introduction
Wishing for a son to become a dragon and a daughter to become a phoenix is the wish of many parents.
According to a sociologist, there are no parents who do not love their children, and parents hope that their children will have a bright future. And it is precisely because of this that the hope that the son will become a dragon and the daughter will become a phoenix is the expectation of parents for their children, which stems from the parents' deep love for their children and the beautiful vision of their children for the future.
The sociologist went on to say that all parents want their sons to have outstanding talents, to be able to soar in the sky of life like a dragon, showing their ambition and courage. They expect their son to realize his biggest dream in life with his own efforts and talents, so as to become a person who contributes to society and the family.
The sociologist went on to say that hoping for a daughter to become a phoenix is, of course, also the expectation of parents for their daughter. They all want their daughter to be as beautiful and intelligent as a phoenix, and to be able to face every challenge in life with grace and confidence. They look forward to their daughter being like a phoenix, able to be reborn from the predicament, so as to show their unique tenacity and perseverance.
However, all parents also need to understand that dragons and phoenixes in the world are extremely rare existences. If your children are not talented in a certain field, it is very difficult to make your children become dragons and phoenixes in a certain field!
In fact, the sociologist's statement is still very reasonable. No, Mr. Zhang from Hubei Province expects his son to be able to achieve something in the field of art, so he does not hesitate to spend more than 100,000 yuan for his son to attend a junior college art major, but what is sad is that Mr. Zhang's expectations for his son have come to naught!
So, what's going on here?
Next, let's talk about it.
affair
Mr. Zhang has a son named Xiao Lei. Xiao Lei's talent is not stupid, but Xiao Lei has not liked to read since he was a child, and he loves to be naughty.
Five years ago, Xiaolei graduated from secondary school. In order to enable his son to have a bright future, Mr. Zhang planned to let Xiaolei get a college degree after discussing with his wife.
Mr. Zhang heard that art students do not have high requirements for academic standards, and they can easily be admitted to colleges and universities in the name of art students. In view of Xiao Lei's usual academic level, Mr. and Mrs. Zhang decided to let their son Xiao Lei apply for a junior college in the name of an art student.
However, Xiao Lei has never studied art since he was a child, and he does not even have the slightest foundation in art, in this case, it is also a fantasy for Xiao Lei to be admitted to a college in the name of an art student. In order to enable Xiao Lei to be admitted to a college in the name of an art student, after graduating from Xiao Lei Secondary School, Mr. and Mrs. Zhang specially sent Xiao Lei to a local art training institution to study art.
The three-year college life will soon come to an end, and in a few months, Xiao Lei will walk out of the door of the college and officially enter the society. In order to verify Xiao Lei's academic level, on April 18, Mr. Zhang asked Xiao Lei to draw a sketch when he took leave to go home to do errands, but when Xiao Lei finished sketching, Mr. Zhang directly reprimanded his son Xiao Lei: "What have you learned in three years of junior college? Is this the sketch you painted? It's just miserable! My more than 100,000 yuan is spent in vain!"
On April 19, Mr. Zhang posted a sketch drawn by his son Xiaolei on the Internet, and Mr. Zhang said: "My son is the biggest investment in my life, and it is also the most unsuccessful investment. My heart has been bleeding for the past two days!"
The above is a general process of this event.
When many netizens learned about this incident, netizens started a heated discussion.
Netizen voices
Netizen Optimist: Is Xiao Lei's sketch sold? Picasso didn't have this idea! This painting will definitely be a hit in the future! Haha.
Netizen, you come and go: I haven't graduated and then paid tuition, I have reached the peak of the realm, this painting is the only product in the universe. Christie's estimate should be around 10 million!
Lao Hu's point of view
Every child has their own interests and talents, or their own strengths and weaknesses. As parents, we should respect our children's individuality and encourage them to develop their own strengths, rather than blindly shaping them into "dragons" or "phoenixes" in our minds.
Lao Hu thinks: although "hope that the son will become a dragon, hope that the daughter will become a phoenix" is the wish of parents, but this wish may not be able to be realized, as a parent has used a normal heart to look at the child, not only to learn to accept and appreciate the child's uniqueness, but also to learn to accept and tolerate the child's shortcomings or defects, as long as the child can be taught how to face the challenges of life. As for whether children can become "dragons" and "phoenixes", it depends on their own creation, and parents do not need to set unrealistic goals for their children.
What do you think?