On a summer afternoon, the sun is hot and dazzling, but the courtyard of Ah Xing's house is quiet. Ah Xing sat on a wicker chair in the shade of a tree, his brows furrowed, his eyes deep, as if he was thinking about some major issue. And his son Xiao Ming was in a corner of the courtyard, sweating profusely and playing, with occasional laughter.
"Ah Xing, what are you thinking about when you are so serious?" Xiao Ming's mother, Xiao Mei, Ah Xing's wife, walked over with a plate of cut watermelon, interrupting Ah Xing's contemplation.
Ah Xing sighed and slowly spoke: "I'm thinking about Xiao Ming's education. Today's children are under more and more pressure, should we force him to be able to stand in society in the future?"
Hearing this, Xiaomei frowned, "Forcing the child, I think we should give him a happy childhood, instead of letting him suffer pressure too early." ”
The conversation between the two caught Xiao Ming's attention, and he ran over curiously and interjected, "Mom and Dad, what are you talking about? Why do I feel like you're talking about me?"
Ah Xing and Xiaomei glanced at each other, a little embarrassed. Ah Xing touched Xiao Ming's head and said gently, "We are discussing your education and want to know how we can better help you grow." ”
Xiao Ming blinked his eyes and nodded as if he didn't understand, "Oh, then I hope my parents can let me study happily and don't force me." ”
Ah Xing's heart moved, he squatted down and looked at Xiao Ming seriously, "Xiao Ming, do you know why Dad is sometimes strict with you? Because Dad hopes that you can become an excellent person and be able to face various challenges in the future." But Dad also understands that growing up happily is just as important. So, we need to find a balance that both allows you to learn and make you happy. ”
After hearing this, Xiao Ming nodded thoughtfully, "I understand, Dad." I'm going to work hard, but I also wish I could have time to play with my friends and do what I love. ”
Ah Xing smiled and nodded, but there was still some confusion in his heart. He knows that educating children is not a simple matter, and it is necessary to find the right method and balance. And he also understands that forcing children is not the solution to the problem, but may bring unnecessary stress and negative effects to children.
In the days that followed, Ah Xing began to try to change the way he educated Xiao Ming. He no longer overemphasizes academic performance, but pays more attention to cultivating Xiao Ming's interests and hobbies. He took him to visit museums and science museums to expose him to a wider range of knowledge, and he encouraged him to participate in school club activities to make more friends and develop teamwork and leadership skills.
Xiao Ming also began to change gradually. His academic performance has steadily improved, and he has also made considerable progress in hobbies and social skills. He has become more confident, cheerful, and knows how to get along and communicate with people.
In the summer courtyard, Ah Xing and Xiao Ming often sit together in the shade of trees to chat and play games. Ah Xing will patiently listen to Xiao Ming's thoughts and feelings, and give him appropriate advice and guidance. Xiao Ming will also take the initiative to share his learning and life experiences, so that Ah Xing can better understand his inner world.
One hot afternoon, Ah Xing and Xiao Ming sat in the courtyard eating watermelon, enjoying a rare cool time. Ah Xing suddenly asked, "Xiao Ming, how do you think of your study and life now?"
Xiao Ming thought for a while and said seriously, "Dad, I think it's good now." I enjoy learning and playing with my friends. I know you care about me, and I'm going to try to make myself better too. ”
After Ah Xing heard this, a warm current surged in his heart. He understands that he has found the right way to educate children – not to force them, but to guide them to discover their interests and potential, so that they can grow in joy.
This story teaches us that educating children is not a simple thing that requires patience, understanding, and guidance. We should not only focus on children's academic performance, but also on their inner world and growth needs. Pushing your child is not a solution to the problem, but can cause unnecessary stress and negative effects on your child. We should respect children's personalities and interests, give them appropriate freedom and support, and let them grow up happily.
At the same time, this story also reminds us that as parents, we need to keep learning and growing, and master the right educational methods and skills. We need to establish a good communication and trust relationship with our children, understand their ideas and needs, and give them the right guidance and advice. Only in this way can we raise a healthy, confident and capable next generation.
Finally, let us believe that every child has their own talents and potential, and as long as we guide and nurture them with our hearts, they will definitely be able to become the pillars of the future society. And in the process, we will also reap endless joy and a sense of accomplishment.