Editor's note: The report of the 20th National Congress of the Communist Party of China proposed: "improve the social education mechanism of schools and families" and "strengthen the construction of family education and family style". The importance of home-school-community collaborative education and family education was once again highlighted. To this end, starting from this issue, Today's Women's Daily/Fengwang has launched a large-scale all-media series of reports - "Principal's Mother Says Tutoring", inviting well-known and excellent principals to talk about family education with the dual vision of principals and mothers, and to support parents with their unique experience and experience.
Text: Today's Women's Daily/Fengwang Chief Reporter Zhang Qingqing
Recently, after Ultraman cards and radish knives, a new game is now popular among elementary school students - "playing cigarette cards" or "shooting cigarette cards". Cigarette cards are made from discarded cigarette boxes, and the children tear off the lids of various cigarette boxes, fold them into rectangular cards, put their hands together, and slap the ground with empty palms.
When the words "cigarettes" and "primary school students" are put together, some parents and teachers are nervous, and recently, some local education bureaus have issued a civilized order to prohibit it, but there are also schools with a tolerant attitude. If there are children who are keen to "play cigarette cards", how should parents deal with them?
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The fourth-grade son is keen on "cigarette cards", and his mother went from being anxious to helping collect them
"Today's new harvest, Doudou is going to be happy again, thanks to the enthusiastic brothers and uncles in the office. Recently, Ms. Liu, a parent in Changsha, posted a cigarette card collected for her fourth-grade son in the WeChat circle of friends, for her son's hobby, Ms. Liu told today's women's newspaper / Fengwang reporter that at the beginning, she was also worried, after all, cigarettes are prohibited for minors, and exposure to cigarette cards in the game may make children curious about smoking. But then she discussed it with her son, and her son persuaded her, "My son said, 'Mom, I think if you use cigarette cards for trading and gambling, it is a bad thing, but if you use it kindly, it is a good thing, and when we play cigarette cards, we don't look at our phones and play games, isn't this protecting our eyes?'" Ms. Liu said that she felt that her son's understanding was very "positive", and she no longer worried about her children playing cigarette cards, and she also went around to help her son collect cigarette boxes, and the mother and son became game partners.
But there are also parents who are facing a big enemy, a mother on the Internet found that her son does not like to study recently, and his grades have dropped significantly, and the reason is because of playing cigarette cards. In a fit of rage, the parent cut out the hundreds of cigarette cards his child had saved. After the video was posted on social platforms, it also sparked a wide range of discussions.
Some parents said that today's primary school students play cigarette cards not only for shooting and fanning, but also for collecting, exchanging and buying and selling. Some schools have found that in the process of collecting cigarette cards, some students have bad behaviors - picking up cigarette boxes everywhere, asking for others, taking credit at the commissary, comparing with each other, etc. There are even children who are addicted to winning and losing in the game and have a tendency to gamble. On April 7, the Sanya Municipal Education Bureau issued the "Important Tips to Prevent Students from Indulging in 'Cigarette Card' Games". Cigarette card (cigarette card) games may lead students to show off, enlighten gambling awareness, develop interest and curiosity in smoking, and become addicted to games.
At the same time, Daowu Primary School in Liuyang, Hunan Province also appeared on the hot search because of the "cigarette card incident". Unlike the Sanya Education Bureau, the school's principal, Chen Lisha, wrote an "open letter" to parents.
Should "cigarette cards" be banned?
The principal's mom writes an open letter to parents
Chen Lisha, the principal of Daowu Primary School, first asked the children to teach her how to play the game, and then wrote an open letter to share her observations and experiences in the game with the parents.
In the letter, she said, the children first taught her "winning gestures," then let her in the first few rounds, and only when she became proficient did they start to really compete with her. She said: "In the game, you can learn the ability to abide by the rules, compete and cooperate, coordinate and analyze, interpersonal communication, resource utilization, etc., and ...... Chen Lisha put the excitement of children and the anxiety of parents on the table, and launched a week-long theme class meeting and debate competition in the whole school from March 25.
With her encouragement, the children were brave enough to express their views to their parents, who also stated their reasons in the receipts. Communicating on an equal footing and then playing in the "three chapters of the law" is far more effective than a simple and brutal ban. In President Chen's view, the purpose of moral education does not have to be too concerned with the outcome, and the discussion and interaction are precious.
"I have been involved in education for more than 20 years, and since I had my own children, I have been studying psychology and learning that allows me to observe, understand and accept children. "First of all, I think that if there is no foreshadowing, a ban on students from taking cigarette signs, they will have a strong 'sense of deprivation'." The pleasure, recognition, etc., they get in the game are suddenly forcibly deprived, and they can still voluntarily comply with the new rules that they can't understand?"
Secondly, Chen Lisha believes that the dangers of cigarette card shooting, such as comparison, showing off, gambling, etc., are all from the perspective of adults to examine children's games. "On the contrary, I think that the sense of gain brought by this kind of game can make up for many deficiencies in the learning process: children will practice what adults usually talk about one by one, such as storage, children who play cigarette cards have a delicate box, which is neatly categorized; Children can also gain equality in the game, and children with poor academic performance will gain leadership status when playing the game if they play the cigarette card well. Play builds a bridge and gives all children equal opportunities to play. ”
On the other hand, some parents think that children associate the price of cigarettes with cigarette cards, which may lead to children comparing and showing off, but a closer look will find that children form different cards to ensure the fairness of the game, because the texture of different brands of boxes is different, and the difficulty of obtaining boxes is also different. ”
Finally, Chen Lisha believes that to create opportunities for children to release their "aggression", "a game with a win or a loss like 'slapping a cigarette card' can help children release their 'aggression' in competition, which is a kind of natural release."
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Parents should guide their children to regulate the game
Recently, a reporter from Today's Women's Daily/Fengwang found that many children in some primary school campuses in Changsha are keen to play this game, so what do the principals think and what suggestions do they have for parents?
"Similar games existed at least when we were young, and the fact that they have been passed down to the present day shows that the game is very vibrant, and children really like to play it. Li Sujuan, principal of Xingsha Experimental Primary School of Hunan First Normal University, said that children who are not strong in control, if they are too involved in the game, will affect their concentration and distract themselves, resulting in a lack of concentration in the classroom and spending too much time on the game after class, but this situation is still relatively rare.
Liao Jing, vice principal of Changsha Yucai No. 2 Primary School, said the school did not stop the children from playing the game. In her opinion, the game helps to improve hand-eye coordination, promotes social interaction between children, and reduces the time spent playing with electronic devices, which is beneficial for their physical health and overall development. Despite this, she still has to remind parents to pay attention to several issues, "First, the cigarette card comes from the cigarette box, if there is a better paper card box replacement, it can also be considered, but there is no need to smell the 'smoke' color change." In addition, it is necessary to pay attention to the safety of the playing field, and the debris or sharp objects on the ground need to be paid attention to and cleaned up in advance. All in all, parents should guide their children to play games safely and in a regulated manner."
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