We always hear that it is necessary to have a baby as soon as possible, and the body should recover early. Some parents will urge to have children early, we still have the physical strength to take it.
But some people feel that having a child late does not regret it, but is the wisest thing in life.
In fact, when considering the problem, we need to integrate it and not consider it one-sidedly.
Because everything has its own advantages and disadvantages. One-sided thinking will only make you suffer losses.
01 The state of the economy is different
In reality, when a person is young, his economic state is often different from that of middle age.
For example, when we reach middle age, we will always have higher incomes and stronger economic strength. In life, there are more resources to be obtained.
At this time, the economic foundation of the children raised will be more solid. There are also more choices.
For example, there will be more choices of educational resources.
For example, we may have a few thousand incomes in our early twenties.
But by the age of thirty or forty, the income will rise a lot, even several times.
These two different economic states provide children with different material standards.
The starting line of children is naturally different.
How much does it cost to raise a child, every family, has different choices.
But there is no doubt that the economy is strong, and the economy is stretched, which is very different.
02 The physical state is different
In reality, when people are in their twenties, their physical condition is often healthier.
More energy, less faults.
After more than 10 years of working life, when we reach the age of 30 or 40, we often begin to decline in health.
There are even various occupational diseases, and even the problem of difficulty in getting pregnant.
The state of production is definitely different. The energy of bringing up a child is also different.
A relative of mine gave birth to a baby in her twenties, and she felt completely fine.
Then at the age of thirty-five, I gave birth to a second child, and my recovery was very slow.
Whether it is the speed of weight loss or the recovery of physical condition, it is very slow. And looking at the children, there is no energy.
That's the obvious difference.
In reality, a good physical condition, inherited for children, will also be better.
There is no doubt about it.
And in terms of postpartum recovery and the energy of raising children, it is also different.
03 Cognitive states are different
In fact, there is an obvious difference between having a child early and having a child late: that is, the cognitive level of the husband and wife is different.
When we are young, we see things from different angles and depths than when we are middle-aged. Even a little naïve.
There are some things that we pursued when we were younger. But after middle age, I saw through it.
And from the perspective of the calmness of the character, it is also better in middle age.
Emotions are more stable and less impulsive.
For example, some people have a very impulsive personality when they are young. At home, tantrums are also often raised. Treat children, all kinds of impatience.
But when people reach middle age, they are calm and comfortable with many problems.
Whether it is choosing a spouse or raising children, it is more wise.
Because the experience has gone up, the cognitive level has also been higher.
Considering the problem, it is more practical, and it is not suspended.
All in all, everyone has their own way of choosing.
But no matter how you choose, don't be too one-sided.
All things considered, this makes it easier for yourself to make an informed choice. Impulsive choices, too one-sided choices, are not good. You tell me?