Psychology: Your personality, predestined at birth, is accurate

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80% of the character, determined by the parents

Parents are their children's first teachers.

When a child is born, his personality genes have not yet been stimulated, and he is a blank sheet of paper;

Parents are the penmen, and what they write and draw on paper will become what their children will become.

“龙生龙，凤生凤，老鼠的孩子会打洞”。

This sentence has two meanings.

First: parents' cognition, pattern, and influence on children

Parents usually speak and do things in a way that teaches their children by word and deed;

Children will subconsciously imitate all the actions of their parents and speak.

Parents have high cognition, are good at socializing, and take their children to participate in various dinners and socialize since they were young;

When this child grows up, there is a high probability that his personality will be "E person".

Parents are not good at talking, and their cognitive pattern is relatively low;

The children who grew up in this family are often "I people", somewhat timid and inferior.

Second: what parents do to their children, children will become

You praise the child, respect the child, and recognize the child;

From childhood to adulthood, children live in an atmosphere of being loved, respected, and encouraged.

His sense of worth, self-esteem, and self-confidence are at a high level.

On the contrary, parents are always belittling, blaming, and hitting their children;

Then in the process of growing up, the child is lacking love, helpless, and inferior.

And character development often becomes a "pleasing personality".

怯弱，患得患失，优柔寡断。

A person's character, from the moment he is born, is influenced by his parents.

In fact, in infancy, the child's character is being shaped.

There's a word called "holding."

When the baby is crying, helpless, and unwell, the timely hug and care of the parents will make the baby feel more secure.

If you lack the care and love of your parents from infancy;

The character of this child when he grows up is also incomplete.

Parents determine the character of their children.

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The three views of parents affect the personality of children

When children are in contact with and exploring the world, they have no concept of right and wrong.

In his eyes, his parents are the most trusted people.

He believes whatever his parents say;

He believed in what his parents taught him;

The three views of parents will affect the child's life.

Parents with sound three views have a sound mind for their children;

Parents with incorrect views will only raise extreme and narrow-minded children.

He does not know what is right and what is wrong, and the basis for a child's judgment of right and wrong comes from the cognition and indoctrination of his parents.

When the parents say it's right, the child thinks it's right.

The cultivation and pattern of parents determine the cultivation and character of children;

The education that parents give to their children determines the character of their children.

You will find a very wonderful, interesting, and fully manifesting phenomenon of genetic power:

In a family, the character of the oldest person is the shadow of the younger generations of the family.

What kind of character is this elder, and what are his three views;

The juniors who stayed with him were basically what they were like.

Fight against your parents' genes and personalities, either by studying, or by staying away from your parents and working outside alone.

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The family environment makes a person's character

In "The Legend of the Condor Heroes", Guo Jing and Yang Kang are typical examples.

If it weren't for that accident, the fate of Yang Kang and Guo Jing might be as deep as their father's feelings.

Hunting cattle and sheep, returning home to the wife and children hot kang head, in the yard to learn martial arts, around the stove to drink wine and eat meat.

An accident in Niujia Village changed the fate and character of Yang Guo and Guo Jing.

Yang Kang became a little prince, and Guo Jing became a fatherless child.

Yang Kang is above 10,000 people in the palace, and the people around him are all flattering to him.

Guo Jing's mother taught Guo Jing to be a good person, to be chivalrous, and to be worthy of the conscience of heaven and earth.

Yang Kang has lived in the doting of "his father is full of beauty and fierceness" since he was a child, and when he finally met his biological father, he still didn't want to admit that the raunchy old man would be his father.

Even if he bears the name of recognizing a thief as his father, he is not willing to give up his glory and wealth.

Look at Guo Jing again, he is in Mongolia, but he thinks that he is a Han and a citizen of the Great Song Dynasty, and he will go back sooner or later.

Guo Jing's loyalty and chivalrous righteousness were influenced by his mother and the Seven Monsters of Jiangnan.

Right is right, wrong is wrong, and right and wrong must be clearly distinguished.

The environment in which he lived since he was a child has created two extreme personalities of Guo Jing and Yang Kang.

Reading more can change your character;

Breaking away from the unfortunate family of origin and getting rid of the narrow cognition of parents can also change personality;

Walking outside more and experiencing more beatings from society can also change your personality.

Although it is impossible to completely change the personality, it is still possible to control the personality and emotions.

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A person's character is basically predestined from birth, do you agree?

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