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In the spring of 1991, it was a sunny noon, and three women were sitting around the duty room of the zoo.
In the working environment of the zoo, the proportion of female employees has always been very large, so all three women are also employees of the zoo, and the relationship between them has always been very good.
The three of them on duty have also been on duty for the past few years, and they are already familiar enough to talk about some private topics, so at noon that day, they began to talk about their husbands.
However, after two of the women said this, the family relationship of the three of them suddenly changed unexpectedly, and in the following months, their families were also in danger of being divided.
And what does this sentence say?## First, joking to change husbands.
At lunch that day, Sister Wang and Sister Li went to the duty room first, and another female colleague who was on duty in the afternoon was still eating, so these two people waited in the duty room first.
Sister Wang and Sister Li were chatting in the duty room and talking about their family situation, when Sister Wang suddenly joked: "My husband is really lazy, he never does housework, and sometimes he has to chat with me when I cook, and as a result, I will paste the pot when I stir-fry." ”
After hearing this, Sister Li also joked: "So what's it, my husband is lazier, he never cooks, and he can't even cook a simple stir-fry, so once I come home late, he will take out a lot of takeout boxes, and say: 'You're coming back late, I won't wait for you, let's find something to eat by myself!'"
As soon as the two of them joked, the female colleague sitting next to them also heard what they said, so they asked: "Then why don't you change it, change each other's husbands, and your lives will be fine!"
The words of the two people also felt a little interesting, so they continued to talk about their husbands, and then the female colleague who had finished eating walked in, so Sister Wang followed her and said: "You say, if Sister Li and I change husbands, won't the lives of the two families be better!"
When the female colleague heard this, she also joked: "Then it is better for all three of us to do it, so that it is even better!"
After the three of them said this, they didn't think too much about it, and until they came home from work, the lives of the three of them continued like that.
Second, the crisis behind the sentence.
However, this sentence really changed the lives of all three of them, and although the husbands of all three of them did not really get together, this joke still turned the lives of all three of them upside down.
Sister Wang, as the party concerned, didn't know how this joke changed the lives of the three of them at this time, until one day she went to chat with Sister Li, and only then did she know that Sister Li's husband was very angry and filed for divorce with Sister Li after hearing this.
Sister Li was also very angry when she heard this, thinking that her husband was joking too much, so she went to ask Sister Wang, whether Sister Wang's husband also said that he was going to divorce her.
Sister Wang was also very angry after hearing this, so she told her husband about it, but her husband said: "I didn't say that I wanted to divorce you, but I just thought that your words were not very good, so I just told Sister Li's husband about it, if I were you, I would be angry." ”
Sister Wang didn't expect this matter to make such a big fuss, so she said to her husband: "I didn't say anything wrong with this, it's just a joke, you don't care." ”
However, Sister Li's husband has decided to divorce Sister Li, because in his opinion, Sister Li can say this kind of thing behind her back, which means that she really doesn't like her life, so there is no need for him to continue living with her.
Sister Li was very angry after hearing this, so she went back to her home, took out her passbook and marriage certificate and other things, and waited for her husband to come home and told him: "If you think what I said is true, then we will divorce!"
However, Sister Li's husband said to her after returning home: "I know you are angry, but I told you that I have no intention of divorcing you, you said it yourself, you can do it yourself." ”
After Sister Li's husband finished speaking, he went to the bedroom to rest, leaving Sister Li sitting alone on the sofa, tears flowing out of her eyes.
Three, they almost separated.
Sister Wang is a good friend of Sister Li, so naturally she also knows about the two of them, so she went to find Sister Li that day to comfort her.
However, as soon as Sister Wang entered Sister Li's house, she saw Sister Li sitting alone on the sofa, tears flowing, so she ran over and said to Sister Li: "Don't be sad, it's all my fault, I didn't expect him to tell you that he wanted a divorce, I will definitely explain it to him." ”
After Sister Wang finished speaking to Sister Li, she said to her husband: "What you said to Sister Li, she is very angry now, and she is really almost about to tear up the marriage certificate, Sister Li and her husband said that they want to divorce, and all this is due to your words, so you should apologize to her." ”
After listening to this, Sister Li's husband said to her: "You see, Sister Wang's husband didn't want to divorce her, but you told me that you wanted a divorce, which can only mean that you don't want to continue living with me in your heart, so you better pack your things and leave." ”
Sister Li looked at her husband, tears flowed out for no reason, she really didn't expect her husband to say such a thing to her, so she said to Sister Wang: "Go back, I will solve it myself." ”
After Sister Wang finished talking to Sister Li, she went back to find her husband, and Sister Wang's husband saw her come back and said some words of apology to her, so Sister Wang solved this matter.
After several twists and turns, Sister Li's husband finally agreed not to divorce, but Sister Li's husband's attitude towards her has also changed a lot, Sister Li's husband used to be a relatively gentle person, he and Sister Li have been married for more than ten years, and in these ten years of marriage, the two have also experienced a lot of things, but the relationship between them has always been very good.
However, after this incident, Sister Li's husband became no longer as gentle as before, Sister Li's husband thought she was a person who didn't like to play at home, so he was very cold to her, although Sister Li's husband didn't really leave her, but the marriage between him also became very fragile, so Sister Li was also very uncomfortable, and she also very much hoped that her marriage could go back to before.
epilogue
Although this sentence did not really make them change husbands, it made their marriages fall into crisis.
In fact, behind this sentence, it can also be seen that some people do not cherish their marriage enough, they are just looking for some stimulation, and they will inadvertently do something irresponsible for their marriage, but the ultimate price of these things is the heavy price paid by the family.
Jokes between colleagues also need to be treated with caution, especially when it comes to marriage and family, which is also a very sensitive topic, so we must cherish and take care of our marriage, and don't do things that are sorry for our families because of temporary stimulation.
1. The boundaries of joking cannot be touched.
Jokes are a double-edged sword, sometimes, we make some jokes between ourselves and our friends, which can play a role in enhancing the relationship between each other, but sometimes, if the boundary is touched, it will bring a lot of trouble to our lives.
So in our lives, if you want to make some jokes, you have to choose some more neutral topics, don't choose some sensitive topics, but sometimes, when some people are joking, they just want to observe what the other party's attitude is towards this matter, so when we are joking, we must also have our own bottom line, if the other party touches it, we must stop it in time, don't let the joke go too far, which will only bring more trouble to our lives.
Second, it is more important for husband and wife to get along with each other than to doubt.
Between husband and wife, one of the most important principles is to trust each other, this trust is not a word, can be established, but in our life, slowly accumulated, so we have any dissatisfaction or dissatisfaction between husband and wife, we must tell each other frankly, do not hold the dissatisfaction in the heart, this will only make our life more unpleasant.
If there is any problem between husband and wife, we must communicate in time, do not let our thoughts deviate from each other's ideas, which will cause our lives to become more unhappy, which is very unfavorable to our family, so we should trust each other more in the process of getting along, and do not doubt each other, because doubt will only make our lives more troublesome.
3. Family relations are jointly operated by husband and wife.
The relationship between husband and wife can sometimes be very fragile, but this does not mean that we can give up, on the contrary, we should cherish the relationship between us more, because this home is run by our husband and wife, so when we face some problems, we must analyze calmly and do not make some very impulsive actions, otherwise it will only make our relationship more tense.
At the same time, in our lives, there are also some external factors that will have some impact on our lives, but we can't give up our lives because of this, husband and wife should communicate more, do not have all kinds of contradictions and doubts, husband and wife should support each other, and run our family together.
epilogue
In our lives, we will always encounter all kinds of problems, but we can't give up because of this, only if we go on firmly, we will have a better future, so we must be firm in our principles, so as to make our lives better.
At the same time, we also need to know a balance, so that the pressure of work does not bring back to the family, which will only affect our lives and bring bad effects to our family.