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This is the 3,617th real story we have told
I'm Qin Ying and I'm from Xinxiang, Henan.
Due to the failure of the college entrance examination, I went to a junior college and taught Chinese as a foreign language to foreigners after graduation. I wanted to finish this life ordinarily, but when I was 33 years old, my ex-husband cheated.
But the failure of my marriage did not knock me down, but made my life work. Maybe it's the favor of God, when I was 36 years old, I met a handsome Turkish guy who was 10 years younger and 1.93 taller, and he looked cynical......
Now that we have two adorable mixed-race babies, how will our story continue in the future?
(My husband and I, who are 10 years younger)
In 1981, I was born in an ordinary family in Xinxiang, Henan. My dad is in business to support the family, my mom is a housewife, and I have a younger sister.
I grew up in a warm family atmosphere until I was 17 years old, when my father's business failed, and the family's financial situation plummeted. As the eldest daughter in the family, I saw this situation and wanted to do something to share the burden of the family for my father, but I felt powerless.
This deep sense of powerlessness made me deeply trapped in it, and I couldn't get out of the low mood for a long time, which inevitably affected my studies. In the end, he failed the college entrance examination and went to an ordinary college.
In 2000, I enrolled in Xinxiang Normal College to study English. I still didn't have the heart to focus on my studies at school, thinking about the deteriorating family situation and the previous failure in the college entrance examination, which made me feel lost and hopeless about the future, and I became even more discouraged and indulgent about myself.
Fortunately, I have a talent for languages, and even if I don't put all my energy into it, I can cope with the daily exams at school.
In 2003, I graduated from junior college and taught high school English in a private middle school in Ningbo. At that time, the teachers at the school were all highly educated and professional.
(Our Family)
I seem insignificant in it. At this time, I realized that I should improve myself, and I could not blindly indulge in negative emotions and let myself go infinitely.
Just like Chen Danqing said: "What does it mean to save yourself? It is to be true to your own feelings, do everything seriously, don't be annoyed, don't give up, don't be perfunctory." Even if the punctuation is clear when writing the article, and there are no typos, this is what I call saving ourselves, and we all have to save ourselves step by step. ”
So, in 2004, I enrolled in an undergraduate program at Zhengzhou University and continued to study English during the winter and summer vacations. Three years later, I graduated. With three years of solid precipitation, I have strengthened my work and felt the respect and admiration from others.
At that time, I felt that I had a lot of room for growth in my future. Some people say that a big city is a dream, and a small city is an ideal. And I want to go to the big city to chase the light of the future.
In 2007, I quit my job at the school and came to Shanghai. In an educational institution, he teaches Chinese as a foreign language to foreigners.
Although I was still working in a language and a native language, when I actually started teaching, I realized that teaching English and teaching Chinese are not the same thing at all.
(My son)
In order to achieve good results in the new track, I enrolled in Zhejiang University to study Chinese as a foreign language. Just as I was looking forward to a new life, an incident happened, like a slap in the face, and once again knocked me into the abyss.
In 2014, her ex-husband cheated on her and filed for divorce. I suffered and redeemed, but in the end I had to accept the truth and leave the marriage that had broken me.
The marriage broke down, and life still had to go on. Thankfully, we didn't have children, and in the days to come, I put all my energy into improving myself. I know that without strength, there is no dignity and decency.
As Chi Li said, "A person's dignity and decency come from personal struggle. ”
In 2016, at a friend's party, I met a handsome guy. His name is Emile Urus, from Turkey, he is 1.93 meters tall, born in the 90s, and he always looks cynical.
(My husband has raised two children)
At first, I thought he was a playboy, immature, without pattern, and a prodigal son who was not suitable for marriage. Later, after several contacts, I found out that he had a lonely and sensitive heart under his unruly appearance.
His parents divorced when he was very young, and he grew up with his grandparents. Although the two old men gave a lot of love, he actually lacked love in his heart and longed for the warmth of home. And I have experienced the pain of betrayal, and I have always longed for a stable home.
In 2017, two lonely hearts walked together. Soon we returned to Turkey together.
One normal day, I said, "Why don't you go get a permit?" So, we wore T-shirts and slippers and went to a local place similar to the Civil Affairs Bureau.
In Turkey, marriage must be accompanied by a witness. However, at that time, we went to get the license on a whim, and there were no witnesses, no family and friends around, only a group of strangers who also came to get the license, and they heard about our transnational marriage and expressed their blessings.
So, with the blessings of a group of strangers, we simply held a ceremony and got married.
When we got married, we had no house, no car, no job, no bride price, and no formal ceremony, which was a naked marriage in the true sense of the word.
But in my opinion, when two people are together, the wedding is just a ceremony, and in the days to come, the daily bits and pieces of firewood, rice, oil and salt are the tone of happiness.
(We are happy)
As for the material foundation, as long as two people are of one heart and one mind and strive in the same direction together, there will always be something that should be.
And my husband is ten years younger than me, and it is a sister-brother relationship in the secular sense. Therefore, some people question our age difference, but in the process of getting along, age is never an obstacle.
Because in the emotional world, there has never been sister and brother love, old and young love, teacher-student love, etc., all kinds of love, some are just two people who just meet, know, know and love each other, it's as simple as that.
Because I am very uncomfortable with the Turkish diet. In 2017, my husband and I returned to China and opened a supermarket in our hometown with my sister, and the business was very good, with tens of thousands of turnover every month.
In the years that followed, we opened two more and our savings rose to millions.
During this time, I gave birth to two mixed-race babies, a boy and a girl. At that time, I was accompanied by my family, my husband Qin Se and Ming, the children were lively and lovely, and the business was prosperous, and I once felt that life was nothing more than this.
But life is a TV series, and the final plot is never known.
(My two mixed-race babies)
In 2019, when the epidemic hit, the turnover of supermarkets plummeted. In the years that followed, as the pandemic intensified, it was eventually closed due to the inability to operate. Not only have we lost all the savings we have had over the past few years, but we are also millions in debt.
Walking into the trough of life again, I no longer feel sorry for myself, but feel that life is up and down in the ups and downs. After surviving the cold winter of the epidemic, in 2022, I regained my strength, went south to Guangzhou, submitted my resume, looked for a job, and started from scratch.
Eventually, I found a job at a private school in Zhaoqing, Guangdong, teaching English in the third year of high school, and at the same time serving as a class teacher, with an annual salary of 300,000 yuan.
My husband and children followed, and we lived in a small and simple apartment in the school, but the family was happy. I think a place where there is a family is home.
As a class teacher, in the process of contacting the children, I found that the children have a lot of youthful confusion and confusion about the world.
I can't help but think of who I used to be, when I, like them, suffered setbacks, had no direction, and was stuck in the quagmire of emotions. I have a professional language foundation and a wealth of teaching experience. But there is nothing that can be done about the psychological confusion of the children.
(I'm back in class)
I think the most important thing in education is to make each child a whole person, rather than blindly pursuing grades.
In order to help children develop a healthy mindset. I decided to challenge myself again and prepare for the Master of Psychology exam at the age of 43. I am the head teacher of the third year of high school, and I usually have a heavy teaching task, but even so, I still devote myself to my studies without hesitation.
Every morning, I get up at 5 a.m. and start studying, and I gnaw on the difficult psychological terms, little by little. When I thought that I could use what I had learned to help the confused children in the future, I didn't dare to slack off.
In the end, with a score of 402, I was admitted to Beijing Normal University for a master's degree in psychology.
During this period, my husband has been silently supporting me, he has taken care of my two children carefully, so that I can work and study with peace of mind, and he is an indispensable strong backing for me. It can be said that half of his sweat is also in my achievements.
(At 43 years old, I challenge myself again)
Looking back, when I was 18 years old, I failed the college entrance examination and went to a junior college. The 33-year-old ex-husband cheated and was divorced. The 36-year-old married a handsome foreign guy who was 10 years younger and 1.93 meters younger, and gave birth to two mixed-race babies, a boy and a girl. At the age of 40, due to the failure of the epidemic, the business was in debt.
At the age of 41, he found a job with an annual salary of 300,000 yuan, and at the age of 43, he took the master's exam again. After all kinds of struggles and frustrations, I finally lived the life I wanted.
Here, I want to tell the sisters who are at a low point that when you encounter difficulties on the road of life, don't be afraid, don't give up on yourself, don't admit defeat, and don't set limits on life.
Now, outside of my lord and inside the old princess, we work together to run a family and raise two lovely mixed-race babies. When I reach middle age, I feel that life has just begun.
In the future, I will try my best to help my students and be their mentor and friend. I will continue to improve myself if I need to, because in my dictionary, there is never the word "give up".
(Welcome to pay attention to the protagonist of this article "Lao Qin rushes forward")
Just like Wu Zhe said in "Scattering the Wild": "In this life, people may give up many things, many people, but the most terrible thing is to give up on yourself." ”
[Dictation: Qin Ying]
[Editor: Cloud Moon]
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