He is "Liang Feihu" in "Iron Pear Flower", "Niu Dejiang" in "Six Groups of Serious Cases", and "Principal Wen" in "Young with You".
"Jia Gong" in "The Wind Blows in the Summer", and "Deputy Director Xu" in "The Sea in My Dream......
He is Yan Shikui.
Not to mention acting and feelings, at the age of 64, Yan Shikui once appeared in a program on Beijing Satellite TV to ask for marriage.
said that he wanted to find a suitable woman and form a warm home.
It's just that he got married at the age of 64, and now he is still single at the age of 67.
Some people think it's strange that an old actor has been acting for many years, he is handsome when he is young, and he has a temperament and looks online when he is old.
How can he be regarded as an existence that wants money, money, and beauty, why can't he "marry" himself after so many years?
Did he insist on not marrying when he was young and regretted it when he was old?
Or is there something else going on?
01
Love, love that starts quickly
It's not unmarried, he had a marriage.
Yan Shikui, an actor at Emei Film Studio.
Xu Zhiwei, a literary soldier of a military region's art troupe.
"Bashan is high, Shu Road is difficult, give up ninety-nine lives, step out of the road to Yangguan ......"
In 1984, Bayi Factory's "Children of Bashan" gave Yan Shikui and Xu Zhiwei an opportunity to meet in different places.
Acting together, taking care of each other, and chatting together.
Who knew that they talked about their feelings and feelings, and they quickly determined their relationship.
It's just that there is a period of shooting, and when the work is over, the two will go back to their original units.
didn't want the warm relationship to end here, they agreed with each other to use the wild goose to convey love.
Fortunately, after the long-distance relationship lasted for nearly a year, Xu Zhiwei's job change certificate came down, and they were able to reunite.
came out of the army and entered the unfamiliar Eying Studio, Xu Zhiwei's dedication made Yan Shikui very moved.
Without saying a word, they proposed, and they got a license and got married.
It's just that a happy marriage and family are not bundled with a marriage certificate, but jointly operated by the husband and wife.
Yan Shikui and Xu Zhiwei don't know each other.
Speaking of which, the two only got along for a while when they were filming "Children of Bashan", and there was no chance to meet other than that.
Their relationship is mostly maintained by the throbbing of the unforgettable first love, the monthly expectation of correspondence, and the fantasy of love.
The two people who lived in each other's imagination suddenly lived together, and the initial run-in period of their marriage almost made them both collapse.
Yan Shikui is a person who is not good at words, has a stable personality, and is somewhat silent.
He doesn't know how to talk sweetly, he doesn't have the sense of sharing housework, and he is not good at dealing with conflicts between husband and wife.
Yan Shikui feels that married life is beautiful.
Because since he had a wife, he has never eaten cold rice once, and he has never worn two different socks because of time constraints.
And Xu Zhiwei's feelings after marriage are the opposite.
Xu Zhiwei is a person who pursues romance, likes to share life, and hopes that her husband will provide emotional value for herself.
Her personalities are too different from those of her husband and they don't complement each other much.
So he was trampled dirty by Yan Shikui with his shoes on the ground he had just mopped.
Spend your time celebrating Yan Shikui's birthday and be said that you are really too troublesome.
Before the arrival of anniversaries and big festivals, Yan Shikui was full of anticipation of how to spend it, and Yan Shikui didn't remember it at all, let alone give a surprise.
Xu Zhiwei felt aggrieved, so he used anger to vent his emotions.
But what if he is angry, Yan Shikui is not aware of his own problems, and he is not good at words and can't say coaxing words.
As soon as there is a family conflict, he hides out, makes his wife angry, and then comes back as if the matter is over.
There was no response to the punch on the cotton, Xu Zhiwei could only endure it, running in year after year, telling himself to be tolerant and adaptable.
Tolerant and adapting, Xu Zhiwei witnessed her husband's remarkable achievements in his acting career.
I also witnessed the experience of my husband being attracted by a friend's business and making a lot of money, and then leaving the entertainment industry to make an investment and losing money.
02
The mouth is tight, and the marriage that has been lost for many years
Yes, Yan Shikui has not stayed in the actor industry all the time, he caught the "trend" and went into business halfway.
In the early 90s, the tide of going to sea surged.
Listen to friends show off how much money they make in a year in business.
Yan Shikui, who has a dead salary in the film studio and is still under a lot of work pressure, is extremely tempted.
He and his wife resigned and started a business after being informed.
I just want to do business, and I bump into a mouth that doesn't "play nice".
doesn't know how to "play good things", and people who don't have too many "business experiences" in their brains.
Yan Shikui invested his family's savings in opening a restaurant and invested them in real estate.
It was spent on retail stores and on pawn shops.
It's the same if you don't do the same, and it's the same if you don't work again.
After going around for 10 years, the good time has been wasted, a lot of energy has been consumed, and the pride has been consumed.
Yan Shikui drooped his head and wanted to turn back.
But in the deductive career, who said that if you pick it up, you can regain a great opportunity?
A new generation of outstanding actors has emerged one after another to occupy a blockbuster position in the film and television market.
made Yan Shikui, who was already middle-aged, start again, and did not get anyone's blue eyes.
The once smash hit "tough guy Xiaosheng" name has become a thing of the past, and Yan Shikui has lived a life without scenes to film.
Even if he suffered a big blow in his career, at this time, his marriage also touched the reef.
In his early years, when Yan Shikui was fighting for entrepreneurship, he didn't plan to have children.
Xu Zhiwei silently agreed, and then did his best to play the role of a virtuous helper.
Take care of her husband's life and emotions, cheer her husband up, and endure all conflicts with her husband.
She told herself: "He's busy, don't let him be distracted and don't let him be too tired." ”
Later, although her husband failed to start a business and lost a lot of money, Xu Zhiwei did not feel much distressed.
Because she wants her husband and herself to experience life and create happiness in life.
But the wife thinks so, and the husband always understands the amorous feelings.
Yan Shikui didn't know why he had to go out for a walk.
It's okay to call it a trip, just go back, why do you have to spread out a cloth and sit down to drink water and eat, isn't it fragrant to eat at home?
He also doesn't understand why his wife has to insist on asking the sentence "Do you love me" after being married for many years.
The end of a marriage is often in the "never understandable" of one party.
"My ex-wife deliberately said that she wanted to go abroad to improve, just to want me to keep her and talk about how important she was to me, but I didn't care about it at that time, so I said you can go if you want, she was disappointed...... There is a big difference between men and women, men don't say but do, but in women's minds, doing is as important as talking......"
Years later, on a program on Beijing Satellite TV, Yan Shikui talked about his past marriage.
He said that he had never known how to get divorced before.
Later, when going through the divorce procedures, his wife held back tears and said, "For so many years, you have never said a word of love to me", which made him suddenly understand that in fact, between husband and wife, "love" is to be spoken.
More than half of the age of 40 became a bachelor, as if people have achieved nothing in middle age, Yan Shikui was very depressed for a while.
didn't have the slightest heart to start a new relationship, and he focused all his energy on acting.
It's just that he has been out of touch with the entertainment industry for ten years, and it naturally takes some effort for Yan Shikui to re-enter.
After the millennium, he started from a small supporting role, and also developed behind the scenes of film and television.
Entering the crew of "Long March" as a supporting role was not too eye-catching, but he became an assistant director with his previous experience, and his career improved.
After coming to "On the Taihang Mountain", he became a little famous again.
received the historical drama "Fengyun Hugu Lake" and walked into "Iron Pear Flower" directed by Guo Jingyu......
It's just that the world is unpredictable.
During the filming of "Iron Pear Flower" in 2009, Yan Shikui, whose marriage had suffered a heavy blow, suffered a huge impact on his family relationship.
03
With tears, I can't give up the affection of my relatives
"Shikui, your second sister was hit by a car and hit more than ten meters away, come back quickly......"
The mother's heart-rending and panicked voice came from the phone.
Yan Shikui only felt that there was a white light in his mind for a few seconds, and the whole body was cold.
After coming back to his senses and responding to his mother, he ran directly from the crew to the hospital.
Yan Shikui has twin sisters, and the relationship between the three brothers and sisters has always been very good, and this time it was his second sister who had always been lively.
"The doctor said that because of the severe damage to the head, there is a high probability that he will not wake up in the future...... It's a vegetative person, still alive, she ......"
All the prayers were shattered by this sentence, and Yan Shikui couldn't accept it at all.
When something happens to one child, the happiness of two families is disintegrated.
Looking at my elderly mother, my eldest sister who has a family to take care of, and my brother-in-law who has a general job and an emotional breakdown.
Yan Shikui knew that it was his brother and his mother who relied on him, and he had to take on the responsibility of resisting the family.
told the family that he planned to give up the filming of "Iron Pear Flower" to make time to take care of his little sister.
But the tearful mother took his hand and sobbed, "Your second sister, her medical expenses ......"
"At that time, she had just undergone surgery and had a critical period, and she could get the kind of injections that restored the function of brain cells every week, 2,000 yuan a shot, and the medicine with the best recovery effect, which was also thousands of ......."
Yan Shikui knew that his mother really couldn't afford his sister's huge medical expenses and maintenance expenses.
Without thinking too much, he took the initiative to take over all the medical expenses of the second sister, and he took over for a full 10 years.
At the same time, the eldest sister and brother-in-law said that they would take responsibility for taking care of their younger sister.
The mother cooks and does the laundry for the people who are in the circle.
Since then, Yan Shikui has not dared to slack off in filming.
From "Fengyun 1927" to "The Cowherd and the Weaver Girl", from "Warm Ten Thousand Homes" to "Execution Sword" and "Crime Scene......
Dedicated to creating the characters and completing the shooting task seriously.
Without distractions, he earned medical bills for his sister, and he didn't ignite a little passion for finding someone to start a family with.
It's just that after working so hard, Yan Shikui still couldn't keep the life of his second sister.
During the Spring Festival in 2019, the second sister, who had been sleeping for 10 years, said goodbye to the world in her dreams.
Howling and crying, bearing the pain of losing his relatives, Yan Shikui said that the second sister was liberated, and the relatives who accompanied him day and night were also liberated.
There is a family of bedridden patients who can best understand the weight of the word "liberation" mentioned by Yan Shikui.
Many children can't give and care for their sick parents for ten years, let alone Yan Shikui is just an elder brother.
Everything he has done for his sister deeply reflects the preciousness of family affection.
04
It's late, and there is no coolness without a wife and no house
The year of his sister's death, Yan Shikui was 63 years old.
Divorced at the age of 45, still single at the age of 63, even though the family has been unable to spare other energy in order to take care of the second sister over the years.
But his married life has always been a deep worry for his mother.
The second sister is gone, and Yan Shikui and his 80-year-old mother rely on each other.
Yan Shikui was very filial to his mother, thinking that in the past ten years, his mother had endured great suffering, and then she had also suffered the pain of a white-haired person sending a black-haired person.
So he would put a break from work and take his mother around to relax and see different scenery.
I will also learn to go to the kitchen and wash my hands and make soup for my old mother.
In the face of his mother, Yan Shikui always has countless patience, and he is not willing to be too disobedient.
So when my mother said, "I have to watch you start a family while I live, so that I can rest assured."
Yan Shikui began to seriously consider whether he needed a marriage.
"I haven't thought about this before, my old mother mentioned it, I think it's not such a thing after all, I also want to have a companion to walk the square when I am old, and I can have a beloved child to take a knee ......"
's mother thought about it, and she thought about it too, so in 2020, when Beijing Satellite TV invited an interview, Yan Shikui took the opportunity to marry him.
64 years old, even if he is older, Yan Shikui has an outstanding temperament, personable demeanor, straight body, and strong body.
In addition, he is still acting, can earn money, and is famous.
It should be easy for such a person to find an old partner.
In 2024, which can be married to the present, Yan Shikui is still single.
Some people say that the problem lies in his requirements for a marriage partner -
I want to find someone who is not too old, gentle and virtuous, kind-hearted and able to honor the elderly.
It is best to have a child with him after marriage, and leave no regrets in his old age.
You also need to be able to see what you think is appropriate.
As soon as such a marriage condition came out, and then contacted the situation of Yan Shikui's family, netizens were not calm.
Netizens feel that Yan Shikui is a good person for his family and relatives.
But when he got old, he didn't figure out what marriage was, and what he was looking for was not like a wife, but like a nanny.
Maybe netizens are right, there are some problems with Yan Shikui's marriage conditions.
Maybe what netizens said is not right, with Yan Shikui's conditions, his requirements are not so excessive.
Whether it's right or wrong, Yan Shikui, who wants to start a family and have a child, is still single.
When he couldn't meet that suitable person, he didn't rush and settle, but was responsible for himself and lived with his mother.
has been busy for most of his life, Yan Shikui has not been sorry for anyone except for what he said, "I'm sorry for my ex-wife".
After experiencing a series of emotional twists and turns, he cherishes his family relationship with his mother.
When he is not filming, he stays by his mother's side and does his filial piety.
He said, "It's actually very easy to be with you, she just looks at you, she feels very happy, and when she is happy, I feel very satisfied." ”
It's just that now that she is 67 years old and still has no wife and no children, Yan Shikui's 88-year-old mother often feels worried.
She didn't dare to grow old, and she hoped that there would be no problems with her body.
She wants to spend more time with her son, so that he will not experience loneliness so quickly.
Nowadays, many young people insist on not marrying and having children, thinking that singleness is not only cool, but also makes life refreshing and refreshing, and there are many less troubles and entanglements.
But when you are young, you are cool and relaxed, but what should you do when you are old......