Two seemingly opposing phenomena of family education.
Yesterday I talked to a friend about the impact of homeschooling on a person. My friend found that so-and-so's house was very neatly organized, and all kinds of items were neatly placed and spotless. It's not because I deliberately clean it at the end of the year, but I usually keep it well. In the words of the hostess, it didn't take much to sort it out casually, the key was to see where it was messed up, and I felt uncomfortable.
The hostess said that since childhood, her mother was strict, not allowed to litter, toys should be returned to their places after playing, and used things should be sorted out and kept clean at all times.
In fact, this is also the content of labor education in schools, but although schools are inspected every day and teachers are cleaned every day, it is difficult for students to develop good hygiene habits, and the root cause may be related to the education received at home.
There are young parents who think that everything is good according to natural development, there is no place to stand at home, there are things everywhere on the sofa, on the table, and on the ground.
But there is another view on family education, that is, "a clever girl raises a clumsy girl." "A mother is ingenious and capable, but her daughter is clumsy and incompetent, which is a huge contrast with her mother. First, the mother was too capable to let the woman do any work, so she finished it; second, because she was too capable, she found that her daughter was not doing a satisfactory job, so she simply let her hide aside. Both of these reasons inhibit the growth of the daughter. And some mothers who don't seem to be very conspicuous, their daughters are often very good.
These two seemingly contradictory phenomena actually reveal two laws of family education. The first is to form good habits. Pay attention to children's behavior and habits, and have certain standards, these standards parents should tell their children, and set an example, ask their children to do what they do, and resolutely do it themselves. Even if the behavior is more demanding, children can easily complete it under the influence of their parents, slowly form habits, and use them for a lifetime.
Second, be sure to give your child the opportunity to learn. Only standards are not enough, general requirements are not enough, and children should be allowed to practice them themselves. It doesn't matter if you don't do it well, parents should be patient and wait, encourage, and wait for the flowers to bloom. Parents should have a goal in mind, and this goal is how to bring the child up, not just to complete the family affairs. Parents should be caring people for their children's growth, let their children continue to practice, and improve their abilities in practice, then "Qiao Niang" will also cultivate "Qiao Girl".
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