Since the implementation of the "high school entrance examination diversion" policy, the probability of ordinary junior high school students entering high school has been maintained at the level of about 50%.
This means that students who do poorly in junior high school and who are in the lower middle and lower grades are directly deprived of the opportunity to pursue upper secondary education and higher education.
Parents, especially those who have received higher education, are inevitably anxious, and do not hesitate to spend money to enroll their children in various cram schools and tutorial classes, and even quit their jobs, sacrifice themselves, and go to school early in person to accompany them, just so that their children will not be "shunted" out.
However, after the high school entrance examination every year, as long as you look closely, you will find that those students who can successfully cross the threshold of high school, especially those who have achieved particularly outstanding results in the high school entrance examination, often do not come from families who go back and forth to after-school cram schools or accompany their parents throughout the whole process.
Those students who fail the high school entrance examination often have some common characteristics.
(1) Improper learning methods
"Feynman Learning", "Ebbinghaus Forgetting Curve", "Cornell Note-taking Method", "Conceptual Map Method", "Formula Memory Method", ......
The above-mentioned widely recognized scientific learning methods not only help to improve learning efficiency, but also cultivate students' self-directed learning ability, so that they can better grasp knowledge and skills.
As a parent, how many do you know, and how many do your children master?
Children are biased, their grades are declining, they are slow to memorize texts, and their comprehension skills are poor...... These are headaches that cannot be completely solved by simply "studying hard".
There is a saying in the mainland that "it is better to teach a fish than to teach a fish", and the famous educator Ye Shengtao once said, "To teach is not to teach." This means that it is more important to teach children scientific learning methods than to simply let them learn knowledge.
Find a scientific learning method that suits you, and children will be able to achieve better academic results even if they spend relatively little time studying.
On the contrary, those children who have not found a suitable learning method, even if they brush up on questions and apply for more cram schools, may only stay on the surface and cannot truly grasp the essence of knowledge.
(2) Lack of time management skills
The biggest disadvantage of children who lack time management skills is that they procrastinate in their studies!
When these children come home from school, they have no idea when to complete their homework, either they can watch TV and then eat snacks, and they finally have to write their homework, and they can't tell the priorities.
What's worse is that these children often hold on to their mobile phones on the pretext of checking questions, and end up checking questions for 10 minutes and playing with them for an hour! When their parents urge them, they realize that it is too late, so they can only rush to do their homework, and the result is often poor quality and perfunctory.
On the contrary, those children who successfully landed in the high school entrance examination know that time is precious and needs to be used properly.
They are not only proficient in various scientific time management methods, such as the Pomodoro method, the time cake method, etc., but also can reasonably plan their study items after school.
This way of time management not only allows them to complete their assignments with high quality, but also allows them to have enough time to participate in extracurricular activities, read extracurricular books, or pursue their hobbies.
This virtuous cycle makes their learning state better and better, and their grades naturally and steadily improve.
(3) Lack of learning mentality and interest
Children in junior high school, who have just entered adolescence, gradually begin to build self-awareness and independence, and crave more autonomy, and in the process, they may show a willful, rebellious side.
For example, if you don't like or adapt to the teaching style of a certain subject teacher, you simply don't listen to the teacher's lecture, and the teacher will lecture on the podium, and he will do other things underneath or even sleep a lot......
For another example, if some children are not good at mathematics, they will have fear or resistance to learning mathematics, thinking that they do not learn well because they have no talent in this area, and this negative attitude will cause them to lose the motivation to learn mathematics and affect the effect of mathematics learning.
Children with poor mentality and lack of interest often have a negative attitude towards learning, and are more likely to feel frustrated, anxious, and even avoid when they encounter difficulties in learning.
This mentality weakens their motivation to learn, making them reluctant to delve deeper, which may lead to problems such as poor concentration and memory loss, and it is naturally difficult to achieve good grades.
On the contrary, students who are full of interest in learning and have a good learning attitude usually believe that they have the ability to overcome difficulties in learning, and are able to remain calm and optimistic about the challenges encountered in learning.
Such a learning attitude allows them to devote themselves more to the learning process, so as to understand and master the knowledge more deeply.
At the same time, they are full of interest in learning content, and will take the initiative to find relevant learning resources to broaden their knowledge horizons, and their grades will naturally improve step by step.
(4) Behind them stands a pair of parents who don't understand family education
An authoritative organization has conducted an in-depth investigation and research on the top students in the college entrance examination from 2007 to 2016, and found that 35.09% of the top students came from teachers' families and 18.62% came from civil servants' families.
Why are these two types of families more likely to cultivate top students?
Some parents may think that teachers and civil servants have high educational qualifications and can give their children "small stoves", and their grades will naturally be good.
In fact, it is really not, the agency found that parents of these two types of families have three significant commonalities in the process of educating their children, and if ordinary families can learn from and practice these three points, it is also possible to cultivate academic tyrants.
First of all, the parents of these families know that good learning attitudes, habits and methods are the basis for children to achieve excellent results, so in the process of daily education of children, they pay more attention to the cultivation of children's learning attitudes and learning habits, and also teach children some scientific learning methods.
Secondly, the parents of these families are very aware of the changes in their children's growth at all stages. They not only value academics, but also care about their children's inner feelings and needs. Through frequent in-depth chats with children, they know how well they are learning, and give timely help and guidance, such a parent-child relationship makes children more confident and more motivated to learn.
Finally, the parents of these families usually have relatively stable jobs and incomes, usually like reading, sports, and are relatively experienced in managing children, so they can provide a good learning environment and necessary learning resources for their children.
In contrast, parents of children with poor academic performance, although most of them can do the last point, often struggle to realize the importance of the first two points. Even if I am conscious, I don't know how to start because of the lack of educational ability.
The famous educator Chen Heqin clearly pointed out in his book "Family Education" that the role of parents in family education is very important.
They need to continuously learn and improve their educational methods and skills to gain a deeper understanding of the characteristics and needs of children's physical and mental development, and to implement appropriate educational strategies according to each child's personality differences.
A survey shows that although most parents can realize the importance of family education to their children's growth and development, there are very few parents who really master the methods and skills of family education. More than half of parents said they felt overwhelmed in the process of educating their children and longed for more guidance and help.
Fortunately, with the rapid development of social economy and information technology, we have more ways to improve our educational capabilities.
For example, listening to courses and lectures from education experts online, communicating with other outstanding parents and teachers online and offline, participating in parent-child communication training courses, and reading high-quality family education books are all very effective methods.
Finally, if you want to improve your educational ability by reading family education books, then I recommend you a book "Accompany Your Child Through Three Years of Junior High School".
The author of this book is Yu Min, a senior teacher with more than 20 years of experience in front-line education, different from those family education books written by experts and scholars on the market, this book avoids professional and obscure terms and nouns in terms of words and sentences, or case analysis, and uses vivid and interesting and easy-to-understand language.
Aiming to make every parent understand, learn, use, the book has a total of 9 chapters, of which 3 chapters I particularly like, a chapter by chapter, respectively, a detailed introduction to the three grades of junior high school, each stage of children's physical and mental development characteristics and parenting focus.
What's more worth mentioning is that the book also devotes two chapters to explain in detail the learning skills of each subject, as well as the common adolescent problems of junior high school students.
It is intended to help middle school students find the right way to learn, as well as to help parents better understand and cope with the various challenges and difficulties that children may encounter in middle school.
A very good family education guide book, with clear chapters, easy-to-understand language, classic cases, and strong practicality, whether you have a high school, junior high school, or even a primary school education, as long as you have basic literacy skills, you can easily read and benefit from it.
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It is highly recommended that parents of junior high school students, especially parents of children in the first and second years of junior high school, take a good look, which will not only help you understand the physical and mental development characteristics of junior high school children, but also help you guide and help your children improve their academic performance and smoothly flow into the high school campus.