisely because the mother shoulders such a responsibility that the mission undertaken by the mother is even more important. However, in real life, there are still a large number of less competent mothers, who often bring a kind of harm to their children, and if this harm is not effectively addressed, it will have a profound impact on the child's life, and even continue this harm between generations.
Susan Foward is an internationally renowned psychotherapist, lecturer and author with more than 40 years of clinical experience, and we are familiar with her because of her classic book "The Family of Origin". It is in this book that the author presents the profound influence of mothers on their children, and we are forced to focus on this influence and seriously reflect on the importance of the family to the individual.
And such a treasure healer has left us forever in 2020. But before leaving, she conducted an in-depth combing of the mother-daughter relationship and created this book "Mother-Daughter Relationship", so that the profession of mother can be clearer in her combing, so that the influence of mothers between generations can be seen, smoothed, and healed.
In this book, the author first takes us through the process of traumatizing mothers to their daughters, and introduces us to several very typical maternal personality traits that can have a negative impact.
In the process of human growth, the first few years are completely incapable of living alone, so the growth of any person must be entrusted to the nurturing of others, and the mother plays the most important role in this process, so the mother is naturally the link between us and the world, and naturally has the grace of nurturing us.
And such a state makes it impossible for the next generation as daughters to question their mothers, so any behavior of mothers will be infinitely amplified by daughters. If this behavior is harmful, the daughter can only accept it safely but cannot resist. But in the long run, it will inevitably become a knot in the hearts of the next generation, so that the daughter cannot escape and is trapped in the life dilemma constructed by her mother.
Therefore, the first piece of advice the author gives us in this book is to face the taboo, let everyone understand that mothers are not naturally right, and understand that when we become adults, we can completely change our mother's cognition and live a different style.
The book also provides us with several typical mother images that will have negative effects, such as severe narcissistic mothers, overly entangled mothers, controlling mothers, mothers who need care, and mothers who abandon or beat their children.
The second part of the book provides us with a clear and clear path to healing the wounds of our mothers. These suggestions have been confirmed by the author's years of work experience to be effective and can directly serve our lives.
For example, one of these suggestions is to admit our own pain, only when we accept the pain we have suffered, and understand that this pain is still affecting us, can we let go of some unrealistic thoughts in our hearts, let us live with our emotions, and let us admit all the harm we have suffered. And this acknowledgment itself is part of reconciliation, the beginning of healing.
The other suggestions in the book are also extremely effective, and this book should be a perusal for any mother or daughter. Mother's reading can heal herself, and then give her daughter a better influence, while her daughter's reading can better understand her mother, explore her own life path, and walk out of a better life.
Then let us read such a book "Mother and Daughter Relationship" to gain insight into the truth of growth, so that the profession of mother can play a more brilliant future, so that human beings can develop towards a better future. #母女关系##母亲##教养#