It seems like every day there are worries, and everyone has worries.
Whether you are a dignitary or a worker, you don't feel easy and unsatisfactory.
How can I let go of my worries?
Lu Xiang, the prime minister of the Tang Dynasty, first had a mantra: "There are not so many rights and wrongs in the world, and the mediocre people themselves are uneasy, so there are many rights and wrongs." If you can start cleaning up from the source of the heart, then things in the world will be much easier. ”
According to his mantra, later generations formed a proverb: "There is nothing in the world, and mediocrity disturbs itself." ”
Some people pondered it for a while, and it became an idiom: "Mediocrity disturbs itself." ”
It turns out that all the troubles are found by myself, and they are just cocooned and bound by themselves. Let yourself go, and your troubles will be gone.
01
The human heart desires a lot and does not ask.
Lu Xiangxian's ancestors were all scholars and officials, so he studied since he was a child.
After being admitted to the Jinshi, he served as a member of the army in Yangzhou.
The officials were ready to promote him, so they first went to ask for the advice of his father Lu Yuanfang. At this time, Lu Yuanfang was also working in the Ministry of Officials, and he felt that he wanted to avoid suspicion, so he denied it.
Princess Taiping, who holds great power, wants to promote Cui Xiang as prime minister, but Cui Xiang does not accept it, and at the same time asks to promote Lu Xiang to be the prime minister.
After thinking about it, Princess Taiping promoted Cui Xiang and Lu Xiangxian to prime minister.
For a while, everyone paid attention to Lu Xiangxian, and many people suggested that his relationship with Princess Taiping should go further, on the one hand, it is the grace of knowing the encounter, and on the other hand, it is to better grasp the power.
Lu Xiangxian has always been neither humble nor arrogant, just working diligently. There was no surprise at the change in position.
Cui Xiang praised this: "Like the ancestors, it is advisable to be close to the center." Lu Gong is first-class. ”
No man is content. When a person is controlled by desires, it is a daily annoyance. After all, this mountain looks at that mountain high, and it will always have an unattainable height.
When you were a child, you thought it would be good to live in the county seat, but later, when you arrived in the provincial capital, you still felt that it was not good enough, because it was not a first-tier city.
When you were a child, you saw 10,000 households in the village, and you were very envious - if you had 10,000 yuan, you would laugh when you lay down. But you have hundreds of thousands today, and you are still depressed, because the money seems to be too little.
The desire for love is also an annoyance. Look at Ximenqing, the days of three wives and four concubines are not enough, you have to go to the Qinglou to see.
Remember, no desire is rigid. If you lower your desires, you will immediately be one level higher than the person next to you. It's a step back, the sea and the sky.
02
People are terrible and ignore it.
Lu Xiang was an official first, and he has always disciplined his subordinates in a benevolent and righteous way, and he is also very tolerant of the mistakes of his subordinates.
However, some people have no fear because of this, and talk about Lu Xiangxian's "weakness" behind their backs.
One of the soldiers said, "I can spin the wat board in front of the hall, stare at it, raise my eyebrows and give it to the envoy." ”
Another soldier said, "I can dance in front of the envoy's hall with a black face and a green cloth cloth, and pretend to be a god." ”
What's more, Lu Xiangxian is compared to a woman.
When Lu Xiangxian's younger brother heard this, he was very angry and made a suggestion: "Brother, you are a big official, why did you become a laughing stock." ”
Lu Xiangxian replied slowly: "It's those young people who join the army and it's a laughing stock, how can it be me?"
Some subordinates suggested that disobedient officials should be punished with canes.
Lu Xiang said first: "It's okay, let's start with you." ”
Suddenly, the subordinate stopped talking.
No matter whether you do well or not, the people around you have different opinions.
People who like you, give you thumbs up, and even flattery. When you listen to it, you will flutter, but then you will doubt yourself if it is really that good.
People who hate you will directly pick thorns and talk nonsense behind your back, and if you listen to it, you will pierce your heart. If you retaliate, it will turn the relationship between people into a miasma, and it will be very painful.
The tongue is like a sword. If you ignore it, then the sword won't hurt you. The distance between people's hearts makes the other party beyond the reach of the whip.
Others can't control their own mouths, and they talk nonsense, because other people's mouths have become crooked. If you refute and scold, your mouth will be crooked. You ignore it, you don't do anything, but you have the great wisdom of doing nothing.
03
People come and go, don't care.
For a time, Princess Taiping had the intention of abolishing the emperor.
Lu Xiang was first promoted by Princess Taiping, but actively opposed it.
When Princess Taiping fell, the emperor wanted to liquidate his gang, and Lu Xiangxian also stood up against it, after all, it was important to stabilize the overall situation.
It seems that he is a two-faced person, but in fact he acts impartially, not because of personal feelings, corrupt and perverted the law, and does not cheat because he meets an opponent.
The minister Fang Xuan and Dang Fen had a holiday, and they both went to Lu Xiangxian to complain, and they both thought that they were justified. Lu Xiang did not evaluate first.
After a while, Fang Xuan met Lu Xiangxian again and became silent. Lu Xiangxian recommended Fang Xuan for the reason: "Now he can do it without saying anything, so he is promoted." ”
Tang Ruizong Li Dan praised: "Zi Neng Shao is a sage." ”
In the workplace, people have to have intricate relationships with colleagues, relatives and friends, etc., and if you want to balance the relationship, you will definitely embarrass yourself.
If you are accustomed to using system management and learn to use rules to do things, it will be much easier.
For capable people, as a boss, it is your job duty to help them, and when you encounter a bad person, you criticize a few words, which is also work. Don't always save face.
It is because people are "embarrassed" that they have always been difficult for themselves and thus troubled. Favors aside, it's fine.
Even if it is the exchange of gifts from relatives and friends, don't balance it, otherwise you will find that you have always had a love debt and can't afford to pay it back. According to the rules of courtesy and affection, you feel much better, and whatever you send each other is affection and priceless.
The last thing you want to do is to shield others because of your feelings, resulting in corruption and bending the law, which is a lifelong trouble. If the rules are in place and the implementation is in place, you will be relieved.
04
Writer Lin Qingxuan said: "Nine times out of ten, things are unsatisfactory in life. Always think about one or two, don't think about eight or nine, everything goes well. ”
People have ears, mouths, noses, eyes, and skin, and they can collect a lot of information, release a lot of information, and generate a lot of emotions, and this is the root cause of trouble.
Therefore, when we accept information, we must also know how to block information.
Open your heart, everything outside will come in, close the door of your heart, everything outside has nothing to do with you.
Smart people, between opening and closing the door, learn to make trade-offs.
Let the world develop naturally and let yourself go with the flow.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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